The Swinging Lifestyle

This lifestyle is not for every person or couple and many couples will venture in and out of swinging many times during their lifetime. There has been a very large increase of couples who are curious or have entered the swinging lifestyle over the past few years and the internet has enabled many couples to connect with others who have similar interests in sex or sexual play.

If this is your first time reading about the swinging lifestyle, this web site was created with a primary focus of informing new couples about all the aspects of the lifestyle and empowering them with the information to help them enjoy the lifestyle safely and achieving the most fun out of it. We truly believe that you will also find Swinger Heaven - UK Swinging site, one of the most comprehensive guides to swinging on the Internet!

Progression In The Lifestyle

Many singles or couples will fantasize about playing sexually with more than one partner or sharing their partner with others. Sexual play or fantasies usually increase over time in the bedroom or outside the bedroom.

Adult movies and fantasies can heighten the excitement of trying something or someone new. Many couples experiment a great deal at home over the years and can lead to interests in spicing up the sexual play with other partners.

Most couples and singles when they first become interested or involved in swinging, place ads in various publications or on the internet in an attempt to meet exciting, sensuous people like you who are interested in the same or similar lifestyle activities. Usually you get a number of responses and spend a great deal of time talking with or meeting the people who, on paper at least, interest you.

However, in the majority of cases, the people that you talk to or meet in person either don't meet your expectations or you don't meet theirs. The biggest disappointment about this form of meeting new couples or singles is that many people will lie or distort many facts about themselves to get what they want. This method of contacting singles and couples is also very time consuming, expensive and risky.


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Then many couples may venture out into the various adult clubs where they can meet face-to-face other couples or singles of similar interest. Couples benefit by having access to significantly more people at one party than they could ever achieve by advertising. Also at significantly less cost!

Many adult clubs vary in there degree of activities and members vary in there degree of involvement in the lifestyle. Many adult clubs are available today and offer numerous types of social events, theme dances, parties, travel and much, much more. Most adult clubs are restricted to COUPLES ONLY, but their are a growing number of clubs that allow singles to attend special functions, especially single women. This method of contacting singles and couples is also the safest!

Once couples feel more comfortable in the clubs they will start to experiment in fulfilling their fantasies one by one. There are hundreds of fantasies with thousands of variations; this is what makes the love of the lifestyle so exciting. Every new partner is different and plays different.

Over time, most couples will expand their list of new playmates and host their own private parties. Many of these private parties are not advertised, but over time couples get invited to more and more private parties that are hosted by lifestyle couples. The level of play and experimentation at different parties is endless. We have attended numerous private parties over the years and all of them are different and a great deal of fun. Not all parties are on-premise, some are social (Meet and Greets) or soft swing parties only.

Conclusion

Every person or couple is different in thousands of ways from each other and the level of play or experimentation they choose to get involved with in the lifestyle can be as different from the next person. This lifestyle is not for every person or couple. Millions of North Americans, which include more than one million Canadians, enjoy the swinging lifestyle in some form or another. We truly hope that you will take the time to become more informed about swinging and see if this is a hobby worth pursuing. If BOTH of you are very sexually active at home and are eager to experiment with other sexually liberated couples, the swinging lifestyle might be your perfect playground.


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Common Types of Swinger Lifestyle :

Soft swinging - This is involves in watching another couple during sexual relations. It may also include foreplay with other partners, sometimes including oral sex, but no vaginal penetration will takes places. Soft swinging can add spice to a couple's relationship and allowing them to have fun without the risk of jealously. Many couples start off with soft swinging as this is a good way to explore a swinger's life style.

Closed swinging - This is where partner swap, but have sexual intercourse in separate rooms. Closed swinging allows couples and individual for a more intimate experience. Many people feel this allows them more freedom to explore with fewer interruptions of their enjoyment.

Open swinging - This kind of swinging allows partners to swap and have sexual intercourse in the same room, or bed. This includes orgies and it is great for exhibitionist and voyeurs, who can show off or just enjoy watching their partner play. Many swingers find open swinging allows for total release of their sexual desires and fantasies. An open swinging is successful when all members in the group demonstrate no jealousy.

When you enter a swinger life style you must be very health conscious. Always practice safe sex and make sure you and your partner are disease free. Many swingers would say they practice safe sex, but they probably don't. So some kinds of health risks always exist. It is up to you to make your own judgment.

