Alpha Behavior
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How NOT to act in Public
Public settings are full of fun and entertainment, especially street fairs. Kids get to play games, patrons can buy cheap jewelry from shady individuals in tents, and the music is often music loud enough to make your cilia shake for weeks.
I recently went to a street festival and marveled at all of the people that came out of the woodwork, eager to experience everything possible. Being an asshole that judges everyone, I couldn't help but observe some men who approached beautiful females and succeeded, and other men who got blown away as if they had just stepped on a landmine. If you are going to be in any highly populated setting, you NEED to read this lens to ensure you're not seen by others as a dough bag.
I recently went to a street festival and marveled at all of the people that came out of the woodwork, eager to experience everything possible. Being an asshole that judges everyone, I couldn't help but observe some men who approached beautiful females and succeeded, and other men who got blown away as if they had just stepped on a landmine. If you are going to be in any highly populated setting, you NEED to read this lens to ensure you're not seen by others as a dough bag.
Child-like Behaviour
I am here to register an admission of guilt. When I was young, I was stupid. I thought not using a waist basket for my garbage was cool, throwing away the trays at fast food restaurants would get a round of applause, and being generally obnoxious would be encouraged by any parental figures who observed my behaviors from afar.I was wrong, yet this is part of being a kid. Most kids don't care what those around them actually think, and that's okay. It's a part of their culture, and regardless of how I think now, I know I can't change how disrespectful these children are.
Now give yourself a test. If you want to meet women, do you walk around public acting like a child while being loud, acting drunk/stoned, and dressed like you just stepped out of a black hole? If so, it's time to change your image - before a pissed off stranger tries to change it for you.
Our Benchmark
My inspiration for this blog came about while some friends and I were watching a local band named Mustard Plug tear up the stage. A man that seemed to be under the influence of a drug from the future weaved in an out of the crowd as he performed what might only be described as an ancient rain dance. The truth is, I found him to be more entertaining than the band.
His dress attire was the first obvious mistake. He wore an army colored green cap, was unshaven, and complimented this rugged look with a Hawaiian style button up shirt. He had a set of $10 over sized sunglasses sleeping peacefully on the back of his neck and wore a black backpack that was so overstuffed it continuously whacked every bystander he passed. His look was completed with jean shorts that proved to be much to tight and small. In fact, if he had run into a member of the Village People, he would have surely gotten his ass kicked for looking so ridiculous.
Appearing to be in his early 50's, it's unfortunate that life hasn't treated our superstar well. Let's take a look at a video breakdown that might even make Daniel Tosh somewhat uncomfortable.
His dress attire was the first obvious mistake. He wore an army colored green cap, was unshaven, and complimented this rugged look with a Hawaiian style button up shirt. He had a set of $10 over sized sunglasses sleeping peacefully on the back of his neck and wore a black backpack that was so overstuffed it continuously whacked every bystander he passed. His look was completed with jean shorts that proved to be much to tight and small. In fact, if he had run into a member of the Village People, he would have surely gotten his ass kicked for looking so ridiculous.
Appearing to be in his early 50's, it's unfortunate that life hasn't treated our superstar well. Let's take a look at a video breakdown that might even make Daniel Tosh somewhat uncomfortable.
This Hurts to Watch
I apologize about the terrible B film quality of this short film. The environment was crazy loud and the lighting was shit. While the crowd kept moving, I did the best I could to focus on the culprit of this blog.
While at first I appear to be a pervert taping a sexy young lady having a good time, you'll see at 27 seconds that our star is just behind this girl. He had actually tried to talk to her for five minutes before I decided to record, and fallen over twice by now. This is not a great way to meet women. At this point, I had already seen plenty of men nudge each other while nodding into his direction while countless women cupped their hands to one-another and made offhand comments about how awkward this man was. This serves as a reminder that every one of us is being judged by someone nearby, so we must always be careful that our actions come off as fun and enticing versus creepy and vomit inducing.
At 31 seconds, we can see him again crash and burn with the girl standing to his side. It seems he has finally accepted she doesn't want his unwashed body anywhere near her as he nods and begins to look for his next potential hookup.
Now 40 seconds in, he has moved about five feet further info the crowd, he stops, raises his hands, and throws out a "woo!" Up to this point, he hadn't been loud or made any sudden movements. This sudden action was very in-congruent which his previous behaviors, and actually caused a few of the people surrounding him to take a step back.
See the blond in front of him at 46 seconds? She glanced behind her and saw our master douchbag, then made a comment to her friend. All men need to watch for these signs. If you notice anything like this, you are putting the stake through your own heart. Leave the area for at least five minutes, somehow alter your appearance, and come in fresh. Unfortunately, our friend did not take this action.
Oh no. At 55 seconds he takes his hat off, revealing hair that hasn't seen the light of sun in months. Was that a beetle that fell out? Lifting his hat did not increase his chances of earning friend requests on facebook. And keep those arms down! The human nose was not designed to take in that kind of smell.
And now it's on. As our drunken rock-star stumbles backward, he runs his backpack into a guy that is more than fed up with what he has seen. A simple shove is all that it takes for the bystander to come off as an alpha male, leaving our foolish celebrity to make a decision.
