I'm interested in knowing what everyone else thinks about this. Please share your thoughts here.
Which do you prefer, a compliment or a little money? And Why?
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Tahamtan says:
It was so obvious for me I didn't think anybody goes for the other option but it seems it is not so obvious after all. Interesting...! I go for praise.
Posted June 06, 2009
destination-beach-wedding-dress says:
If I get praised then I will have the confidence to get the job that pays!
Posted June 05, 2009
nataliejoan says:
Praised. What good is a few bucks? Praise will motivate me to keep going, and make the real money.
Posted April 16, 2009
keepitreal12 says:
People think that money can get you everything. It can't give you a family!
Posted April 06, 2009
Blackchai says:
I'm self motivated, therefore don't need to praised by others. I get more out of giving the money to someone who needs it more that I do.
Posted March 21, 2009
Jesterzusmc says:
Unless I'm working for tips, I'd much rather be appreciated than paid-off.
Posted March 04, 2009
BlindOptimism says:
If it's only £5 or £10 then I'd rather be praised everytime. It shows you actually matter - you actually mean something to people.
However, increase that reward and the line becomes thinner. £50, for example? I could use that...in that case, I can get all the praise I need from my friends ;)
Posted March 03, 2009
Metalchic says:
Compliments in front of your peers and a talking me up to the team/dept/managers is much better!
Posted February 13, 2009
Forrest_Lamb says:
it's subjective. i would rather make a little money while feeling good about it. if it didn't feel good to make the money, i wouldn't want the money.
Posted February 13, 2009
GeoDitton says:
I really do need money but $5 is probably about £4 at the moment, I could get 2, possibly 3 big bars of chocolate with that, it wouldn't even cover my weekly installment for my TV license. It depends purely on circumstance of course, if I took the compliment and then walked on and found I was £1 short of buying something I needed then I'd feel a bit stupid.
Compliments really feel good especially if it's from somebody you respect or who is considered an expert. Of course in an ideal world I'd be given both (actually in an ideal world I wouldn't need the money and so I'd only take the compliment). But that small amount of money, they either have no other money to spare, in which case why take it from them when they need it or they are just really stingy in which case who cares about them anyway. I'd definitely rather have a compliment than nothing and if it's a case of money or nothing then they obviously don't actually like what you've done and are only trying to shut you up with the money.
Posted February 03, 2009
Trebor43 says:
if the amount is very small, I would rather have the pat on the back. Money is NOTthe most important thing inmy life.
Posted January 28, 2009
lawrie2904 says:
I would prefer a compliment because for most people, that is a much harder thing to give than money and therefore it would mean more to both myself and them.
Posted January 25, 2009
TinkerM says:
Everyone likes to be told they are doing good, unfortunately in todays times there is never enough time to help anyone unless we want something in return. But to answer the question... I believe what you give you get back so hey give a compliment and watch what happens..or two or three.
Posted January 16, 2009
Pastiche says:
I like to get an atta girl. As a manager I tried to make sure I let people know I realized they were doing a good job and I appreciated their accomplishments, even when I could not give them a salary increase. It costs nothing but time, and means so much.
Posted December 26, 2008
cryptid says:
5-10 dollars is not worth anything in the long run, that might by a family a pizza. In this context I'd preference the compliments. I'm not exactly materialistic, but I do enjoy both compliments and money as money allows me to do things I can not do (concerts, movies, etc). Theres reasons beyond just having cash to want money. Eh, I'm most in the middle!
Posted December 18, 2008
dollys says:
I'M A FAN OF THE GOOD BOOK! YOU KNOW THE (BIBLE) AND IT SAY'S THAT A MAN WILL BE JUDGE BY EVERY IDLE WORD THAT COME OUT OF HIS MOUTH. I REALLY WOULD TAKE THE KIND WORDS OVER THE MONEY, BECAUSE THING LOSE THIER VALUE REALLY QUICK,BUT THE BIBLE SAY'S A WORD SPOKEN IN A TIMELY MANNER IS LIKE APPLES OF GOLD IN A CUP OF SILVER!!! NOW WHAT CAN TOP THAT!!! NAMESTEE=THE GOD IN ME ACKNOWLEDGES THE GOD IN YOU!!!
