Dealing With a Sexless Marriage

What causes one partner in a relationship to enter a state of sexual hibernation can be a tricky subject to navigate. Without the knowledge of what this is makes dealing with a sexless marriage almost impossible so this is a vitally important hing to uncover.

Most sexless marriages are caused by some sort of psychological, or emotional/relationship issue that can sometimes be known to your spouse or to both of you or can sometimes be hidden in their subconscious. It is less likely but still possible to be some sort of physical problem that may need medical help too.

Some common causes of sexless marriages are.

• Resentment over household duties
  
• Resentment based around children
  
• Resentment for many other things!
  
• Body issues with them self
  
• Body issues with you (This is NOT your fault by the way, it is their own inability to communicate this that is the problem!)
  
• Performance anxieties
  
• Impotence
  
• Sexual abuse problems form their past resurfacing
  
• Stress from work
  
• Stress from other factors
  
• Or sometimes it is simply a boredom of routine sex

This list is by no means extensive but there are some common themes. Anger, resentment, fear, anxiety and even familiarity can become a reason that sex drives dry up. This can be easy to fix for some and hard to fix for others.

Dealing with sexless marriage causes can also be tricky but if you have managed to uncover some of the reasons for the lack of intimacy it can be dealt with via good communication first and foremost followed by action on your behalf and hopefully theirs too.

If the issue is an emotion and relationship kind of problem you MUST communicate about this and be brutally honest. You must also be willing to listen to the entire story no matter how petty it might seem to you or even if it is a complete lie. The important thing is if they believe in it so much that they cannot bring themselves to be intimate it is important and needs to be addressed.

Body issues can be hard to broach as the sensitivities involved in talking about physical attraction can be hard when you may still be in love with the person them self. No one wants to appear shallow but the truth of the matter is that taking care of yourself makes you attractive, perfection is never achievable but it is the effort that counts. Being able to communicate about this without making each other feel terrible is important: always remember to make sure they understand it is not just about he body as you still love them dearly.

Physical problems or sexual performance issues should be immediately followed with a trip to the doctors. Overcoming the feelings of inadequacies and shame is vital before this though as that is often the reason for your spouse to not bring this up earlier.

As for boredom, familiarity and routine being a problem this can be the easiest and most fun to fix. In fact, this can and should be included no matter what the problem is. You must fall in love again! You must learn to go on dates again and to spend sometime paying close attention to how you look and act when doing these things. Make sure to occasionally remember that intimacy and excitement should not just be a given and can take a little bit of work, the thrill of the case and so forth. Think about how you used to seduce each other and reenact that again.

I do not want to trivialize anyone's problems in dealing with a sexless marriage however so remember this is only a short guide to some common problems and an overview of how some [people have managed to overcome their sexless marriage issues.

For a more in depth analysis of sexless marriages and how you can take action to turn them around i recommend the following guide through the link below.