More and more people are getting into swinger life style as this give couples and individuals a break for the senseless tension and demanding stress in their daily life. Refreshing sex is the best antidote to relieve stress. A swinger lifestyle teaches you to give and take pleasure like the way you have never experience before. Online swinger clubs helps you to get in touch and later get in bed with people who are from different regions, locales or even nations. It makes you aware of a whole new culture and the many different ways to make love. When you experience a swinger's life style you would enjoy the power of a touch, the romance of a kiss, the meaning of fondles and the excitement of a caress.


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Swinging is not simply being open about your sexual feelings and being adventurous about it. You and your partner should follow some swinging principles to ensure that your encounter is also fun and fulfilling. The following are some suggested swinging principles that you and your partner may want to use:

1. You and your partner should never attempt to break up a marriage.
2. When a date is made, always keep up to it or else give ample time of notice for changing circumstances.
3. It is important to keep the first meeting on a "no strings attached" basis. You and your partner should be prepared to swing if it is mutually agreed or to give an honest answer if something does not work out.
4. It is reminder that you never under any circumstances exercise pressure on your partner to swing.
5. It is suggested that you and your partner restrict discussions of swinging to known swingers and interested individuals seeking information.
6. Be wise and protect the anonymity of other swingers by abstaining from unauthorized "name dropping."
7. For the stake of other swingers, always maintain the highest standards of personal cleanliness and appearance.
8. Be smart and not to engage in any unlawful activity that would harm the reputation of other swingers as a group.
9. Always be friendly and warm with your swing partners. Be understanding that there is a type of emotional involvement, which is properly reserved for a spouse or "primary significant other."
10. Lastly, remember to show respect for the personal attitudes and feelings of other swingers.

MOST IMPORTANTLY - NO MEANS NO!!!




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Swinger Club Rules

Here are some general rules that most clubs will have:

The Golden Rule of all: "NO means absolutely NO"

During any swinging moment when anyone says "NO", regardless of any reason, no means to "STOP" all activities at once. No explanation are needed to be given as it would be understand.

Just because you do not want to jeopardize your happiness and satisfaction with this lifestyle or that of your partner, but doing something against your own will because you are frighten of saying "no" is something you must not do.

The most polite way to say no is by saying, "No thank you, but appreciate you for asking". By doing so you are being honest to yourself and the person asking, plus you will also avoid any misunderstandings.

Treat others with respect, meaning be polite

If you want others to treat you with respect you treat others just the way you want to be treated. Club parties are suppose to be fun, by being rude and judgmental are not a cool way to go. So, just approach things politely.

Never assume anything, always ask

By making assumption, doesn't make you very popular at club parties. Popularity status start by making sure that you know where everyone priority stands before you do anything. If you don't the potential for embarrassment is the consequences.

Excessive Drinking

Don't be a fool and drink more then what your body can consume. Excessive drinking can impair your judgment as well as put you into a very embarrassing situation when sex is call for. So know your limits.

Dealing with Jealousy

Jealousy is very common, especially in swinging conditions. To avoid any jealousy from happening always arrive with your partner together, take the time to caress each other, stay close to your partner, touch base often which makes one feel secure and lastly always leave together.

If jealousy does occur cease all activities immediately and move yourselves to a quite place to discuss the problem. If the problem cannot be solve, then suggest leaving the party and work out your differences else where.

Drugs are prohibited

Any sort of drugs will not be tolerated in any way. This includes the carrying and using of drugs within the clubs premises. Anyone found will drugs will result to immediate remove from the club.


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1. What is swinging?

Swinging is where to or more couples agree to get together for the express purpose of engaging in an intimate or sexual relationship with a partner or partners other than their own.

2. Who are swingers?

Swingering is defined as a form of recreational social and sexual intercourse between consenting adults. Swingers commonly consisting of male/female couples meeting with other male/female couples for sex and ongoing intimate.

3. When did swinging begin?

The history of swinging began in the early 1950's. During that time the only way to meet other swingers was through personal ads in the newspapers. Today individuals and couples who are interested in the swinging lifestyle can go to internet, clubs, or organization that specializes in this type of sexual expression.