Posted December 13, 2008
CreativePigpen says:
Someone selecting my jewelry and paying for it is a HUGE compliment right there! Compliments warm my heart though. I must say a compliment lasts for a long time and feeds your soul and your creativity.
Posted December 11, 2008
TessaGreen says:
Oooh .. This is a hard one. Depends on so many things.Okay taking it as read that the compliment is sincere, it is very hard to put a monetary value on a compliment. It has huge knock-on effects on your self-esteem, on the people you interact with, that day, and on the people they come into contact with. A compliment is priceless. On the other hand, we all need money for our basic needs. If you and yours have nowhere to sleep tonight, no amount of compliments will make that better. So it would depend on how close to the bread line I am. If I am within sight of that line, I am inhaling those pennies without a second thought.
Right now, I am humbled and enormously grateful that I can choose the luxury of a warm, sincere compliment.
Posted December 04, 2008
Cari_Kay says:
I really enjoy when somebody tells them I've helped them in some way. So, I guess that would tilt me toward the compliment side.
Posted November 16, 2008
sewphisticate says:
Extra cash is nice and all, but I need to hear that I am doing well. When I am told I am doing well, I work harder and strive to do even better. I won't do that for a couple extra dollars here and there. Now, if you were talking about a significant amount of money, then I might think differently. But a few dollars in no way competes with the power surge I get from being told I've done well.
Posted October 12, 2008
Tipi says:
A store that I go to hired a very good looking man. He was having trouble with the cash register, and admitted out loud that my beauty distracked him. Then, every time I went there, his smile would get even bigger when he seen me. It was nice to be appreciated for beauty. I walked on air for weeks!
I don't think I would have felt the same if he gave me some money, since I still don't know him. He has stopped coming on to me. So, maybe money would be ok, now! lol!
Posted September 29, 2008
MiaD says:
both, if it is a survival matter
praise, if there is something i do by going the extra mile
paid, if is something i must do, but no enjoyment included
Posted September 16, 2008
CraigMiller says:
A compliment. If you do a good job on something it's always nice to hear that someone appreciated what you did. If you're good at it you will get paid but a compliment is a barometer to let you know where you stand.
Posted September 16, 2008
JGramble says:
A Compliment. I work for Disney, and we don't generally don't do it for the money. Its the happiness, the interaction, and the "magic" that we experience every day. A couple bucks can certainly help with mundane things, like gas prices, but a compliment always seems to brighten the day a bit.
Posted September 06, 2008
opalship says:
My reason for starting a blog was neither!
It is to remedy yet another American travesty, operating under a guise of public services, and their damages and injustice to people, our valuable ecosystem and environment.
I observed on Squidoo.com that it also is income to many people, thats fine.
My blog offered rewards, so that places it at the exact opposite end of your spectrum.
Meaning it is merely "Doing the right thing for sake of it," being , "THE RIGHT THING TO DO."
Positive ecological results is the only reward sought.
I can understand the need to be paid for effort.
Perhaps I should consider placing our business banners on my efforts to excuse my lengthy lapses from work it causes?
Forced to opt to a side, I elect the non monetary here for the present.
Posted September 02, 2008
kevinflatt says:
A compliment is a reflection of your self-worth and recognition for your work. Praise rather than a little money.
Posted August 29, 2008
Lien says:
Compliments are really good if praising your efforts and money is great if you are being paid for doing something. For my Lenses I prefer compliments.
Posted August 26, 2008
Joan4 says:
I immediately thought of the many days that a happy comment on one of my lenses gives me the encouragement I need to create one more. There is great power in praise; hopefully the money will follow.
Posted August 20, 2008
ArtByLinda says:
It is amazing what a good compliment can do for a person. Some of the best supervisors I have worked for have taken the time to say "You did a great job on that" or "You work so hard, what would I do without you"!. You can pay someone all the money in the world, but unless you use money as a sort of compliment (kind of like squidoo does) than your workers still may not be satisfied, will work less.
