Courtship Resources
This is a list of books and resources you can purchase here or check out at the library to learn about alternatives to dating. Like homeschooling, there is no one way to go about courtship. This list will give you great resources to help you learn from others. Be sure to see if your church library has any of these. If not, consider making a donation to your church library after you read the books you purchase. ( Isn't this an interesting photo taken at the butterfly house at Macinac Island, MI on our Great Lakes, Great Times trip?)
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Some of the courtship materials that we have been through with our Mom and sometimes Dad:
Start young and read some of them over and over again
Audio Cassette:What's A Girl To Do? by Douglas Phillips
CD/DVD Collection:
To Have and To Hold, Preparing for Courtship and Beyond by "Little Bear" Wheeler
Books for the young that can be read again as you get older, perhaps aloud with younger siblings:
The Princess and the Kiss, A Story of God's Gift of Purity by Jennie Bishop
What About Boy Girl Friendships? by Rod and Staff Publishers
Waiting For For True Love and Other Tales of Purity, Patience and Faithfulness by Julia Duin
The Three Weavers, A Tale for Fathers and Daughters by Annie Fellows Johnston (Lamplighter Series) {We've read this over and over}
Books for Teens:
The Courtship of Sarah McLean by Mr. and Mrs. Stephen B. Castleberry
Waiting for Her Isaac by Mr. and Mrs. Stephen B. Castleberry
The Purity Principle by Randy Alcorn
Hidden Pearls by Abbie Benton Bonstell
Passion and Purity, Learning to Bring Your Life Under Control by Elisabeth Elliot
The Courtship of Miles Standish by Longfellow
A Love Story... by God's Design, The Courtship Journey of Joseph Bennett and Elizabeth Farewell by Tina Farewell
Amazon has the above resources
What's a Girl to Do? (CD) (Vision Forum Family Renewal Tape Library) by Douglas W. Phillips
A double-minded man is unstable in all his ways. The same is true of double-minded parents. Across America we have met evangelical parents who desperately want their daughters to grow to be virtuous women with a love for home. Notwithstanding these good intentions, many of these same parents continue to build their daughters' future on a feminist model. Frankly, most Christians are unaware that the Bible offers clear guidelines for how wise parents can invest their daughters' time for....1 point
The Courtship of Sarah McLean (Courtship Series) by Stephen B. Castleberry
This is a wonderful family book, but can also be read to one's self. You'll find yourself extremely enthralled, and won't even want to put the book down. <br /><br />
This is about a homeschooling family. And Sarah, the oldest is getting anxious for someone to want to court her. And is having a hard time trusting the Lord to bring her a young man in his own time. <br /><br />
And when He brings one to her, will it work out? How does Sarah respond in the uncomfortable plac...1 point
Waiting for Her Isaac by Mr. and Mrs. Stephen B. Castleberry
Story of one young woman's spiritual preparation for marriage, as well as the story of her courtship.1 point
The Purity Principle: God's Safeguards for Life's Dangerous Trails (LifeChange Books) by Randy Alcorn
For thirty years Randy Alcorn has been encouraging people-young and old-to pursue the rewards of sexual purity. Too often we settle for a compromised Christianity that's just a baptized version of the world's sad existence, rather than the abundant life to which God calls us. This book deals with - raising children to embrace sexual purity - providing an example of purity in the home - protecting purity in dating (at any age) - and maintaining purity in marriage. Biblical, practical, and concise...1 point
Master Work Fall 2006 Essential Messages from God's Servants (Success God's Way / The Purity Principle) by Charles Stanley
LifeWay Biblical Answers Life This adapts weekly bible studies from recent key messages of God's servants with commentary, lessons, studies, learning and teaching plans presented in weekly units. Two bible studies are included in each quarterly edition. This one works with material from: <br /><br /><br /><br />
Charles Stanley's Success God's Way <br /><br /><br /><br />
Randy Alcorn's The Purity Principle1 point
The Three Weavers (Rare Collector's Series) by Annie Fellows Johnston
This is a special allegory for fathers to read to their daughters. As the story goes, once upon a time there were three weavers, and to each was born a daughter. &quot;The Watcher of Weavers&quot; prophesied to each saying, &quot;A royal prince shall seek to wed thy child&quot; on the condition that she weave a mantle for the prince that will be fair to look upon with rich cloth of gold, and it must fit him as perfectly as the falcon's feathers fit the falcon. Eac...1 point
Passion and Purity,: Learning to Bring Your Love Life Under Christs Control by Elisabeth Elliot
