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Help! My challenging child didn't come with instructions!

ConductDisorders.com describes itself as a "soft place to land for the battle-weary parent." Does that sound like you?

Generally, people do not find it because they want to -- they find it because they are out of ideas, losing hope, feeling defeated, and often embarrassed because the subject of these feelings is their own child.

What did we do wrong? What can we do better? Follow the links in this lens to help you navigate this helpful, welcoming site.

“YOU'RE NOT ALONE!
Share your story with a diverse group of concerned parents in a SAFE environment.”

Do you have a diagnosis?

You can go straight to helpful articles about a variety of issues related to children's behavior:

* ADHD/ADD
* Allergies
* Anxiety
* Autism
* Bipolar
* Borderline Personality
* Conduct Disorder
* Depression
* Learning Disabilities
* Oppositional Defiance

Navigating the forums

Don't skip the FAQ!

The child that led you to this site is referred to as a GFG which is short for "Gift from God." PC is an acronym for the tongue-in-cheek "perfect child" (ie. no diagnosis, "normal" childhood issues).

More acronyms you'll need to know, and general board info, is inside. Start at the top.

* FAQ / Board Help ~ information to help navigate the site
* General ~ discussion of our special needs and challenging kids
* Early Childhood Zone ~ for the 5yrs old and younger set
* Natural Treatments ~ discuss alternative and natural treatments
* Teens and Substance Abuse ~ discussion of teen substance abusers
* Special Ed 101 ~ rules and navigation of the school system
* Parent Emeritus ~ issues surrounding gfg's who are 18 or out of the home
* Insurance and SSI Help ~ laws of navigating insurance and SSI systems
* Healthful Living ~ take care of your own physical and mental health

Any child can be beautiful.

Check out "Raising beautiful children" for inspiration when you're feeling a bit overwhelmed.

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wdtony Aug 8, 2010 @ 3:33 am | delete

I don't mean to be rude, but it is my opinion that 99.9% of children exhibiting behavioral problems are the direct result of bad parenting.

While there may be a trivial percentage of mentally ill children, I believe that most children who exhibit bad behavior are crying out that the parents are not balancing boundaries, offering proper guidance, etc.

To place children in RTC's or place them on dangerous mind altering drugs is the exact opposite answer these children need.

The only saving grace is family therapy with a strong emphasis on the parent's problems. Most parents are too stubborn or terrified to admit they may be the biggest problem within the family and find it convenient and more comfortable to place blame on the child.

Good luck to everyone, don't let your children pay for the ills you have placed upon them. You've only got one life to make things right.

Suggested reading: "The Road Less Traveled".....Dr. M. Scott Peck, "Help At Any Cost"....Maia Szalavitz, "Reclaiming Our Children"....Dr. Peter R. Breggin.

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DWhealth Nov 28, 2010 @ 1:07 pm | delete

Wow WDTONY,

I think you should do a little more reading to balance your opinion. Unquestionably, a child's upbringing and environmental context play a central role in a child's subsequent behaviours. But equally established is the understanding that children are born with predispositions based on their unique physiological and biological systems, which can lead to imbalances in ability to regulate impulse, emotions, and learning. Did you know that there's a high correlation between conduct problems in children and various learning and emotional disorders? Did you know that this is supported by neuro-imagining and neuropsychological testing? Certainly, medication isn't always the answer, but neither is placing the blame on 99.9% of parents who have difficulty with their child's misconduct. And what is the problem with putting children in RTCs (random controlled trials, if you don't actually know what that means)? Is there something wrong with testing treatments and trying to understand the etiology of problems?

Perhaps you should get involved in literature that is empirically supported and peer-reviewed to supplement the book someone sold you. Perhaps it should be the other way around.

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freelief Jan 24, 2008 @ 1:41 pm | delete

I personally own the book, The Explosive Child, listed toward the top of this page. It is a great reference for parents of strong-willed children.