Posted August 19, 2008
shynab56 says:
I like to be complemented because being what we are, especially if we're positively complemented serve as our initial investment in life. hence, money will no longer be our problem.
Posted August 13, 2008
transfatfree says:
If you're talking praise vs. a minor amount of money, assuming I'm not starving/desperate, praise all the way. I think being appreciated is worth so much in my well-being/self esteem. In the same way that I took a pay cut from my job for other perks - flexible hours, no commute, I'd rather be paid less by someone who treats me well and values my contributions than bought off by someone less appreciative. Just my .02. Oh, wait. You aren't going to give me .02 for this, are you?
Posted August 07, 2008
LibbyGudzdesign says:
gosh, i really could use the money, but i think in the long run a compliment (or two or three perhaps) can make more of a difference.
Posted August 05, 2008
jhanztheron says:
I'd say I want to be praised. Well, praise eventually will lead to pay. Like in a job if a tap in my back is consistent I know I will be promoted sooner and so I get a higher pay. Thta's both sentimental and practical.
Posted August 04, 2008
shynab56 says:
I like both, though i like to leave a legacy. This is my ultimate goal in life, to have a legacy...but, to be praise for what I am, I doubt! Only God is entitled for this. I know that being a better person will open another door for success and that success will showers us complement and money. They go together I know!
Posted August 01, 2008
Well_I_will_be_MOGADORED says:
I would like a little money, but flattery really makes your day, and if the flatterER hires you again, you have more chances!!!:)
Posted July 19, 2008
Kristina Laumer says:
praise works for me if it is REAl, praise when you have done a average or below average job is counter productive for me, it make me doubt the person and then everything they say to me after than, and it makes me feel there is no point in trying to improve or work any harder
Posted July 10, 2008
thakidinme says:
Recognition for your efforts is 'priceless'. Money is short term, positive feedback can touch, sometimes change, someone's life forever.
Posted June 23, 2008
ElizabethJeanAllen says:
It depends on what its for. If I offered, a thanks is enough. If its something I didn't want to do, a card or some show of thanks beyond words is nice.
Posted June 21, 2008
Pantherart says:
Compliments can sometimes make you perform better then money can.
Yes I say a good compliment is better then money, it can make you feel better and when you feel better you do better in any area of life. And then the money will come.
Posted May 30, 2008
MarcEdwards says:
I'll take the compliment. I don't need a money handout. Besides... compliments are uplifting and depending on the type of day you're having, a compliment will only make it better.
Posted May 21, 2008
Miksas says:
A cheesy compliment is seen as flattery. Why not speak the language that EVERYONE never misunderstands: in Jacksons and Benjamins ;) Give 'em to me!
Anyway, as the saying(or cliche')goes "The best things in life are free". Hey, wait, that would be a great lens!
Posted May 19, 2008
Spook says:
In my experience I've never had either.However having said that at times I've employed up to 200 people and have always felt complimenting a member of my staff on a job well done,however trivial goes a long way to improving overall staff morale.They are getting paid to do the job in the first place,but if I'm really pleased with them and their consistency then I will increase there salary.Everybody needs a leg up.I'll go for a compliment
Posted May 19, 2008
scrapdiva says:
I would feel much better receiving a compliment for a job well done rather than money, in my eyes while money is nice, praise is priceless.
Posted May 16, 2008
jmurphy says:
Although we could all do with a little more money, praise really feels good and the effects probably last a lot longer than a couple of pounds or dollars. On the otherhand - it all depends on how many zeros are involved here.
Posted May 09, 2008
Susan52 says:
After thinking about this a lot, I agree with gabi_kiana that the praise sticks with you a lot longer than the money, which is soon long gone and forgotten. I certainly wouldn't turn down the money, though, if it was offered.
Posted May 08, 2008
emre says:
i prefer a compliment and enough money :) because be praised and be paid,all of them good..
