Think About It
Compliment vs. Money
This question may be harder to answer than it seems.
A segment on the television program Good Morning America this morning prompted me to ask this question. Would you rather receive a compliment for a job well done, or a few dollars? Keep in mind we aren't talking about a million bucks here; maybe $5.00 or $10.00.
Which makes you feel better? Would you rather be praised or paid? Would you rather hear that you looked nice, or be bought a nice lunch?
Would it depend on your mood? If you were feeling down, do you think a pat on the back would make you feel better than enough cash for a cup of coffee?
After considering this for a while I thought I decided that a compliment is nice but money might be more useful
After thinking on it a bit longer I realized that I do love it when I receive a nice compliment, especially on my Squidoo lenses.
I'll give you my final conclusion at the end of this lens. But first . . .
Tell Me What You Think?
I'm interested in knowing what everyone else thinks about this. Please share your thoughts here.
Which do you prefer, a compliment or a little money? And Why?
Fetching blurbs now... please stand byFlattery Will Get You Everywhere.
Well_I_will_be_MOGADORED says:
I would like a little money, but flattery really makes your day, and if the flatterER hires you again, you have more chances!!!:)
Posted July 19, 2008
Kristina Laumer says:
praise works for me if it is REAl, praise when you have done a average or below average job is counter productive for me, it make me doubt the person and then everything they say to me after than, and it makes me feel there is no point in trying to improve or work any harder
Posted July 10, 2008
collegephysics12 says:
I need compliment rather then money, because compliment is mean a lot to me than money. If my quality work is giving me some better compliment & that turn towards through my own a then I can except.
Posted July 07, 2008
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thakidinme says:
Recognition for your efforts is 'priceless'. Money is short term, positive feedback can touch, sometimes change, someone's life forever.
Posted June 23, 2008
ElizabethJeanAllen says:
It depends on what its for. If I offered, a thanks is enough. If its something I didn't want to do, a card or some show of thanks beyond words is nice.
Posted June 21, 2008
Pantherart says:
Compliments can sometimes make you perform better then money can.
Yes I say a good compliment is better then money, it can make you feel better and when you feel better you do better in any area of life. And then the money will come.
Posted May 30, 2008
MarcEdwards says:
I'll take the compliment. I don't need a money handout. Besides... compliments are uplifting and depending on the type of day you're having, a compliment will only make it better.
Posted May 21, 2008
Miksas says:
A cheesy compliment is seen as flattery. Why not speak the language that EVERYONE never misunderstands: in Jacksons and Benjamins ;) Give 'em to me!
Anyway, as the saying(or cliche')goes "The best things in life are free". Hey, wait, that would be a great lens!
Posted May 19, 2008
Spook says:
In my experience I've never had either.However having said that at times I've employed up to 200 people and have always felt complimenting a member of my staff on a job well done,however trivial goes a long way to improving overall staff morale.They are getting paid to do the job in the first place,but if I'm really pleased with them and their consistency then I will increase there salary.Everybody needs a leg up.I'll go for a compliment
Posted May 19, 2008
Show Me the Money!
thekidsrule says:
The payment is the praise. If someone pays you, then they think you or what you offer is worth the money.
Posted July 22, 2008
ivylorraine says:
i will chose both...i want to be complimented and make money at the same time....in this kind of life today many people would chose money over compliment....then why not have both...
Posted July 22, 2008
GaryHarvey says:
Praise is good. It's affirming and empowering. But they dont yet accept compliments at the checkout desk of the trading establishments I visit, so give me money - thanks!
Posted July 03, 2008
JigsawForte says:
Compliments help, but a kind word is an end in and of itself; Money, on the other hand, is an incentive to try and earn more.
When it comes to my websites, I need both, but money is much more proof of a good job done than a hollow word.
Posted June 29, 2008
thrivingmom says:
I have 2 in diapers and quit my job to stay at home. So, I'll take the money!
Posted June 28, 2008
InspiredWritingResearch says:
Paid,paid,paid please. (I have kids! And some of them are teens, say no more!) Forget the kudos and just give us the pay for the ever-tightening household budget!
Posted June 28, 2008
Margaret_Schaut says:
I like both, and I attempt to contribute as much as possible of what I have in free time and assistance. Sooner or later, though, the mortgage comes due, the cupboard is bare, and at that point compliments make little difference- especially when it becomes overly stressful. A balance of both keeps them both appreciated as they should be. Otherwise, one can feel used, which is NEVER a good feeling and compliments don't help, at that point.