4. What are the benefits of being a swinger?

The benefits of being a swinger are:

* Get to explore their sexuality and sensuality in new ways that they find are not easily to accept in traditional communities.
* It a good way for bi-curious women and men to explore their potential bisexuality without becoming involved in the lesbian or gay community where many feel uncomfortable or unwelcome.
* Swinging allows both men and women the opportunity to reject monogamy.
* Individuals can also explore and learn lots more about their sexual interests.
* Swinging can enhance a relationship and the commitment involved in the couple's relationship.
* Becoming a swinger allows you to make many new friends.


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5. What is a swinger life style?

A swinger lifestyle is free from a world of frustration and lost loves. The swinger's lifestyle is simple that gives and receive pleasure.

6. What are the common types of swinger lifestyles?

Soft Swinging (Soft Swap), Closed Swinging (Playing Separate) and Open Swinging (Full Swap)

7. Do swingers have rules?

There are no set rules in becoming a swinger or entering a swinger lifestyle. However, most clubs and party host set there own rules. There are some swinger etiquette to become familiar with though.

It suggested that you and your partner first agree in engagement of such activity. Any rules or restrictions should be set by you and your partner together. It is suggested that at the very least you and your partner should have a little history together and familiarity with each others' emotional needs. It is believe that this helps with approaching other couples who are in a swinger lifestyle.

The general rule of thumb is that swinging works best when couples view swinging as an enhancement to their existing sexual relationship, rather than to replace a fail one.


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There is no single list of top sexual fantasies. Every survey of sexual fantasies produces a slightly different list of top sexual fantasies. When you look at research from the 1970s to the present it seems clear that the content of sexual fantasies depends greatly on the sexual experiences of the people making the list.

For example in early lists of top sexual fantasies oral sex was frequently on the list. As oral sex has become a less "alternative" and more commonly practiced and discussed sexual behavior it is less frequently seen on lists of most common sexual fantasies.

That said, looking at research over the past thirty years there are some commonalities found on many lists.

Many people wonder if male sexual fantasy is fundamentally different than female sexual fantasy, and if you made a list of most common male and female sexual fantasies, would they look the same.
Researchers disagree on this point, often based on their own theoretical orientation.

In a survey of dozens of academic research articles on sexual fantasy, psychologists Harold Leitenberg and Kris Henning found the following themes among the top sexual fantasies:

1. Having sex with your current partner
2. Having sex with a stranger or imaginary lover
3. Being forced or overpowered, or overpowering someone
4. Group sex
5. Reliving a previous sexual encounter
6. Different sex positions or locations
7. Doing things you would never do in reality

Some people might be surprised to learn that in survey the most common sexual fantasy was having sex with a partner, but when you think about it, and remember that sexual fantasies aren't just the over-the-top dream sex you have, but include every time you think about sex and feel aroused, it makes sense that we would think more about the person we're currently having sex with (hopefully because the sex is memorable).

Source:
Leitenberg, H. and Henning, K. "Sexual Fantasy" Psychological Bulletin Volume 117, No. 3. (1995): 469-496.


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The debate over the g-spot seems to never end. Does it exist, is it important, should it be talked about, does it have any usefulness? Definitive answers are rare, so while the experts debate, why not do your own research, and get to the heart (or would it be gheart) of the matter. Many women can stimulate their g-spot using their fingers. Some people will find it easier using a toy that is curved, either a dildo or a vibrator.
Difficulty: N/A
Time Required: You might find your g-spot immediately, or it could take several attempts. Don't pressure yourself.
Here's How:

1. Avoid performance pressure about the "magic spot".
People can become fixated on achieving a sexual goal (multiple orgasms, simultaneous orgasm, g-spot orgasms) One thing I can promise is that this is the best way to NOT enjoy any sort of sexual encounter. Remember that sexual exploration is mostly about the journey, not the destination (although the destination is better than most, I'll agree). Try not to make this another notch in your "sexually self-actualized" belt.

2. Turn yourself on.
Any homework that starts with this is bound to be somewhat fruitful. The spongy area around the g-spot gets engorged with blood when you're sexually aroused, so it is much easier to find and feel when you're turned on.

3. Get comfortable and find the g-spot area.
Lie on your back, squat, or lie on your stomach. Place your palm face down on your vulva and slowly insert a finger inside your vagina (use lube if you're feeling a little dry), crooking it forward in a "come hither" motion. When you're up to about the second knuckle you should feel a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina.