Posted May 08, 2008
LisaLogan says:
These aren't necessarily mutually exclusive. After all, payment IS a form of thanks for a job well done, whereas we refer to the term "paying" someone a compliment. Still, I think our society places far too much emphasis on the Almighty Dollar, which we largely equate with the Search For More Useless Stuff. Give me heartfelt thanks any day. Sure, I need some of 'da green to survive, I'm hoping that becomes less and less necessary as I turn to more sustainable habits.
Posted April 27, 2008
famousmortimer says:
Money is a compliment, I agree with that theory. And I am a poor mofo so every cent means a lot to me. But really, I do what I do because I want people (well, certain people) to like me and appreciate me. So I side with compliments, but only slightly.
Posted April 26, 2008
gabi_kiana says:
Praised, praised, praised! Money comes and goes but to feel good about something you did is unbeatable!
Posted April 26, 2008
spirituality says:
Money feeds the tummy, praise (when sincere) feeds the mind to make you feel good about yourself. As long as the tummy has what it needs, praise just makes my day.
Posted April 25, 2008
fefe says:
This is a tough one. I noticed that I am in a better mood when someone compliments me so I will just go with that. However, I'm also in a good mood when the bills are paid. Hmmm... I'll just stick with a compliment because it's nice to be appreciated and money isn't everything.
Posted April 24, 2008
EelKat says:
My first response is praise. I love to know I did something good, made someones day, or otherwise made a difference in the world. It inspires me to try to do more and be better next time.
Money is not much of a motivator to me, never has been. An example of that would be in the late 1980's when someone offered me $5,000 cash for my car. I turned them down. That car has been in my family since it was new, he is part of family now, I will never sell him. A few weeks ago, yet another man, came up to me and asked, "How much money would it take to get you to sell that car?"... my answer was this ... "If you paid me 12 million cash for that car, I'd turn around and use the entire 12 million to buy it back, money has no value to me, other than the things I could buy with it, and when I already have the thing I'd buy with the money, why would I sell that thing to get more money, just so I would have to buy it back?"
Praise works wonders on me. Money, does nothing for me.
Posted April 24, 2008
Greekgeek says:
Praise, but not empty praise. I like to know what I'm doing is worthwhile and really made a difference to someone. After I've posted a story or piece that I've spent days, maybe weeks on, trying to nail that dialog or provide an interesting page on some obscure subject, I want to know someone got out of it what I was trying to put into it. So when I get feedback and comments like "kewl stuff" or "nice lens" or "good work," I very much appreciate the compliment and the effort someone made to leave feedback, but feel crestfallen -- after all that work, I can't tell if I actually achieved my goal.
On the other hand, a token $5 or $10 doesn't tell me much either!
Posted April 24, 2008
bdkz says:
My answer is a little more complcated, but basically praise is more inportant. http://bdkz.typepad.com/cowabunga/2008/04/would-you-rathe.html
Posted April 24, 2008
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BestTeethWhiteningProducts says:
What's wrong with the people here who would rather be praised? This is America, so I would rather be paid. You can take your compliments and shove it! I would much rather have someone buy me a good lunch than hear that I look nice. I don't care how I look, but I do care about good food and not being hungry. If your boss gives you some more money you weren't expecting, then he/she doesn't need to tell you, "good job," because you'll know you're doing a good job.
Posted June 05, 2009
cjsysreform says:
Compliments can be confusing. Sometimes it's hard to tell whether a compliment is genuine or not, and if it turns out not to be, then you end up having to deal with this person who thinks you're going to give them something in return... whether you want to or not. Money is a lot more straightforward.
Posted June 03, 2009
DMarieLittle says:
Being paid money is part of being praised for your accomplishment. Though money is not everything it has its place.
Posted May 26, 2009
RickCarter says:
We don't have to choose one over the other. Money - being paid is praise. Someone thought enough of the value you created to give you value they created. We need to ditch the idea that there is money on one side on happiness on the other. Being paid money is always a positive thing.
Posted May 21, 2009
Maxius says:
I'd say money because that says as much as a compliment coming from someone that finds it hard to say good and encouraging things to others
Posted May 15, 2009
BrianWelch says:
I would rather be paid, I am confident in what I do, I don't need compliments to feel good about it
Posted April 23, 2009
Treasures-By-Brenda says:
There's no reason why you cannot be paid and receive a compliment.
