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From the lens Caring for a Dying Loved One.

I appreciate your reading this lens and sharing my journey. I hope something in this will help you if and when you are called upon to care for a loved one near the end of life -- or even through a temporary emergency where full-time care is needed. Maybe you have an experience of your own to add or a question to ask. Please add your comments below.

  • Koupie Oct 24, 2011 @ 10:39 am | delete
    Beautiful,and ver touching. Thank you for sharing some of your moms journal, I have aging parents, and the only way they can get out is when I drive them. My dad has Parkinson's and other problems, and I know I will be the caregiver for both parents some day, just hope it is a long way off. blessed!
  • sousababy Aug 27, 2011 @ 9:18 am | delete
    This is such a worthy lens, glad to see a purple star on it. I have googled +1'd it and featured it on my 'Living Articles on Squidoo' lens. Thank you for sharing something that will help many, many people. Take good care, Rose
  • vallain Aug 13, 2011 @ 11:22 pm | delete
    A touching tribute to your mom. Since my parents are 86, I store this kind of information away in case of future need.
    Blessed by a squid angel and featured on You've Been Blessed.
  • Ramkitten Jul 29, 2011 @ 12:12 pm | delete
    This is a beautiful, personal lens. You sure put a lot of heart and effort into it. I cared for my father until his death from cancer at the age of 83, and, until recently, I was my mom's caregiver. (She's in an assisted living home now.) So I know what it's like and can relate to your story. Again, so beautifully done. Blessed
  • poutine Jul 17, 2011 @ 9:10 am | delete
    A wonderful tribute to your Mom.

    I got a lot of emotions reading this lens.
  • OhMe Jul 17, 2011 @ 8:11 am | delete
    Back again to this beautiful tribute to your mom
  • AgingIntoDisability Jun 24, 2011 @ 9:31 am | delete
    So many emotions as I read this. A great tribute to your mom and

    eldercare in general.
  • Margo_Arrowsmith Mar 29, 2011 @ 6:31 am | delete
    I have lensrolled this to Hospice: How It Saved My Dad
  • Ladymermaid Mar 17, 2011 @ 9:50 am | delete
    Your mother was such a beautiful woman. This is a very touching tribute.
  • BigGirlBlue Feb 14, 2011 @ 9:41 pm | delete
    We just found out my husband's mother has cancer. We live in another town so we're kind of stunned what to do and how to offer assistance. He has a brother there but they have three kids so it's hard for them too. She's given us a lot over the years and we want to be there. She's always been the one who has taken care of others and is trying to be positive. I've fanned the page for future reference.
  • Margo_Arrowsmith Nov 2, 2010 @ 8:53 pm | delete
    My dad lived at home with me and finally, at 93 (almost) he died in his sleep in his own bed in my home. It was a lot of sacrifice and an amazing privilege and I wouldn't change it for anything.