Elisabeth Elliot's story centers around one pivotal question: "Does God want everything?" Her emphatic answer--"Yes"--is what makes Passion and Purity the foremost Christian book on dating ever written. Based on stories, journal entries, and letters chronicling her own five-year courtship with Jim Elliot, she gives frank advice, scriptural directives, and compassionate examples of what it means to follow Christ in the midst of heartache and impatience. The per...1 point
Waiting for True Love: And Other Tales of Purity, Patience, and Faithfulness by Julia Duin
This is a gem of a book. There are six stories set in fantasy genre. The stories are beautifully descriptive and revelling in sweet truths that can inspire our daughters of today to moral excellence and encourage them in the old-fashioned values of purity and steadfastness.1 point
What about Boy-Girl Friendships? by Lester Showalter
by Rod and Staff publishers1 point
Princess & the Kiss: A Story of God's Gift of Purity by Jennie Bishop
Start young teaching about purity.1 point
The Courtship of Miles Standish by Henry W. Longfellow
With biographical sketch notes and portrait.1 point
Books and Videos for Christian Young Men and Women
by Joshua Harris
Joshua Harris is a homeschool graduate. He lives outside Washington, D.C., in Gaithersburg, Maryland, where he is a pastor at Covenant Life Church. He speaks nationally and leads an annual conference for college students called New Attitude. Joshua and his wife Shannon have two children.
I Kissed Dating Goodbye by Joshua Harris
Joshua Harris's first book, written when he was only 21, turned the Christian singles scene upside down...and people are still talking. More than 800,000 copies later, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, with its inspiring call to sincere love, real purity, and purposeful singleness, remains the benchmark for books on Christian dating. Now, for the first time since its release, the national #1 bestseller has been expanded with new content and updated for new readers. Honest and practical, it challenges cul...1 point
Boy Meets Girl: Say Hello to Courtship by Joshua Harris
Joshua Harris follows up his bestselling I Kissed Dating Goodbye with Boy Meets Girl, the story of how he met and married his wife, Shannon. Where Harris's first book encouraged readers to throw off modern ideas of romantic fixation, Boy Meets Girl goes to the next level and urges single Christian men and women to pursue courtship, and ultimately marriage, thoughtfully and prayerfully. Knowing that many readers will balk at the idea of premeditated courtship, Harris insists that dating should no...1 point
Not Even a Hint: Guarding Your Heart Against Lust by Joshua Harris
Lust isn't just a guy problem - it's a human problem. And unless we honestly confront it, lust will destroy our relationships and our lives. Joshua Harris, author of the runaway bestseller I Kissed Dating Goodbye, calls a generation bombarded with images of sexual sin back to the freedom and joy of holiness. This "PG-rated" book - straightforward without being graphic - speaks to those entrenched in lust or just flirting with temptation. Honestly sharing his own struggles, Harris exposes lust's...1 point
Joshua Harris - Courtship Set (I Kissed Dating Goodbye & Boy Meets Girl)
Joshua Harris follows up his bestselling I Kissed Dating Goodbye with Boy Meets Girl, the story of how he met and married his wife, Shannon. Where Harris's first book encouraged readers to throw off modern ideas of romantic fixation, Boy Meets Girl goes to the next level, urgeing single Christian men and women to pursue courtship, and ultimately marriage, thoughtfully and prayerfully. Both paperbacks together as a set.1 point
I Kissed Dating Goodbye Video Series
Building on his best-selling book and popular conference series, Joshua Harris offers biblical direction for those seeking a love that'll last a lifetime! Open, honest, and often humorous, this powerful media package uses drama, on-the-street interviews, personal testimonies, and segments taped before a live audience to explore relationships in Josh's incomparable way. Three sessions (Love / Purity / Trust) will help singles of all ages gain a biblical perspective on how to readjust their relati...1 point
Searching for True Love (Set of 3 Movies)
The Searching for True Love Video Series by Joshua Harris builds on his highly popular conference series and bestselling book, I Kissed Dating Goodbye, to give young adults God's direction as they seek a lifetime love. Available in a three-pack or separately, the videos explore Searching for Love, Searching for Purity, and Searching for Trust in light of the Bible's perspective. They also help young adults answer vital questions like &quot;How can I honor God in my love life?&quo...1 point
Just Us Girls!
Hope these will bless your mother/daughter relationship as they have ours.