Posted April 15, 2009
peterzeller says:
I do what I do for the money...being well-paid implies you're good at it; this is my compliments...
Posted April 14, 2009
Soul-Mate says:
Well for me money is a sign that you're worth a compliment. That's why there#s such a thing as tithing and tipping. After a waiter has served you well you give him a tip - makes me feel good and him know that you really mean it - when you say thanks for the excellent service.
Posted April 14, 2009
BleuMoonsAttic says:
Well, being an "I want it all" type of person, I wanted to choose both, but that wasn't an option. :)
Flattery is great, but after awhile you get to the point where you say "enough! if I'm doing such a great job, Show me the money" LOL....
Posted April 09, 2009
sumosalesman says:
I can't hand a compliment to a doctor for a physical, pay down my college debts or eat it.
Posted March 28, 2009
divacratus says:
Hmmm. Flattery will get you nowhere actually. It just makes you feel good whereas if you get a lil money you feel good plus you can buy stuff with it!
Posted March 25, 2009
laugheveryday says:
Paid. Praise, while nice and appreciated, doesn't pay the bills.
Posted February 28, 2009
PaulG2 says:
Who cares about compliments, they won't feed my family. Money on the other hand is all good.
Posted February 23, 2009
kiwisoutback says:
Show me the money! Compliments are great, I love getting them, but I didn't join Squidoo to get compliments -- I did it to make money (and drive traffic, which is indirectly kind of like money). Compliments can only get you so far, then, you really do need the money.
Posted February 23, 2009
vyrnlp says:
A little money.Because I can't afford therapy,And I need therapy desperatley.
Posted January 21, 2009
fatesoverated says:
Money talks, and it says: great job!
Posted January 21, 2009
goldenecho says:
Honestly, it depends on the situation (like a compliment from my husband means more than being taken out to dinner) cause I know he doesn't say things he doesn't mean. But my first thought on this was regarding my artwork. It's very easy for someone to say "Oh, that's pretty" or "I like that" when I show them something, but when I see that a design is selling I KNOW that people like it enough to pay for it, so that's more substantial to me that people just saying they like it, which they might just do to be nice.
Posted January 15, 2009
asishnair says:
i prefer money because with a compliment you get the
satisfaction for that moment or for a dew days.after all we are human
we will after some days think it would have great if they have given me money instead because it would have been useful in my day today life.Sir its a real world and everyone needs money and with it someone gets a little complement for that work then it would definitely encourage to work more harder.Hope i am not hurting anyones feelings.
Posted January 12, 2009
Mbizo says:
Money, every time. Money, unless it's counterfeit, is positive. It's in your hand. You can believe in it. Praise can be false and while it's nice to have a bit of appreciation, it really can't take the place of loot!
Posted December 31, 2008
MariaB says:
a compliment honey! I praise myself, especially if I have a few dollars in my pocket.
Posted December 18, 2008
rubinabakshi says:
Mix of both. Without compliment i would not be motivated to write & with out money-well nothing is for free in this world.
Posted December 15, 2008
Iris says:
I guess i would rather have the money. By recieving the little bonus bucks here and there I will know that my good work, positive attitue, or stunning appearence is appreciated.
Posted November 27, 2008
Sojournseeker says:
Actually I can get further materialistically with cash and holidays on the way but actually whats more important is getting further spiritually and psychologically in which the compliment is the confirmation we seek.
Posted November 13, 2008
Margo_Arrowsmith says:
They are both important. However, I don't want to see a compliment being used in place of money. It is then too easy to manipulate people. I have seen that happen too often.
Posted November 09, 2008
CoachBrown says:
We can't get far without both. I think the way the question is stated the first priority goes to the money, but once you have paid your expenses a sincere compliment fuels your self-image, which in turn makes you work harder with the satisfaction that you are making a difference and are valued. People I've known who say they are only interested in the money are some of the most miserable people and no fun to be around. My response tells you a little about where I'm at right now!
