Dealing With Divorce: The Teenage Perspective

In the beginiing of most divorce processes it can be truly difficult to deteremine if divorce will actually happen. In my experience, my parents would fight often and sometimes threaten to divorce each other. In most cases this threat was never achieved as they would eventually resolve their differences. So, I never thought that my parents would actually get a divorce, but i was indeed wrong. When the time came and they followed through with the divorce proceedings i could not accept the fact the my parents were actually seperating. It was very hard to say the least to watch my parents seperate after seeing them together for almost 17 years. I was not ready to accept the fact that it was all over. This is always the hardest stage to get through because a child must be mature enough to accept the fact that their family will be whole no more.

As in every case of divoce the children will always feel that they are in some way at fault resulting in the splitting of their parents. Remember you are never the problem. It may be hard to accept but divorce will never and has never been the fault of the children.

At this stage it is best to just let out any and all frustrations that you may have. This stage is very important to recovering quickly. Its never good to keep your emotions bottled up inside, so let out all of your anger asap. Try to understand that everything happens for a reason and that your parents were just not meant to be together. This is unfortunate to realize but always true.

This stage for me was the longest lasting by far. The depression ate at me day and night and tore me up on the inside. I was so lonely and i felt as if i had absolutely nowhere left to turn. The truth of the matter is that you arent alone and their are many other kids going through the same pain and emotions that you are. Get out and try to talk to these people because its not only your parents that are seperating but many all around the world. Try to cope with this stage by keeping active and getting your mind off of the situation for a little while. Participate in new hobbies or sports and always have something to do. Don't just lay around moping because your depression will just last longer

Finally you've made it to the end of the terrible process, but its all over now. Things may not be ideal or the way you would have wanted them to be, but at least now you can be at peace with the situation and learn how to live your new life.