We have enjoyed these GREAT books to read aloud together with our Mom and for alone reading. It has been a wonderful way to open up and talk about important issues concerning our future and godly relationships. We love keeping a journal for quotes, verses and poems. Mom likes to keep a journal, also. Sticky notes are neat for marking what you want to put in your journal.Here is our list:
So Much More~ The Remarkable Influence of Visionary Daughters on the Kingdom of God by Anna Sofia Botkin & Elizabeth Botkin
In My Father's House~ a Vision for Daughters by Tamara S. Valine & Naomi Joy Valine
Home-Making by J.R. Miller
Beautiful Girlhood by Mabel Hale
The Joy of Womanhood~ The Keepers at Home Series by Susan D. Zakula
Winsome Womanhood by Margaret Elizabeth Sangster
Raising Maidens of Virtue by Stacy McDonald
How To Be A Lady by Harvey Newcomb
Verses of Virtue~The Poetry and Prose of Christian Womanhood by Elizabeth Beall Phillips
The Courtship of Sarah McLean by Mr. and Mrs. Stephen B. Castleberry
Waiting for Her Isaac by Mr. and Mrs. Stephen B. Castleberry
The Purity Principle by Randy Alcorn
The Three Weavers, A Tale for Fathers and Daughters by Annie Fellows Johnston (Lamplighter Series)
Let Me Be A Woman by Elisabeth Elliot
Passion and Purity, Learning to Bring Your Life Under Control by Elisabeth Elliot
What About Boy Girl Friendships? by Rod and Staff Publishers
Hidden Pearls by Abbie Benton Bonstell
Waiting For For True Love and Other Tales of Purity, Patience and Faithfulness by Julia Duin
The Princess and the Kiss, A Story of God's Gift of Purity by Jennie Bishop
The Courtship of Miles Standish by Longfellow
A Love Story... by God's Design, The Courtship Journey of Joseph Bennett and Elizabeth Farewell by Tina Farewell
The Hope Chest by Rebekah Wilson
Preparing Your Hope Chest~ Building a Foundation of Godly Character for Tomorrow's Mothers from Pearables
Daughters of Destiny by Noel Wheeler Goforth
These are great fiction books:
Elsie Dinsmore Series by Martha Finley OUR FAVORITE!
Mildred Series by Martha Finley
Love Comes Softly Series by Janet Oke (also on video)
Pride and Predjudice by Jane Austen
Emma by Jane Austen
Sense and Sensability by Jane Austen
Anne of Green Gables Series by L.M. Montgomery
Christy by Catherine Marshall (There is also a series of videos)
Enjoy some time to do handicrafts together like crocheting, knitting and cross stitch while taking turns reading aloud and later watching the video. We especially enjoy making Christmas gifts in November and December while reading and watching the videos. These are wonderful traditions and memories with Mom.
Resources from the list above- Just Us Girls!
For Browsing or Purchase
So Much More by Anna Sophia Botkin
THIS IS OUR FAVORITE! IT WILL CHANGE YOUR LIFE! This book is not another Christian-teenage-girl survival guide. So Much More shows how Christian girls can wage war with the world and win. The Botkin sisters focus on how young women can rise above their God-hating culture and change it for the better. Today, countless young ladies face difficult problems and challenging questions. While many long for godly purpose in their lives, their bewilderment mounts when they observe broken hom...1 point
In My Father's House: A Vision for Daughters
selected and edited by Tamara S. Valine &amp;amp;amp;amp;amp; Naomi Joy Valine A collection of essays from past generations that will broaden your definition of godly womanhood. This book will provide encouragement, inspiration and practical wisdom to any young woman, whether hoping to marry someday or feeling like your prince charming will never come.1 point
Home-Making by J. R. Miller
Don't let the title fool you. This is not just a book for women who keep home. Home-Making is an uncompromising vision statement for the domestic bliss and cultural dominion of the Christian family. The message of Home-Making is powerful: &amp;amp;amp;quot;Sisters, Brothers, Husbands, Wives -- Home life is meant to be beautiful, ennobling, and victorious!&amp;amp;amp;quot; God intends for each person, from parent to child, to play a role in family life, the ultimate goal of which...1 point
Beautiful girlhood by Mabel Hale
Great gift for any girl preteen to adult! She'll read it over and over and pass it to her own daughters someday.1 point
Winsome Womanhood: Daybreak--Familiar Talks on Life and Conduct by Margaret Elizabeth Sangster, Journal Edition by Shelley Noonan
Designed for young woman, 14-20 years and provides you with ways to keep the moments from childhood to womanhood.1 point
Raising Maidens of Virtue: A Study of Feminine Loveliness for Mothers and Daughters by Stacy McDonald