Posted November 03, 2008
garyr_h says:
Paid! $5 or $10 may not seem like much, but it does add up and I can buy a lot more soda with $10 than with praise :)
Posted October 31, 2008
blogmasters says:
The secret with blogging success is to consistantly make a little with many blogs the answer is the volume of blogs that you have. $10 each with 1 or 2 or even 3 hundred different lenses makes you real money. So pick very focused niches and give all the information you can on your subject.I personally use Wordpress more than Squidoo but that is a choice for the individual.
Posted October 21, 2008
kingkurt2001 says:
I need money to help me survive on this planet. Without money; I will wither away and die. Compliments are nice but they don't put food on the table. I need food, clothing, and shelter to help me survive and all that stuff costs money. So, I would say I prefer money.
Posted October 16, 2008
Mamapaul says:
I am always receiving compliments from my family, friends, and online friends, people that don't know me personally just met them on Social Networking Sites. Hey! with our slow economy everyone needs money these days.
Posted October 06, 2008
sugarismypet says:
Sorry, gotta go with this! I need all I can earn!!! Although flattery will get me anywhere, well, I don't wanna sound selfish so this is my choice! SORRY!
Posted October 04, 2008
Tipi says:
I feel loved when someone I know gives me money. I don't want them to miss the blessing they will get for giving. Can always use the extra cash myself or use it to give to others. Lord knows I'm generous when it comes to giving. Never have been able to out-give God!
Posted September 29, 2008
ltraider says:
If the small amount of money is representative of a pat on the back, taking the money would serve both purposes. A compliment and cash.
Posted August 30, 2008
JUNiverse says:
a little money? how little? but hey, if it's consistent that i get paid everyday, a little will go a long way, so definitely i say pay!
Posted August 29, 2008
BuilderAdam says:
Money, of course! Cannot go to store and tell them: "oh, I've just got some praise from my boss, so now gimme your bread/aspirin...whatever"
Posted August 24, 2008
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jeana900 says:
Since I was recently injured at my job and still waiting on my first workman's comp check, I would have to say I would appreciate the compliment, but right now I would have to say show me the money.
Posted August 24, 2008
JaguarJulie says:
Robin, this is definitely one of the more interesting debates as I think everyone can weigh in one way or the other with regards to which they would prefer. If you asked me this back when I was younger, I always wanted to please and be liked -- coming from a divorced family perhaps that dictated my wants and needs. However, today -- I hope to be liked and complimented for my work, but really need the money to pay the bills. No more Mom to help out. But, I still carry my values from when I was younger and appreciate the compliments, but show me the money -- the tax man cometh.
Posted August 24, 2008
leacharlton says:
I think that it just depends on the situation. For example, if a friend or potential client needs a little help, and says that my assistance was helpful and/or has a complement for me, then that is very much appreciated because I do like like helping my friends and clients. On the other hand, if I have a friend or client, that not only wants help here and there, but wants me to always tell them how to do something or do something for them, then I want paid - especially since they know that I am a consultant and they have been taking great lengths of my time for which I am accustomed to being paid.
Posted August 18, 2008
ahashim says:
Getting a small amount of money would be the best compliment to me.
Posted August 16, 2008
Diamond_Wizard says:
I would say both. I would like the praise and the money. Either one would make me want to do more!
Posted August 15, 2008
says:
I believe the answer would depend primarily on where an individual is in life and his or her status. If one is financially strapped, then of course, money would be more important. However, if the same person had no money hardships, then praise would be at the top of his/her wish list. If both situations are even, I've never known praise to put bread on the table and to take care of family needs!
