Divorce Parents vs. Divorce Children: The Abuse

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Problems Which Affect Families

These days most people are divorced. Like is a way of life, start over and maybe this will make things better. that perfect marriage that they dreamed about would come true. well, having a good marriage takes a lot of work. No one said it would be easy. And what about the kids? divorce and children don't mix. Half of all American children will be a part of a family breakup.All this can affect kids in many ways.Children can become physically and emotional damaged, quit school,or commit suicide. Then abuse can become a part of the problem.Kids in a single-parented home is ten times more likely to be beaten,molested, or murdered.

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Children and Divorce

1. 40 percent of children are being raised without the father.
2. One out of ten will also live through three or more marriage divorces .
3. Forty percent of children will experience divorce before age 18.
4.Children suffer emotional and physical damage do to divorce.
5.Most kids coming from broken homes are twice as likely to attempt a suicide.
6 More likely to be a high school dropout.

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What is Abuse?

Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, verbal, or a combination of any or all of these. Abuse can also be neglect. Neglect is when parents or guardians don't take care of the basic needs of the children who depend on them.

Child Abuse

Estimates of the numbers of children who suffer physical abuse or neglect by parents or guardians range from about 1 percent of all children to about 15 percent, and figures are far higher if emotional abuse and neglect are included. Understanding the causes of abuse is crucial to addressing the problem of child abuse. Parents who physically abuse their spouses are more likely than others to physically abuse their children.

The Physical damage

1. Greater risk of injury, headaches, speech defects, and suicide.
2. Kids in a single-parented home is ten times more likely to be beaten or murdered.
3. Kids in a single-parented home are more likely to be involved with drug members or victims of child molestation.

Emotional Damage

1. Parental trust
2. Lower grades
3. Need of psychological help

Where Does the Violents Come From?

What can be the cause of violent in kids today ? Does the violence they are exposed to make children abuse when they grow up?
experts say yes. what do you think?

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When Children Abuse Parents

The Silent Suffering

Yes, parent abuse is going strong in America today. Starting with name calling and swearing then becoming treats and physical violence. but, not all abuse can be physical, there is a another abuse as well.
Emotional abuse is a very damaging thing too. this silent suffering can go unnoticed. where kids begin to grow away for the parent, they begin a journey to independence. today we live in a different kind of world. everyone's busy with what they thing is important , forgetting there is something more meaningful. Family , parent, love.

What Causes Parent Abuse

Anger management issues
Psychological disturbances
Hormones
Enjoyment
Drugs
Bad Parenting

How Many Know of Abuse

Whether it parent abuse or child abuse, some people look in the other direction. Not wanting to get in the middle if something they think it will just go away. Be aware of abuse.

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The Video Massage

I wanted to show this video because it sends a good massage. Don't forget the ones that were there for you. And remember the ones that love you, no matter what you do, where you go, or who you become. Life is short! Don't let it pass you by. Take hold of what's been given to you, we are not promised tomorrow, you may not get a second chance.
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We are the Teachers

Where is the Respect

I believe, we are not teaching our children respect, love and care. We are allowing them to be subjected to violence on TV, Film and music, and violence is considered "normal". Drugs and Alcohol can play a big part. The breakdown of the family unit and increasing numbers of children who have poor or no relationships with their parents, unemployment and parental drug/alcohol abuse are also contributory factors on Parent Abuse. so, where are we going wrong? what can we do to stop this ongoing trend?

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Stop the Abuse

If you are suffering from Parent /Child Abuse you must recognize that you are not at fault and do not deserve this, as with any form of abuse. Speak to a friend, or relative , or contact a domestic abuse support group. Seek professional help.Telephone and online directories list local child/parent abuse,mental health office, and family violence hotline numbers that you can call for help. There is no shame in speaking out about abuse. Counseling is available from social workers and therapists. Getting help for abuse is the first step towards healing and building stronger self defense.

Whats Your Comment on Abuse?

see what others think on the subject.

  • mamabush Apr 26, 2012 @ 7:02 am | delete
    So common...and so sad. :(
  • Angela Feb 13, 2012 @ 12:32 am | delete
    Your updates are great, like the thought behind what you write. :-)
  • Jay_Samson Feb 11, 2012 @ 2:59 am | delete
    Good lens! I'm thankful I've never experienced a divorce first hand.
  • Angela Feb 10, 2012 @ 1:27 am | delete
    Divorce is a common thing in this new era. It is far easier then Marriage, less work, less time, emotional evaluation and dealing with feelings. People in many cases feel it is far easier to Divorce then deal with their problems within a marriage, they do not look at the Big picture (Future) they once seen before they started their life together. With being divorced myself I feel the greatest things we instilled into the three children we had, was they were not the cause nor the game piece between us. We thought them to have a voice and be strong and made sure they were the main focus. I feel that the first of many things that would help with abuse, neg.,disrespect starts with "self" evaluation and acceptance, healing. as Paullenton stated the many disguises are harmful to not just one self but to those around. The children should be the main objetive and main focus. To help give them what you did not have, but are going to give to them so they are better then you to carry on to the next generation. Money is another cause of abuse, Workin is put well before family time, put between one parent and the other parent, helps teach the children that there is nothing more important then that next dollar. The kids need to be first before anything. I truely believe that we all need to remember the kid inside, and it will help to escape today and enjoy the moments that will make the children keep the family love and values. Good info Dano!
  • paullenton Feb 9, 2012 @ 7:55 am | delete
    It can have many disguises, like selfishness or carelessness. They are also some form of abuse. The video triggered off memories of not long ago. I was also taken in to the home of a chief of police, on a freezing winter night, and offered a meal, a warm bed and a family to talk to. This happened in Argentina. Thanks for this lens!
  • SecondHandJoe Feb 6, 2012 @ 2:19 pm | delete
    Divorce hurts everyone. Nice lens.
  • MissTree Feb 3, 2012 @ 6:30 am | delete
    Nice lens, and a very relevant topic to write about.
  • mary_lighthouse15 Feb 1, 2012 @ 10:25 pm | delete
    divorce is a sad thing...
  • mary_lighthouse15 Feb 1, 2012 @ 10:25 pm | delete
    divorce is a sad thing...
  • knit1tat2 Jan 31, 2012 @ 9:51 am | delete
    I can relate to the video, thanks for sharing!
  • danowrites Jan 31, 2012 @ 9:12 pm | delete
    me too! 3 kids that i beg to come see me
  • Inkhand Jan 31, 2012 @ 1:26 am | delete
    Great lens, loved the 'pepsi dad sadness" video.
  • Jan 30, 2012 @ 2:50 pm | delete
    I absolutely loved your lens.... I love that you educating people about abuse !!!!!
  • Rebeljohn Jan 30, 2012 @ 1:04 pm | delete
    very nice lens lots of great info thanks

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