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From the lens Child Custody Battles and Child Protective Services (CPS).

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  • marlene macdonald Apr 9, 2012 @ 5:03 pm | delete
    my husband and i parted many years ago and i signed papers so the government could go after him for the back support that is owed to the government and i found out he has his own business raising 6 more kids under 14 and still hasnt paid a cent to the government where do i go to report this. plz email me at candy514602011@yahoo.ca
  • AmericanCitizen Apr 11, 2012 @ 12:17 am | delete
    Marlene... you will need to go to the family support department of the county you were in when you got the court order for support!
  • Corrina Apr 7, 2012 @ 3:01 am | delete
    I missed my first cps court date what to do can I still get my baby back he got taking out of the home because of a dirty test
  • Janelle Apr 1, 2012 @ 3:44 pm | delete
    Never involve any J&DR court in your life. Never let them in your home. They have become so corrupt and beyond stopping. It is about money. They do not follow or even attempt to meet criteria or provisions of The Social Security Act meaning prevent removal and kinship care. Mandatory and if not done Title IV -E funds can never issue on behalf on that child. Social workers simply lie!They are not held accountable by Judges even. There is no monitoring . No audit. Secret courts of no records. Always hire a court Reporter. It's all about the service plans. The service plans keep everyone from Judges to foster care prevention employees working. Our children have become merchandise. A good friend of mine is a social worker in Virginia. She tells me she sits there day after day while they tell bold face lies,stteal children from good parents etc... I guess we all no why Nancy is no longer with us. Beware people!!
  • Kris Mar 19, 2012 @ 12:25 am | delete
    Ok so recently my ex wife has once again gotten into big trouble with my kids. They were abused by two separate guys and they were charged also this last time she had my kids taken from her and placed in state custody for alchobol related domestic. Iolence with her boyfriend that was on the run from parol. My kids were also in the care of a drunk lady at the house. Why was I the father not contacted? And what do I need to do to get my kids out of this situation the judge keeps giving her the kids after every one of these issues and I am kept out of the aquasion why did they not contact me to get my kids? And cps is the agreeing people that she is a fit parent what the hell is wrong with people allowing this to go on and allowing them to stay in such a hostel environment
  • kevingomes13 Feb 27, 2012 @ 5:59 pm | delete
    They are both very dangerous cards to play. I don't think CPS's purpose is to deal with divorces however, thats not the reason they came into play.
  • Cusper Feb 16, 2012 @ 10:09 am | delete
    Child Protective Services is a very, very, very dangerous card to play in divorce. The author is correct, not only can it go against what you believe to be the best interests of the children, it can leave both parents out of the child’s life altogether. I have never called CPS, but I have experienced them being used against family members by disgruntled in-laws, former spouses and aggrieved grandparents. While none of those different cases went to the full meltdown scenario, the results were devastating for the entire family. Particularly when the objective of using CPS was nothing more than vindictive attack during the holidays. So if you have found yourself on the receiving end, don’t retaliate. Focus on getting through the CPS investigation and the wellbeing of the kids. Cusper Lynn, author, Facebook Ate My Marriage. www.squidoo.com/facebook-ate-my-marriage
  • tomskids Jan 17, 2012 @ 12:52 pm | delete
    DO NOT!!! DO NOT!!! Trust either one. They are both crooked and corrupt!! They do not care about the well being of children and only care about fattening the wallets of their system!!!! Both the courts and CPS WILL destroy your children!!! Check out my website on how to sue CPS: http://www.squidoo.com/how-to-sue-cps
  • NassauDIvorceLawyer Dec 29, 2011 @ 6:34 am | delete
    You are right. CPS should not get involved with custody and should be up to the courts. I suppose its a secondary plan for those that do not get their way in the courts.
  • robertoa Nov 16, 2011 @ 3:56 pm | delete
    The most ideal would be no marriage broke up, as this affects the entire life of the spouses but especially to children.
    unfortunately divorces occur by the Dures of heart of one of the spouses.
    GOD BLESS ATOD marriages and to reconcile those who are separated.
  • Aaron E. Oct 20, 2011 @ 3:36 pm | delete
    I dont think you have to have a certification, a license, or even an upper degree in anything to be a social worker. These are just kids out of college, with a bachelors in general studies, these are not experts by any stretch. People are better off getting an attorney http://divorceattorneyinroundrock.com/ then calling anyone from a state or federal agency. In a divorce situation, things can get down right ugly, especially if a parent was wronged in anyway. People have a tendency to put their kids in the middle.
  • gherishjhoven Sep 8, 2011 @ 4:10 am | delete
    This lens has useful information. Keep it up and thanks for having this shared.
  • zagesquire Aug 27, 2011 @ 10:24 am | delete
    Good posts. I am a divorce attorney in Utah and this is good advice and gives people something to think about. http://www.theutahattorneys.com
  • Pamela Aug 11, 2011 @ 4:00 pm | delete
    My husband involving The Department of Children's Services, benefitted him greatly. My husband privately telephoned case worker and made complaints about me, his wife and the case worker documented those complaints and they were taken as true and factual information by DCS and by The Courts and used against me. I believe DCS will work to help one parent and to hurt the other parent and that should not happen with this Agency.
  • lawpost Jun 22, 2011 @ 12:20 am | delete
    This lens is right on the money. Assuming you are an otherwise fit parent, NO good can come from inviting the State into your home, particularly where the employees of the State cannot understand how families function in the real world. Once CPS is called, parents lose control and CPS gets out of control.
  • Men-After-Divorce Jul 11, 2011 @ 6:21 am | delete
    I totally agree with this. The state should be an absolute last resort rather than a first resort.
  • LindaBertrand Jun 15, 2011 @ 12:55 am | delete
    Children are greatly affected during their parents' divorce. here is a compilation of great articles from Parent eSource that i want to share: http://parentesource.com/2011/05/05/our-top-4-posts-on-children-and-divorce/
  • George_McCasland Jun 2, 2011 @ 3:33 am | delete
    I'm adding your page to related lenses for one of my own on abuse allegations.
    http://www.squidoo.com/abuse-allegations-in-family-law
  • LindaJM Jun 2, 2011 @ 12:53 pm | delete
    Thanks so much, George! I truly appreciate that and will check out your lens.
  • Gloriousconfusion Apr 1, 2011 @ 6:57 am | delete
    April Angel Blessings for a great lens that makes me boil when I think about it!
    Lensrolled to 3 of my lenses: Child Contact and Residence in Divorce Proceedings
    Cohabiting: Your Rights on Separation
    English Divorce Procedure
    and I have featured it on Good Lenses Deserve Angel Blessings
    Well done on a subject dear to my heart
  • jeanyross Apr 1, 2011 @ 2:58 am | delete
    It is often difficult for parents to balance children and divorce hence, a support institution can be a big help. However, we should bear in mind that nothing beats the parents care.
  • OFW Jan 7, 2011 @ 9:21 am | delete
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  • Dec 29, 2010 @ 8:13 am | delete
    Here is an expert to assist you.
    Paul E. Rudder, ESQ - Divorce Lawyer, 110 E 59th Street, 25th Floor, New York, NY 10022, 212-826-9900 - http://www.newyork-divorcelawyer.net

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