Posted August 07, 2008
bettydonelly says:
hello
i am a musician and a good review works great as a pat on the back..but my idea is that a written compliment on my music works both ways...you surely can get the best of both worlds because a written compliment or a nice review can be used as a testimonial, which then can attract potential fans and buyers...so, i believe to make the moest of it, you do can mosetise from a nice written compliment, be it indirectly, in persuading your potential fan or buyer to at least check out your stuff!...but where a compliment is nothing short of a pet on the back, receiving my first dollar from my online exploits, really did make me feel much prouder than a good review of my song, since back in my mind i already knew somehow that i am a talented songwriter (no, im not trying to self-bragg here)...it's just that a positive review or positive comments from friends or family after having played live or after showing off my recordings, has become sorta 'normal'..the other day i posted a song for review, specifically asking for harsh criticism, but reviews are always so positive, (i've not yet received one negative review, although critique would be more useful to me, because it makes me reflect on aspects to improve, in areas i might overlook myself)...
so in conclusion, my first online dollar made me happier and prouder than compliments, but a well written short testimonial can be monetised upon, so i would go for a combination of both!
betty donelly
Posted July 30, 2008
thekidsrule says:
The payment is the praise. If someone pays you, then they think you or what you offer is worth the money.
Posted July 22, 2008
GaryHarvey says:
Praise is good. It's affirming and empowering. But they dont yet accept compliments at the checkout desk of the trading establishments I visit, so give me money - thanks!
Posted July 03, 2008
JigsawForte says:
Compliments help, but a kind word is an end in and of itself; Money, on the other hand, is an incentive to try and earn more.
When it comes to my websites, I need both, but money is much more proof of a good job done than a hollow word.
Posted June 29, 2008
thrivingmom says:
I have 2 in diapers and quit my job to stay at home. So, I'll take the money!
Posted June 28, 2008
InspiredWritingResearch says:
Paid,paid,paid please. (I have kids! And some of them are teens, say no more!) Forget the kudos and just give us the pay for the ever-tightening household budget!
Posted June 28, 2008
Margaret_Schaut says:
I like both, and I attempt to contribute as much as possible of what I have in free time and assistance. Sooner or later, though, the mortgage comes due, the cupboard is bare, and at that point compliments make little difference- especially when it becomes overly stressful. A balance of both keeps them both appreciated as they should be. Otherwise, one can feel used, which is NEVER a good feeling and compliments don't help, at that point.
Posted June 24, 2008
ElkieRog says:
Cash is the ultimate seal of approval for a job well done. Talk is cheap. Put your money where your mouth is. That is my take on the job.
As to personal things like "You are looking good today." or "That is a pretty blouse." Talk is the proper medium. A lunch offer would seem like a pickup line and an offer of cash would be an insult.
Posted June 20, 2008
mrsjordanjr says:
Well, would you prefer hearing "I love you" or be shown that you're loved? I think both are equally important.
Posted June 19, 2008
ccrcats says:
a compliment could be hollow. But if it's accompanied with a £10 note. Then you know it is heart felt.
Posted June 12, 2008
Increase-Online-Traffic says:
My identity is settled for eternity as champion, so praise or no, it's still the same.
Money answers all things according to the bible.
Posted June 10, 2008
Squidoo-Pat says:
Praise is nice but I can't go to the grocery store and the gas pump and pay with the praise I was given. As the old R & B song says "Ain't Nothin' Going On But The Rent" (or mortgage for owners). You've got to be confident enough not to need to be praised. Those who need praise obviously lack confidence in themselves. Instead, seek to be humble and multitalented and you'll have all the confidence you need.
Posted June 02, 2008
LadyJtalks says:
at this moment I need the pay....as a double leo born on the first in the year of the dragon I have enough praise to hold me over. LJ
Posted June 01, 2008
compulady says:
A pat on the shoulder is not bad. But tomorrow somebody develops a better lens and I am history. My business has to do with CASH. And we all know, MONEY talks. Time is MONEY. I can invest money, I can spend the MONEY with my friends and enjoy it in the process, I can keep it for emergency. I need MONEY!
Posted May 26, 2008
RawBill says:
It would depend on who the compliment was coming from and how much money it was, but my initial instincts tell me to go for the money.
Posted May 14, 2008
dab0neman says:
Pay my aiiish! I'm sure there are studies where monkeys press a button and they get a few bananas for doing a good job. Therefore: (according to the million dollar study) Everyone likes bananas for doing a good job.
Fugettaboutit... caaish money wins hands down every time. So, gimmie my $5 or $10 now!