4. Notice how the g-spot feels.
The texture of the g-spot area will likely be noticeably different from the typically smooth walls of the vagina. When you're aroused it can expand, so feel it at different times during your arousal to get familiar with its contours and sensitivity. The g-spot responds to pressure, so press down and pull forward using that "come hither" motion with your fingers.

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5. Explore the g-spot with toys.
For some it can be awkward to stimulate the g-spot by hand. A g-spot vibrator or dildo can be a great helper in this. Apply a little lube to your toy, and insert it with the tip (if it's curved) pointing up toward the top wall of your vagina. Work it in slowly, far enough (a couple of inches) so the tip is pressing against your g-spot.

6. Experiment with pressure and motion.
Some women will find pressure against the g-spot pleasurable, some women like the feeling vibration when a toy is pressing against the g-spot. Experiment and see if either feels good for you. For most women, the g-spot responds to firm pressure. In the beginning, use your toy as if you were trying to scratch an itch-don't pull the toy all the way out, but use short strokes, applying firm pressure, against the g-spot.

7. Vary the movements.
A circular or back-and-forth motion may be necessary to get you started, but you might soon graduate to a more vigorous thrusting. If you've got a vibrator, try playing with the vibrations both on and off to see which you like better.

8. Add clitoral stimulation to g-spot play.
You'll know you're hitting the spot as you feel tingly sensations, the urge to pee, and an overall elevation in your arousal. When you feel the urge to come, stimulate your clitoris using your favorite method. Keep stroking your g-spot.

9. Let go.
With continued stimulation, you'll eventually feel a sensation much like having to pee. This can be quite disconcerting at first, and has probably led plenty of women to abandon the process, but if you stick with it you'll be in for a pleasant surprise. You may or may not ejaculate, but ejaculation is perfectly normal (and it's not urine).

10. If you don't at first orgasm, try try again. It can take several practice sessions before you notice any build up. Try varying your position, using a different toy, experimenting with breathing and kegel exercises (to strengthen your PC muscle), or having a partner help you. Because the g-spot is most responsive when aroused, you may also want to try stimulating it after you've had an orgasm.


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1. Avoid performance pressure about the "magic spot".
People can become fixated on achieving a sexual goal (multiple orgasms, simultaneous orgasm, g-spot orgasms) One thing I can promise is that this is the best way to NOT enjoy any sort of sexual encounter. Remember that sexual exploration is mostly about the journey, not the destination (although the destination is better than most, I'll agree). Try not to make this another notch in your "sexually self-actualized" belt.

2. Turn yourself on.
Any homework that starts with this is bound to be somewhat fruitful. The spongy area around the g-spot gets engorged with blood when you're sexually aroused, so it is much easier to find and feel when you're turned on.

3. Get comfortable and find the g-spot area.
Lie on your back, squat, or lie on your stomach. Place your palm face down on your vulva and slowly insert a finger inside your vagina (use lube if you're feeling a little dry), crooking it forward in a "come hither" motion. When you're up to about the second knuckle you should feel a slightly bumpy or ridged area on the upper wall of your vagina.

4. Notice how the g-spot feels.
The texture of the g-spot area will likely be noticeably different from the typically smooth walls of the vagina. When you're aroused it can expand, so feel it at different times during your arousal to get familiar with its contours and sensitivity. The g-spot responds to pressure, so press down and pull forward using that "come hither" motion with your fingers.

Whether you use the technical term fellatio or call it a blow job, going down on a man, or giving him head, performing fellatio is an act that requires a lot of trust and a little bit of knowledge. Social messages about fellatio suggest that guys love it so much they don't care about technique. In reality there is a lot of variation in fellatio skills, and knowing how to read your partner, what to do to him, and when to do it can make all the difference.
Difficulty: N/A
Time Required: Fellatio can be fast and dirty or slow and seductive, no set time required.


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1. Start him off nice and clean.
Social stigma seems to focus on the taste of women's genitals more than men's. In fact men can smell and taste just as strong as women. If you're new to fellatio, you might be worried about taste and smell. If so, suggest a sexy bath or shower together and start with a clean slate. You can also add a bit of flavored personal lubricant to his penis or put on a flavored condom, which is great for safer oral sex.

