Narcissism Wrecks Relationships

Narcissism can be described as someone who never grew out of the natural selfishness of being a child. A person with narcissism finds it hard to share and even harder to share the limelight, wanting always to be centre stage. They may invent stories to get what they want and pretend that they are more important than they are and will often blame others for their own wrong doings. Narcissism flourishes in those who are charming and attractive, because they manage to get away with this behavior better than others. Narcissists feel very embarrassed if they are seen to be wrong or have made a mistake, and like a child may throw tantrums or rages and make up stories rather than admit their mistakes.

Narcissists are always looking for attention. They are flirts and have constant crushes and real or fantasy affairs, they are often addicted to pornography and many are cyberpaths having online affairs with numerous people that they will tell many lies to.

When narcissism has a hold of a person, they will feel VERY lonely and desperate for the affection of some 'perfect' person who will be sympathetic and adoring. Sadly this 'perfect' person is actually an illusion in the narcissist's mind, tormenting and making their life miserable.

Narcissism is natural in humans and particularly in children, but when these tendencies are excessive or are still present in teenagers and adults they may be classified as a personality disorder. Narcissism is a problem when present in adolescence and is an even more serious problem in an adult. There are many who say that narcissism cannot be treated successfully and so if you are suspected to suffer from narcissism as an adult you may find yourself abandoned repeatedly by people who once loved you, because they cannot live with your addiction to your own fantasy life, which does not include them and which you will even lie about and blame others to protect.

We do not believe that Narcissism is incurable. My name is Kim Cooper and my husband Steve and I overcame these problems in our marriage and now have a committed and loving partnership. Back when I was looking for help online, I was scared badly by the pseudo professionals who described my husbands behavior very accurately saying that there was no hope for him and that I should leave him. I was lucky to meet others with better advice and when things got better with us, I vowed that I would help spread the message that there is hope.

Narcissism does not get better by itself, untreated it will lead to multiple relationship breakdowns, nervous breakdown, career breakdowns and will often see it's victims (the narcissist) end up in jail or on the street.