Posted May 14, 2008
Protasker says:
Compliments are a dime a dozen. You can help the older neighbor or the little kid who fell off his bike. I do things like this all day long every day.
These good deeds do not help me when it came time to stop the foreclosure on my home!!
SHOW ME THE MONEY!
Posted May 13, 2008
Jofelyn says:
Humility aside, growing up I was never really short of compliments that I'm almost wary of recieving it specially in excess.I think if you're doing a gret job at work being paid well is a gret compliment as any.
Posted May 10, 2008
JudasX says:
I can't pay my mortgage with compliments and kindness. Enough said.
Posted May 06, 2008
Grasshoppa says:
Praise doesn't pay the rent, and it won't appreciate or earn interest. Well, it might draw some interest, but not the kind you can invest in!
Posted May 05, 2008
LeslieBrenner says:
Actually, I prefer a third option: Money and praise, please.
Posted May 05, 2008
veron308louis says:
I will have to say that I prefer money. I mean you put in all the hard work, if that's what you want to call it. The truth is I will work harder once I see that money coming in. If someone praises me, it is for the moment. If I get paid for what I am doing, wow! that would be fantastic, I will work even harder. The harder you work the more money.
Posted May 01, 2008
Lex says:
you can call me girl so long as you pay me
Posted April 30, 2008
InfinityMC says:
The way it has been going, getting paid would be a compliment!
Posted April 29, 2008
PaulRushing says:
I'll take the money. I know if the money is there they are happy with my work even if it is not verbalized. You don't pay people well when you do not appreciate their work!!
Posted April 25, 2008
mulberry says:
Tough one. As a young person I worked terribly hard just for praise, but when $$ is missing it just feels deceptive. Now, I am more "internally motivated" and don't need the praise from others so much. And then of course, there is a little thing called reality...you need $$.
Posted April 25, 2008
Victoria_Neely says:
If I hate my job or don't see it as having much value, money is a far better balm than praise. If I love my job, I don't need praise to stay motivated, but I do need money to pay the bills.
Praise is nice when it's genuine. But when praise isn't backed up with pay raises or rewards of some kind, it doesn't take long before you realize it's bunk. False praise is worse than no praise at all.
Posted April 25, 2008
chefkeem says:
Let's examine the roots of the word "praise", maybe dissect it a bit. Say it very slowly - puh-raise. See? "puh" is an old form of the more modern spelling "pay". So, what have we got here? The word "praise" is actually a short form of the more traditional term "Pay-raise"!
Where I come from - Bavaria, of course, we used to reward any special service providers like plumbers or carpenters with a bottle of beer and a hefty slap on the back, while pinning a wad of greenbacks to their sweaty jackets. We "p(ay)raised" them, so to speak! Usually, their grateful response was: "Got any more beer?" So, where shall I post this now? Oh, well - I join the current underdogs.
Posted April 25, 2008
jeffwend says:
At my last job, the owners read a lot of new age books that talked about positive words and what it does for people. The problem was, their words were empty and did not match up with their actions. I love hearing when I did a good job, but let's be real, if you are being underpaid, a pat on the back only goes so far and for so long, especially when you are making your employers a ton of money. To me, a decent raise or bonus tells me job well done. Don't just talk the talk, you gotta walk it too.
Posted April 24, 2008
Would You Rather Be Praised or Paid?
Contents at a Glance
- Tell Me What You Think?
- The Study That Prompted the Conversation
- Do you Agree with the Study's Findings?
- Forget Money, Load On the Praise
- Give Me a Big Pat on the Back
- Compliments are Best
- Jane Austen's Guide to Good Manners: Compliments, Charades & Horrible Blunders
- Give me the Money!
- Money is Best
- You're So Money
- Have You Ever . . .
- Did Anyone Ever. . .
- Which Did You . . .
- On the Other Hand
- Does Money Make You Smile?
- Something Else to Consider
- Which Song Title Better Suits You?
- A Penny For Your Thoughts
- Is there no higher praise than to be paid?
- Compliment Me!
- Praise or Paid Photo Credits
