Driven Life Purpose - How to Get What You Really Want

I want to speak to young adults who feel their lives could be happier, fuller, more exciting. First, some background.

Do you know how much conditioning you're getting to ensure you conform? Think about your beliefs about how you should live or do things (cook like this, speak like that, behave in this way.) Where did they come from? Beliefs/behaviors are influenced by others, both indirectly and directly.

When my children were young they loved meat and potato pie - and a few shakes of vinegar before eating! When they grew up they cooked it too - and added vinegar! When asked why, they couldn't answer. They asked me but I didn't know either, I'd just always done it. I asked MY mum and guess what? She didn't know, she'd copied HER mum!

What if you don't know what to do in a situation? Say you're at a dinner faced, for the first time, with 14 pieces of cutlery on the table - what do you do? Or you're confronted with corn-on-the-cob, snails or mussels - how do you eat them? Most people watch others then copy them!

You learn the 'right' way to do things, often without realizing it. If it's eating meat and potato pie it isn't important, and when learning new things it may be helpful to copy (conform) at first. Conformity helps us to function as a society. It's good if we all drive on the same side of the road and conform to the Law. Conformity can create unity within groups, communities and countries if we're all sharing the same interests, values and ideas.

But what about negative effects? Needing to be accepted by parents, peers, society, can cause you to do things you really don't want to do. For example: Your friends like getting drunk so to be accepted you do the same, even though you don't enjoy it; your parents want you to join your father's business, but that doesn't inspire you.

Non-conformists are not always valued by society; they find themselves on the fringes, always marching to the beat of a different drum. It doesn't make you wrong - it makes you different! You're the one with the courage - to DO what you want to do, BE what you want to be and HAVE what you want to have.

You can't live your life for other people! You're only here once and you need to be free to live your life in the way that makes YOU happy. That doesn't mean breaking the Law or trampling on others, it means being true to yourself and following your heart. Being WHAT and WHO you want to BE - after all, it's YOUR life!

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When I was young my parents used to say to my brothers they should work hard at school, get good qualifications, and that would lead to them getting a good job! They could expect to keep that job for most, if not all of their lives before retiring retire with a reasonable pension. Sorted! (As the - daughter - they said I should just get any job until I found a man to marry and keep me!)

Well, that may have been the situation then (although actually I didn't buy into it!) but it turns out that none of it was true in the long run! Over the past few decades people have increasingly lost jobs as labour markets and industries faltered, unemployment rates have hit highs, people have had to re-train, sometimes two or even three times, and now there isn't any such thing as a 'secure job'.

In addition, many people retiring in the past decade have found that their promised pension has been squandered by their company and they are now dependant on the miserly State pension for income in what should have been their 'happy retirement years'.

So now - fast forward to the situation for young adults today.

It's my guess that many of you heard, or are still hearing, the same stories. Am I right? You may already:

- be working hard to get qualifications (and that's not an altogether bad thing) in the hope of getting yourself a decent J-O-B at the end of it.

- have a J-O-B working for someone else - unable to do the things you want to do, working with people you wouldn't choose to spend time with, and wondering if you can ever get off the treadmill!

- have a hobby or interest you would dearly love to spend more time doing - even wishing that somehow you could do it for a living.

Well, IT IS POSSIBLE TO LIVE YOUR DREAM - doing what YOU want to do!

It's absolutely clear that for most people, thinking in the old way only serves to drive you into the same channel as everyone else around you.

Many young people are now taking matters into their own hands and increasingly finding ways to work for themselves, doing what they love to do - and making a far better living from it.

It takes just a little creativity and some knowledge, but with the right information and support - YOU can do this too.

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