Posted June 24, 2008
The Study That Prompted the Conversation
By Julie Steenhuysen
CHICAGO, April 23 (Reuters) - Paying people a compliment appears to activate the same reward center in the brain as paying them cash, Japanese researchers said on Wednesday.
They said the study offers scientific support for the long-held assumption that people get a psychological boost from having a good reputation.
"We found that these seemingly different kinds of rewards -- a good reputation versus money -- are biologically coded by the same neural structure, the striatum," said Dr. Norihiro Sadato of the Japanese National Institute for Physiological Sciences in Okazaki, Japan.
"This provides the biological basis of our everyday experience that personal reputation is felt as rewards," Sadato said in an e-mail.
Sadato's team studied 19 healthy people using a brain imaging technique known as functional magnetic resonance imaging, or fMRI.
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On the Other Hand
What if it were a large sum of money? Say $50.00 or $100.00?
Would you still feel the same?
Fetching blurbs now... please stand byNothing anyone could say to me would be worth more than a hundred bucks. I'll take the money!
AdamTaha says:
Like I said, money pays the bills, runs the gas and so on. I like both thanks. Sometimes praise is good but action speaks louder e.g money.
Posted July 20, 2008
ElizabethJeanAllen says:
If they were asking for my professional expertize, money matters. I don't like being taken advantage of.
Posted June 21, 2008
ernestine says:
I get compliments all the time, on my artwork, kindness, parenting, intelligence, style sense, and even appearance. But talk is cheap. . . nothing else is these days. Not meaning to be a cynic, but, a smile and a "job well done," just doesn't fit in the gas tank! It doesn't mean ,though, that I will stop giving out compliments and encouragement as well as graciously accept them. The currency of good will still goes a long way.
Posted May 10, 2008
LeslieBrenner says:
Compliments are very nice and always welcome. But money will pay the bills.
Posted May 05, 2008
famousmortimer says:
If it were a large sum of money, I would take it in a heartbeat. It would make my life easier, much moreso than a compliment. So yeah, that does change my answer.
Posted April 26, 2008
spirituality says:
I'll take the cash, thank you! But I'm sure it's relative - Oprah would probably rather have the money.
Posted April 25, 2008
chefkeem says:
Currently, the cash value of compliments runs between $3.95 and $8.60...
Posted April 25, 2008
jeffwend says:
It might depend on who the words are coming from, but nine times out of ten, that cash bonus does a good job of complementing you.
Posted April 24, 2008
A really nice compliment is worth more than any amount of money!
alicia666 says:
I probably go for both. Money & Praise. If we have money and no complements from anybody. It's of waste. Sameway, if getting praised and no money is earned, then what's the use? There will not be any status for life. According to me both are needed.
Posted July 23, 2008
thakidinme says:
as in yes, i would feel the same. i try not to be materialistic or shallow. Life should be deeper and more meaningful than that. If you are speaking in terms of a tip, that is considered wages for services rendered, that's different.
Posted June 23, 2008
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Posted April 26, 2008
fefe says:
As long as it was a REALLY nice compliment.... but if we started getting into the millions I might have to switch sides and be a sell out. :)
Posted April 24, 2008
Does Money Make You Smile?
Something Else to Consider
How about when it comes to your job? Would you rather be promoted in name only or is money the only way to your heart at work?
Would you rather receive a great title or a raise?
Fetching blurbs now... please stand byGive me the title. It makes me feel important!
I'll take the money over a title anytime!
ElizabethJeanAllen says:
I've got a title and wear too many hats alreadt. Give me the money.
Posted June 21, 2008
Grasshoppa says:
ESPECIALLY at work. I go there to earn a living, and if I can't earn enough of one to pay the bills, it's time to move on. Even if the boss gives me a shiny new title.
Posted May 05, 2008
Jimmie says:
Titles are a dime a dozen. The raise shows that your role is important despite the title.
Posted April 25, 2008
mulberry says:
Money over title. I've had lots of great titles, heaps of praise, but in the end if it didn't result in money then I assume my employers were just being deceptive. My life isn't really about money, but when you work for someone that is the purpose. I no longer need others to make me feel good about myself. (I need others of course, but I simply know when I've done a good job) Things are different of course in non-employment situations.
Posted April 25, 2008