2. Physical comfort is key.
You can't have fun and perform well if you're not physically comfortable, and fellatio can put a strain on your neck and jaw. Kneeling before him on a pillow, while he's standing or sitting, gives you good range of motion and plenty of access. If you've had bad experiences with fellatio where you felt lack of control, have him on his back and crouch in between his legs. Giving head can put you in a major power position, if you like that feeling then go for it.

3. Tease him with touch.
Using your hands first, gently caress his inner thighs, penis, testicles, and perineum, paying attention to his reactions (verbal and facial) as you touch certain spots. The most sensitive spot on a guy's penis is the head (known as the glans), especially the frenulum, an indentation between the glans and the shaft on the underside of the penis. You might want to brush up on your knowledge of male sexual anatomy , to know what you're working with.

4. Give him a lick.
Follow up with your tongue, exploring the same terrain using slow wide strokes with your tongue. Don't be afraid to use lots of saliva, as this natural lube feels great and helps create friction and suction. There are many STDs that can be passed during fellatio, using flavored condoms is a great way to practice safer sex and deal with any taste you may not like. It is also a perfect way to get guys who say they have difficulty with condoms, to gladly put one on.

5. Take him in your mouth.
When he's semi-erect, slowly guide your lips over the tip of his penis, making sure your lips cover your teeth as you slide gently down his shaft as far as you're comfortable. Keep your mouth taut, as the pressure from your lips will feel great as they glide down the penis. Putting him in your mouth before he is fully erect is a good way of getting comfortable with the size of his penis, particularly if he is in the larger range.

6. Watch the gag reflex.
If you're not adept at deep throat (taking the whole penis in your mouth), don't try it or you'll trigger the gag reflex. It's not necessary and a similar effect can be achieved with the hand and mouth technique described below. With practice, you can learn to relax your gag reflex and take in more of the penis.

7. Use your mouth and tongue.
As your head travels up the underside of the penis, flatten your tongue so it gives his frenulum a nice wide, wet stroke. Don't be afraid to try different types of licks or kisses-the lips feel good when popped over the ridge of the penis-but perform each stroke repeatedly before changing to give consistent pleasure.

8. Have fun with the foreskin.
If your partner is uncircumcised, insert your tongue into the foreskin and circle around the head with it. You can also use your fingers to gently massage the head through the foreskin, alternating with deep tongue licks.

9. Using your mouth and hand, tip #1.
A great blow job incorporates both hands and mouth. Place one hand around the shaft of his penis while you move up and down on the top half of his penis. Try coordinating your movements so your hand and mouth are going up and down in unison. If you're partner is thrusting, your hand will prevent his penis from being pushed too far into your mouth.

10. Using your mouth and hand, tip #2.
If he likes this combination, bring your hand all the way up the shaft (following your mouth), remove your mouth briefly, use your palm to slide and twist over the head (as if you were juicing an orange), and then glide your hand back down followed by your mouth again. Repeat.

11. Let him come.
When he's ready to orgasm, keep your movements consistent and firm-don't slack off. Once he starts ejaculating, see him through with a few strokes and then stop, as most men don't want continued stimulation once they've ejaculated and had an orgasm.

12. To swallow or not to swallow?
This decision is entirely up to you. There's nothing wrong with you if you don't want to, but it's nice to let your partner know it's nothing personal. If you don't want to swallow, and you aren't familiar with the signs of imminent ejaculation , let him know you want a warning. Remove your mouth as he's about to ejaculate, and continue hand stroking through his orgasm.


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Tips:

1. Don't forget the rest of his body. The scrotum and testicles (balls) are particularly sensitive, and most men like them to be stimulated. Try lightly licking or touching his testicles during oral sex. He might also like them to be cradled gently in one of your hands. Some men go wild when you place your hand around the top of the scrotum and gently tug down.

2. You can also apply pressure to his perineum (the spot between his anus and his penis) with one or two fingers, as this also can feel good.

3. He might like wearing a butt plug during fellatio for added prostate stimulation. Or you can apply pressure to his anus with one of your fingers.