More than a fill-in-the-blank Bible study, Raising Maidens of Virtue is an engaging tool for mothers to use in training daughters who are approaching womanhood to think biblically. Through stories, allegories, illustrations, and memory-making projects, Raising Maidens of Virtue covers topics such as guarding the tongue, idleness, sibling relationships, honoring parents, contentment, modesty, purity, cleanliness, and feminine biblical beauty.1 point
Verses of Virtue by Elizabeth Beall Phillips
GREAT GIFT FOR ANY GIRL OR WOMAN!<br /><br />
From the Psalms of David, to the poetry of Isaiah, to the verses of Deborah, to the songs of Solomon, and even the divinely inspired prose of John foretelling the return of the bridegroom, our Lord uses the beauty of language to motivate and to inspire. These are God's verses of virtue, and they served as the inspiration for untold hundreds of books and poems dedicated to a Christian vision for motherhood and home which once defined the l...1 point
The Running Rooster (Grandmother's Hope Chest, Volume 1) by Rebekah Wilson
The ultimate goal of this book is to help young girls and their mothers take their "first stitches" together, to create a lifelong joy in hand sewing, and to show through example how special and unique a hope chest can be.1 point
Lucie's Snowflakes (Grandmother's Hope Chest, Volume 2)
Throughout this series, Grandmother reveals a legacy for Lucie through family memories, tradtions, history and heirlooms that have been stored in the hope chest. In this book the Gingham Embroidery Snowflake Stitch is taught as well as the Hemming Stitch. The ultimate goal of this book is to help young girls and their mothers take their "first stitches" together.1 point
The Hope Chest: A Legacy of Love
A hope chest. What is it and what should be placed inside? Are they too old-fashioned for today's modern families? These questions and many more are answered in this wonderfully insightful book.1 point
Preparing Your Hope Chest (Building a Foundation of Godly Character for Tomorrow's Mothers) by Pearables
What is a hope chest? We have heard about hope chests, but do we really know what they were and how they were used? PREPARING YOUR HOPE CHEST will not only answer many questions regarding how hope chests were influential in Christian womanhood, but they will also help your own daughter prepare for her future as she uses this wonderful marriage preparation tool! PREPARING YOUR HOPE CHEST is written for young girls, starting at the early age of nine (9), to help prepare their very own hope chest!....1 point
More On Christian Courtship
When God Writes Your Love Story: The Ultimate Approach to Guy/Girl Relationships by Eric Ludy
Lay the foundation now-whether you've met your future spouse or not-for a lifelong romance. Bestselling authors Eric and Leslie Ludy invite you to discover how beautiful your love story can be when the Author of romance scripts every detail.1 point
Her Hand in Marriage: Biblical Courtship in the Modern World by Douglas Wilson
Troubled marriages don't just happen, they are made. In virtually every case, the seed of eventual irreconcilable difference is planted well before vows are exchanged. in Her Hand in Marriage, Douglas Wilson points to the modern dating system as the mother of most broken marriages. Dating encourages emotional attachments with covenantal fences and makes a joke of the father's authority. Wilson unearths the almost forgotten pattern of biblical courtship and outlines how it should be applied in ou...1 point
Before You Say "I Do"® by H. Norman Wright
Over 500,000 copies sold! Couples will explore how to clarify role expectations, establish a healthy sexual relationship, handle finances, and acquire a solid understanding of how to develop a biblical relationship.1 point
Quest for Love: True Stories of Passion and Purity by Elisabeth Elliot
"What if I never marry-will God take that desire away?" "I have deep feelings for this guy, but he says I'm like a sister to him. What should I do?" "Why should a man still be expected to initiate romance?" "Isn't it okay to spend time together if we're just friends?" These are some of the many questions posed in letters to Elisabeth Elliot by readers of her best-selling book Passion and Purity. In Quest for Love, the compan...1 point
The Master's Weaving (Savinsky's Home School Series)
As Missy Savinsky learns to weave on her Grandmother's loom, she discovers she must choose between God's pattern for the threads of her life or her own mismatched design. The author's own mother learned to weave several years ago, and provided the idea for the setting. The Author wove the strands of many thoughts together to teach her children about Christian courtship in a story. This book continues the chronicles of the Savinsky family first writen about in Between a Rock and a hard place.1 point
Web Links to Other Courtship Resources
The Courtship Connection
The Courtship Connection-Recourses for courtship, character building and purity1 point
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