Dating Tips for Shy Guys

Many women like shy guys. Learn how to deal with your shyness and be confident that being shy on its own is not a negative trait.

Why do women complain they always get approached by the 'wrong type of guys'?

A girl which I dated a few weeks ago told me that:

women do not get in touch with the really great guys because they always are approached by the macho guys, the guys with big mouths who are really into themselves.

She also said that women don't get the chance to meet the shy guys while they would want to. According to her:

the really attractive guys many times do not have the guts. But many women really are interested in shy guys. They are really fed up with the macho type.

Thanks to the fact that I got to know this girl who ended up teaching me this crucial eye opener insight.

So of course being shy makes it harder to get in touch with women but it is by no means a less attractive characteristic.

Photo by Noadi CC licensed.

Learn from others but stay true to yourself. Useful things to adopt are; poses, smiling, ways to initiate a conversation, body language and flirting.

This is actually a crucial question to ask yourself. How do others do this? How do they get in touch with a woman they like? How do they keep up a conversation? And especially: How do these men make a great first impression. One of my favorite examples is how George Clooney looks on this photo. His Mona Lisa like smile, his very subtle frowned upon eye brows showing he's interested and even flirting in a confident way.

You can reinvent the wheel but it might be a lot wiser to copy successful men. To be more exact. Take a look at celebrities. Who's one of the most popular womanizers of this time? Right, George Clooney. (or any other babe magnet you prefer) Watch him and learn from him. Check out his movies, or on Youtube, his photo's. Analyze how he is behaving. Especially his non-verbal communication, his attitude. The way he walks, his smile, his attitude, how he talks. Try

Remember, you don't want to play a role. You should stay yourself. But you CAN improve your body language, your interaction et cetera.

Smiling makes you more attractive and handsome, more positive and powerful and is a natural way to attract people to you.

The power of positive thinking is incredible. As a shy guy you can be your own worst enemy. If you aren't happy with yourself, you can't imagine why anyone else would be happy with you.

There are techniques on how to improve your attitude towards yourself in order to overcome the hurdle of shyness. I learned to be aware of self defeating thoughts and how to replace them with positive thoughts. I noticed my attitude changed positively and what really made a difference is that women noticed it too.

Everybody knows positive thinking is important. But do you act upon this knowledge too? Smiling can be a powerful tool to show you are positive minded and to make a nice first impression.

But smiling does even more. A short and easy practice I indulge in every morning is smile at myself in the mirror and say something positive about me and how I will make the best out of the day that lies ahead of me. ( at first I had a smiley sticker on my bathroom mirror to remind me) This is a great start of the day. At first it seemed a little odd to me but things like this really work. You tend to think more positive about yourself and you might already know this or not but you can't hide how you think about yourself. Others see you how you think about yourself. So that's why thinking positive is so very, very important. Not only when it comes to dating but for your overall wellbeing, success...

You can improve the way you think, act and feel with simple and easy exercises. Investing as little as 5 minutes a day can really make a big difference.

Practices like the one I mentioned, are called Neuro Linguistic Programming. (NLP) Neuro Linguistic Programing is used successfully by many people to increase confidence, overcome fears, enrich relationships and achieve greater success.

NLP is set of models, techniques and processes used to explore the dynamics between the body, mind and language. The programming part points to how these dynamics affect our behaviors.

I will try to clarify this definition: NLP is about how our thoughts affect our emotions, our behavior and communication (both verbal and non-verbal) and vice versa. It is also about how we can influence these factors to improve ourselves. Commonly this starts with changing the way we think.

Neuro corresponds with how we think. Linguistic is about the way we communicate and programming has to do with changing our behavior patterns and emotions.

In order to change the wrong beliefs you got about yourself it might be a good idea to read a book about NLP. But you have to read a qualitative book. When I am buying books I prefer to choose from books that have been reviewed by trustworthy sources like the NY Times or Publishers Weekly.

Your first impression is made with your body language. You can learn how to show confidence by improving your body language.

Women really sense if a man is confident and confidence is one of the major turn on's for women. The first thing they notice is body language because they can spot it from a distance.

Walk calmly with open upright posture and no unnecessary movements. The more of these movements you make the more your body language signals you are unsure of yourself. You have to show you are in control. Many men start fiddeling with their fingers when they are nervous. A little trick to avoid this is to keep your thumb and index finger together.

Apart from working hard to gain confidence, improve your body language, know how to start and keep up a conversation

General dating tips for shy guys.

Here is some shy guy dating advice. Things I have learned the past months.

Tip 1 Mindset

Throw away your wrong beliefs. You don't have to be rich or handsome to be attractive to a woman. Woman find confidence attractive. You should be yourself. But being shy from nature like myself can be such a barrier. If you are a shy guy, you need to learn how to project a confident image to women. For example by using eye contact and confident body language. This takes some practice. You will get better at it every time. Fake it till you make it. (most guys do this!) Just do it, you'll see it works!

Tip 2 Act like a man & Be yourself

Men are often behaving like ass kissers because they are afraid that a woman might get upset and leave, and the fact is that by acting this way, a woman is much more likely to leave. It's one of those paradoxes that's a self fulfilling prophesy. Many men think they don't have anything to offer. They try to hide this by acting, pretending to be someone they are not. But this dishonesty is sensed by women easily.

Tip 3 How you make HER feel

Don't make the mistake of talking too much about you. Show interest in her instead.
Ask your date about her pets. Ask her about her family. Ask her about her hobbies and special interests. Ask her if she has done much traveling, or if she wants to travel. She will be flattered and impressed that you are taking such an active interest in her.

Help! She looks at me, what should I do? This is what happens to all of us. Many guys just don't know how to react. If you're for example in a bar and a girl or woman looks at you she probably does this because she's interested. But then it's up to you to take the next step. Here are a few tips on things you can do.

Personally I would not approach her right away. This might be a bit too strong reaction allthough if you are able to keep up the confident attitude you will be able to pull it off. But for us shy guys it would be better to first consolidate the contact step by step. So what should you do?

Just smile back at her. Show her you like the fact she shows interest.
Wave at her, or lift a virtual glass to say cheers to her.

When she reacts positively by smiling or something alike you should go and talk to her. Just tell her she has a beautiful smile and ask her name. Of course she will respond in a nice matter because she initiated the contact. Show some more interest.

Something I tend to do is make a short conversation and then say you'll go to your friends. After a while you can .. Don't make the mistake of staying too long. Do ask her Facebook or phone number.

Try to make eye contact from a distance and see how she reacts. If she looks back at you or even better, if she smiles at you then you should go talk to her. But if she avoids your gaze (she'll know you are watching) then your chances will probably be slim.

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Being shy is a disadvantage but can also be a benefit. As long as you learn some of the techniques and you'll gain confidence automatically.

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