Dealing with a relationship breakdown.

A break up is devastating and can leave you distraught but deep down you know that things can be made to work and you are now trying to figure out what went wrong.Breakups are not irreparable and there are things that you can learn and do to try to get your ex back, but it will take work and time.

First, you really have to let go of all of the pain and try to move on,and while this won`t be easy,you should try and think about letting go which hopefully will bring them closer to you. This is not to say that you should shut everything out,and you do need to experience these feelings in order to move on, but you cannot dwell on them too much or you won`t get anywhere,so you must tell yourself that moving on is the way forward.
Once you have left those feelings behind,you need to figure out why it happened in the first place and why you broke up.

An important step in the healing process is to have a break from each other,as this will let you both get back to a point where the two of you can move on and do what is needed to put things right.

You should also be able to call upon the support of those around you.This should include your parents, siblings, friends and more,because,not only can these people provide support for you when you`re distraught,but they can also act as your calm head and your common sense, and they can also act as a mediator between you and your ex.

Once you each have your support networks, you should come back together for a meeting.You should progress slowly, first by emails and text messages.This will find the common ground between you if you both adopt a sensible and pleasant attitude in your communications,so keep your tone friendly,and remember,take it slowly.Prepare to be generous and maybe apologize for yourself, but don`t expect the same.The whole point is to rekindle the romance, and this is the step where you will see if there is a possibility of a reconcilliation.
By following these steps you give yourself a chance,but it takes work because there is no guarantee,so just give it your best shot.