Dave Daugherty aka Dave Matthews the DJ aka Boardman

I was introduced to Dave by his first wife after they moved to Lincoln in 1989 - she thought we'd become good friends. Boy was she right.

Dave was the best man at my first wedding. He was one of the first people to visit me in the hospital in 1991 when my daughter was born, and I have a picture of him holding her the day after she was born. When my marriage broke up in 1994, it was his shoulder I cried on as I tried to figure out what to do now with an almost 4 year old child, no job, no money, and having not finished college. It was his belief in me that helped me rebuild my self-esteem, get a job, go back to school to finish my accounting degree, learn to drive, and get out on my own with my daughter. Dave was a fixture at our apartment just like the computer and the TV.

We took our first family trip together to Rapid City, SD to recreate a childhood vacation trip I had taken. It was a weekend trip where we drove there Friday, spent Saturday seeing the sites, and drove home Sunday. Very late Friday night as we're getting close to Rapid City we can see a thunderstorm ahead of us. Dave was driving, we came over a hill and the ground was white like a snowstorm hit - we had missed being in a pretty bad hailstorm, but now were driving over the hailstones on the ground. Dave did a masterful job of slowing the car down, keeping it under control, and ahead we could see traffic stopped completely. A semi-truck had jack-knifed on the hailstones, blocking the interstate. We took a detour, and eventually found our hotel. After we got our bags out of the car, and got my daughter tucked into bed and sleep, Dave and I talked a bit about the trip up. He told me, "I've never prayed so hard in my life as I did coming over that hill and seeing the hail. I just kept praying to God 'Please don't let me hurt my girls' over and over again." It was that event that made him realize how important my daughter and I were to him. As time passed, it seemed only natural that he became part of our family - and it became official in May 2001 when we were married. The picture above is our wedding picture, with my daughter serving as flower girl and of course, stealing the shot.


I owe the life I have now to Dave and the gifts he gave to me during our time together. Not just his love & confidence, but his time & energy, his willingness to teach me how to drive and to take care of the household chores so I could work on my online business. Thank you Dave.

We had a running joke when someone would ask "where is the (whatever)?" the other person would say "Cleveland". So we decided to go to Cleveland and retrieve all of our lost stuff. :)

We also did things out of order - we had our wedding, and a small reception for the wedding guests, then went on our honeymoon, and had a big party when we got back. That big party was actually a 3-in-1 celebration, so that Dave's family could get together at once time for a niece's high school graduation, Dave's father's birthday, and Dave's marriage.

Our Song was "I Cross My Heart" by George Strait. It was to be the first dance of the night, when we started the dancing. Being a former DJ, Dave and his friend Warren put all the music on a computer that was set up in the dance area to run the music. Time to power it up - and sure enough "Cross My Heart" was somehow missing off of the computer. So Dave LEFT the party, and went in search of a CD with the song on it. He was gone for over an hour! But finally returned with the soundtrack to "Pure Country" which has the song on it, so we could have our First Dance together as husband and wife to Our Song.

I used the song again at his funeral, it seemed appropriate. So we used "Friends" by Michael W. Smith, "Angels Among Us" by Alabama (one of my favorite songs because Dave had put it on one of my CDs he made for me), and "I Cross My Heart". I sang it to him, in a whisper, one last time. The lyrics just described our plans for our life together so well, it "fit" us.

"I Cross My Heart"

Our love is unconditional
We knew it from the start
I can see it in your eyes
You can feel it from my heart
From here on after
Let's stay the way we are right now
And share all the love and laughter
That a lifetime will allow

Chorus:
I cross my heart
And promise to
Give all I've got to give
To make all your dreams come true
In all the world
You'll never find
A love as true as mine

You will always be the miracle
That makes my life complete
And as long as there's still breath in me
I'll make yours just as sweet
As we look into the future
It's as far as we can see
So let's make each tomorrow
Be the best that it can be

Chorus

And if along the way we find a day
It starts to storm
You've got the promise of my love
To keep you warm

David Fredrick Daugherty, 40, Lincoln, died Thursday (7/13/06) at home. Dave was born to Fredrick and Marjorie (Claytor) Daugherty on Aug. 21, 1965, in Hutchinson, Kan. He graduated from McCook High School and the University of Sioux Falls in South Dakota. Dave had a deep love for his family and was very interested in computers and radio broadcasting. Dave was a communications major with an emphasis in broadcasting. He was previously employed in radio as Dave Matthews in Sioux Falls, S.D., McCook, Kearney and Lincoln, at KBRL, KICX, KPAT/KSOO, KICX, KKPR, KLIN/KEZG, KFMQ and KZKX. He was most recently employed by G-Tech.

Dave's Guest Book from the Funeral Home

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I sell handmade doll & bear clothes that I knit. I've started using eBay's Missionfish program to donate funds to the American Heart Association, in Dave's memory. An aneursym can sometimes be treated with surgery, so maybe Dave's death could have been prevented if we had but known.

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