    I hope you enjoy my blog a>
  • sheilamarie Nov 1, 2010 @ 11:00 pm | delete
    Beautifully written, Barb!
  • tssfacts Nov 1, 2010 @ 9:49 am | delete
    What a great tribute to your mom. My Dad moved to heaven Jan 2008. My Mom is still living but longing to go on home to be with the Lord. I treasure every moment I get to spend with her.
  • LisaAuch Sep 28, 2010 @ 4:07 pm | delete
    Hi, I feel I know you already, I have cared for my mother who had cancer, and we brought her home and stayed with her. It truly was awful, as we were quite young and had already lost my dad, but my mum deserved our love and care for all she had done for us! It is true testament to our faith and belief we are here telling our stories to others.
    As always kindest wishes Lisa
  • ElizabethJeanAllen Sep 21, 2010 @ 6:37 pm | delete
    It's so hard to watch a loved one die but I wouldn't want to be anywhere else. The memory still brings tears to my eyes. You were there for your mother, and now she's in a better place.
    Lizzy
  • nightcats Sep 15, 2010 @ 5:18 pm | delete
    This is an extremely moving lens You have paid a wonderful tribute to your late mother. I am nominating you for a Purple Star.
  • WeddingZazzle Sep 14, 2010 @ 12:06 am | delete
    Blessed by a SquidAngel :)
  • Gail47 Sep 11, 2010 @ 8:55 pm | delete
    What a beautiful tribue to your mother. My mother died in June 2004, and we still dearly miss her. Your mother would have appreciated your time and care in building this beautiful lens highlighting her life. She must have been a special woman to you!
  • Jewelsofawe Apr 28, 2010 @ 2:34 pm | delete
    I love your poem! Blessing this lens and lensrolling to my lens on Death of a loved one.
  • Tipi Apr 24, 2010 @ 2:52 pm | delete
    Words can't express what I'm feeling right now. This is personal and heart touching, filled with LOVE & Devotion. I'm going to have to come back and read more of this some other time, because my eyes keep tearing as I am moved with compassion. What a blessing to have been raised by such an exceptional woman as your MOM. ~ Excellent lens!
    Susie x
  • Norma_Budden Apr 15, 2010 @ 11:45 pm | delete
    What is it about your lenses that, when I begin reading them, it's hard to stop...even after I've reached the end? My grandmother suffers from Alzheimer's and is in a nursing facility; she reminds me, to a degree, of your mom because she was generous, loving and devoted to her family. It's hard knowing the condition she is now in.
  • LoKackl Apr 13, 2010 @ 7:29 am | delete
    A wonderful tribute to your mom. I had the privilege of being with my father the last three weeks of his life. It meant so much to both of us. I was not with my mother when she died. It made a big difference in my memories of them. Squid Angel Blessed.
  • vallain Apr 12, 2010 @ 8:20 pm | delete
    How wonderful that you have her journal and your memories to hold close. A very nice tribute lens and helpful to others facing a similar situation.
  • rms Apr 12, 2010 @ 12:18 pm | delete
    I considered it a privilege to sit with my father while he died of Cancer too. He was much too young and I wish he were still here but being there for him at the end means the world to me.
    Lovely tribute lens!
  • Susan52 Feb 19, 2010 @ 9:26 am | delete
    This is an amazing lens, touching and so helpful for those who have a loved one in an end-of-life situation. Thank you for sharing your heart, and your mom, with us!
  • EverythingMouse Feb 3, 2010 @ 9:43 am | delete
    I am back to revisit this exceptional lens. Thank you for sharing your experience and your treasured memories of your mother
  • happynutritionist Jan 8, 2010 @ 8:03 am | delete
    This is a wonderful way to share your experience on a subject that many find difficult to talk about, I was there when my Dad passed away, just me and Mom...it was over 4 years ago, though the memories after are difficult and part of a healing process, I wouldn't have had it any other way.
  • mulberry Dec 28, 2009 @ 6:56 pm | delete
    Your love for your mother shows. I agree that being there is definitely the thing to do. I am certain that being surrounded by those who love you is very comforting and for those of us left behind I think it adds a sense of peace. I was present when my father died and I would have it no other way.
  • EverythingMouse Nov 29, 2009 @ 11:57 pm | delete
    What a wonderful tribute to your mother. Squid Angel Blessed
  • jgelien Nov 12, 2009 @ 4:16 pm | delete
    Your love for your mother is so evident in your every word. I was able to be with my dad, holding his hand as he died. I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. This is a beautiful and comforting lens. Thank you.
  • GrowWear Oct 11, 2009 @ 5:48 pm | delete
    Thank you for sharing. Blessed by an Angel.
  • Treasures-By-Brenda Sep 26, 2009 @ 1:47 pm | delete
    A lovely lens, a tribute to your Mother.
    Blessed by a SquidAngel.
  • Wednesday_Elf Sep 16, 2009 @ 12:59 pm | delete
    Thank you for sharing this story and I'm sorry for your loss.

    I brought my husband home from the hospital he hated being in, with the help of Hospice, when we learned his cancer was terminal. His last weeks we were together all the time and even though it was a very difficult thing to go through after having him for 45 years, I was grateful I was able to give him the comfort of his home and the routine he was used to ... and just be with him.
  • sandyspider Sep 14, 2009 @ 8:47 am | delete
    My mother is 84, living alone and won't let anyone live with her. She is always falling and I'm very afraid for her. She lives over 2000 miles away.

    Such a wonderful lens and beautifly written. I'm sorry for you lost of your mother. 5 stars!
  • boutiqueshops Sep 14, 2009 @ 7:57 am | delete
    This was difficult to read as our experiences were so similar. I don't know how I could ever find the strength to write this as you did. Congratulations & well done.
  • OhMe Sep 14, 2009 @ 7:31 am | delete
    This is so very special and I appreciate your sharing this with us. I know it must have been a hard one to write in many ways but now you have it to pass on and to keep your memories of your mom alive. I love the book Love You Forever and have given it as a gift on many occasion. Very well done!
  • TrinaSonnenberg Sep 13, 2009 @ 4:34 am | delete
    Awesome lens! I love that children's book too. I bought it for my kids.
    My mother is 65 and living with me. She behaves like she is going to die at any moment, and that is hard to deal with, because she is not terminally ill. Bless you.

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