Ok, so once again I'll apologize for the film work. The guy in the Toad like hat was in my way, so I couldn't get the best footage of what was happening. Stick with me for a moment. We can see at 1:16 that our man with the backpack raises his finger and points it at the guy who shoved him, no doubt trying to save some face. As a response, the guy merely shakes his head. While the hero was about my size, if the drunken idiot had tried to start anything, it was clear who the crowd would side with. As an alpha male, the hero played these odds in his favor.
The scene gets a little intense for the next 20 seconds, and at 1:41 our alpha star actually steps forward one step to demonstrate he isn't backing down. Through his facial expressions, you can actually see Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds weighing each option through raised eyebrows and creepy leers. Now at 1:57 into the film, our filthy hero tries to spit some kind of lame insult out. Meanwhile, more men have turned their bodies toward him, creating a human barrier of sorts in case he tries anything. The majority of the people in the area are now engaged.
Only when we get to 2:28 does the filthy scoundrel understand he'll get put down if he tries anything. Still trying to save face, he smiles, nods, and turns around. Readers, if you ever find yourself at this point in the night, it's time to go to bed and hit reset. Hopefully in the morning things will be better. Just remember to drink lots of water and eat some bread before you pass out. Unfortunately, our guest of honor didn't know this and wondered off further into the crowd, where he continued to embrace the same stupid behavior so many people wanted to beat out of him.
While at first I appear to be a pervert taping a sexy young lady having a good time, you'll see at 27 seconds that our star is just behind this girl. He had actually tried to talk to her for five minutes before I decided to record, and fallen over twice by now. This is not a great way to meet women. At this point, I had already seen plenty of men nudge each other while nodding into his direction while countless women cupped their hands to one-another and made offhand comments about how awkward this man was. This serves as a reminder that every one of us is being judged by someone nearby, so we must always be careful that our actions come off as fun and enticing versus creepy and vomit inducing.
At 31 seconds, we can see him again crash and burn with the girl standing to his side. It seems he has finally accepted she doesn't want his unwashed body anywhere near her as he nods and begins to look for his next potential hookup.
Now 40 seconds in, he has moved about five feet further info the crowd, he stops, raises his hands, and throws out a "woo!" Up to this point, he hadn't been loud or made any sudden movements. This sudden action was very in-congruent which his previous behaviors, and actually caused a few of the people surrounding him to take a step back.
See the blond in front of him at 46 seconds? She glanced behind her and saw our master douchbag, then made a comment to her friend. All men need to watch for these signs. If you notice anything like this, you are putting the stake through your own heart. Leave the area for at least five minutes, somehow alter your appearance, and come in fresh. Unfortunately, our friend did not take this action.
Oh no. At 55 seconds he takes his hat off, revealing hair that hasn't seen the light of sun in months. Was that a beetle that fell out? Lifting his hat did not increase his chances of earning friend requests on facebook. And keep those arms down! The human nose was not designed to take in that kind of smell.
And now it's on. As our drunken rock-star stumbles backward, he runs his backpack into a guy that is more than fed up with what he has seen. A simple shove is all that it takes for the bystander to come off as an alpha male, leaving our foolish celebrity to make a decision.
Ok, so once again I'll apologize for the film work. The guy in the Toad like hat was in my way, so I couldn't get the best footage of what was happening. Stick with me for a moment. We can see at 1:16 that our man with the backpack raises his finger and points it at the guy who shoved him, no doubt trying to save some face. As a response, the guy merely shakes his head. While the hero was about my size, if the drunken idiot had tried to start anything, it was clear who the crowd would side with. As an alpha male, the hero played these odds in his favor.
The scene gets a little intense for the next 20 seconds, and at 1:41 our alpha star actually steps forward one step to demonstrate he isn't backing down. Through his facial expressions, you can actually see Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds weighing each option through raised eyebrows and creepy leers. Now at 1:57 into the film, our filthy hero tries to spit some kind of lame insult out. Meanwhile, more men have turned their bodies toward him, creating a human barrier of sorts in case he tries anything. The majority of the people in the area are now engaged.
Only when we get to 2:28 does the filthy scoundrel understand he'll get put down if he tries anything. Still trying to save face, he smiles, nods, and turns around. Readers, if you ever find yourself at this point in the night, it's time to go to bed and hit reset. Hopefully in the morning things will be better. Just remember to drink lots of water and eat some bread before you pass out. Unfortunately, our guest of honor didn't know this and wondered off further into the crowd, where he continued to embrace the same stupid behavior so many people wanted to beat out of him.
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Lead By Another Example
It's easy to criticize from the outside looking in. In fact, I have mastered this ability over the span of my short life. That said, we all need to remind ourselves that the alpha male constantly examines his surroundings and manipulates them to his advantage. He doesn't act like a fool, fall over constantly, or piss off the people surrounding him. He should have some friends with him as social proof - both women and men - and be friendly to anyone he passes.In other words, don't be the guy in this video. Few dating books take the time to focus on what NOT to do, that sometimes we just need to see if for ourselves. We actually have a section on our site at The Journal Dating Book where readers can share stories like the one I have just shared. Make sure to check it out, because there is nothing more we love than to laugh at other people.
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