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Some consider oral sex the most intimate of all sex acts. Cunnilingus, the technical term for performing oral sex on a woman, can be incredibly intimate. To be good at it you have to be an excellent reader of her body, her breathing, her movements, and what she may be telling you with words. Everything you do is for your partner in that moment and not based on a performance expectations, lessons from porn, or previous oral sex experiences. It can be a bit Zen, but with more saliva.
Difficulty: N/A
Time Required: 30-60 minutes

Here's How:

1. Clean yourself up! Make sure your hands are clean, and your nails are trimmed as you'll probably want to use your hands as well as your mouth on her. Shave your stubble-nothing kills the mood quite like sandpaper on her sensitive parts.

2. Get wet. Many men have preconceived notions about the taste and/or smell of their partner's genitals. If you're anxious about this, suggest a romantic bath or shower together and then go down on her. Getting naked and wet with each other is never a bad idea, and as you get more comfortable you will probably find that your partners taste and smell trigger more arousal than anything else. Some people use flavored lubricants, and many dental dams (great for safer sex) are flavored also.

3. Start slowly. Most women won't want to go from zero to oral sex in 30 seconds. Take your time and ease into it. Do other things you know she loves. Use your hands and mouth all over her body-which will nicely foreshadow what is to come. When she's good and excited-her hips are thrusting and the moans pretty regular, head south.

4. Get comfortable. This will be different for everyone, but both of you will enjoy this more if you're both comfortable. Use pillows and be creative with positioning so that you are both relaxed and feel like you can move around. Some people will find it hard on their neck to lie between their partners legs with their head poised over her vulva. For others this will work just great. Remember that it's okay to change positions and move around.


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5. Get the lay of the land. If you don't have the body parts, you may want to brush up on your female genital anatomy . Most of the attention with cunnilingus is on the clitoris, but don't forget the rest of her body. But every woman is different, and there may be other parts of her that will take oral sex from the everyday to the out of this world. Use your fingers to spread her lips and take a good look at her clitoris, her labia, her mons, her vagina, her perineum and her anus.

6. When in doubt, go slow. A lot of women have very sensitive clits, so don't attack her vulva as if it were a juicy ripe peach. Flatten your tongue and use wide slow strokes to explore her inner and outer lips, her vagina, and her clitoris. Imagine licking an ice cream cone. Start at the perineum and lick up and around her clit and back down the other side.

7. Check the hood. Most women prefer to have their clitorises licked through the "clitoral hood." This is a fold of skin that covers the actual glans of the clitoris, which is extremely sensitive.

8. Experiment with different strokes. In general, women tend to like firm pressure and repetitive motion. Quick tongue flicks against the clitoris can be irritating. If you're not sure, ask her to give you feedback while you try different kinds of strokes-circular, side-to-side, up-and-down. Don't take it personally if she flinches-discovering what pleases is often a process of trial and error-just try something else.

9. Let her give you a hand. If you've ever seen her masturbate, you have some idea how she likes her clit to be touched. Ask her to show you now, or you can offer her your hand and ask her to demonstrate the kind of stroking she prefers by placing hers on top of yours.

10. Use your mouth. Take her clit in your mouth and gently suck on it. Use your mouth to suck on or nibble her labia.

11. Add penetration. When she's good and excited, add some lubricant to your fingers or toy and gently insert it into her vagina. Move them in and out using short but firm strokes. Put your mouth back on her clitoris and lick her while you penetrate her. This won't do it for all women, but many love the experience of clitoral stimulation and penetration.


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12. Keep a steady pace, try not to stop. Women like steady stimulation, so don't stop unless you need to come up for air. You'll see the signs when she's getting ready to go over the top-her moans, her thighs pressing against your head, her body arching, her hands tightening on your head! When the orgasm washes over you, she'll let you know when to stop.

Tips:

1. Don't forget the rest of her body. In terms of what's nearby, you can incorporate the perineum and vaginal opening into your oral sex. Let your tongue travel down and pop in and out of the vagina occasionally.

2. If you are using a sex toy for penetration, she might prefer to work the dildo or vibrator inside her while you're licking. This allows you to concentrate, and her to get the rhythm she likes best.

3. If your mouth or tongue tires, give it a rest, but replace the stimulation with your hand or a vibrator (unless she wants a rest too).

4. It can take women longer to come than men, and many women are anxious about this. Whatever you do, don't make her feel bad about how long it's taking, and hang in there for the long haul. If you need to stop or change things up, that's okay, but don't make it about her "taking too long".


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