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Emotional Abuse: Healing is Good Work

Years ago, I lived in a relationship with emotional abuse. It has taken me many years to recover from the effects. There is a fair bit of information on the internet on the signs of emotional abuse. Some people even suggest where to go to get help. While help is important, it has been my experience that it takes years of internal, personal work to fully recover from the effects of emotional abuse.

The first step in recovering from Emotional Abuse, much like substance addiction, is acknowledging there is a problem. For years I did not realize I had been living in an abusive relationship. That seems hard to comprehend, but the emotional dance people do with one another happens slowly and unconsciously. Neither party is aware of the toxicity of the relationship. I finally woke up to how unhealthy the relationship was when my body started to show signs of breakdown. It was then that I made the connection between the dis-ease in my body and the dis-ease in my relationship. One is definitely affected by the other. Mind-body-spirit. Intertwined, connected, feeding and breathing off of each other, influencing, directing.

It took an outsider to help me see the abuse I had been living in. It's not enough to just recognize the abuse and get out of the relationship. That alone, does not heal emotional abuse. It takes digging and sweat and tears and perseverance to change your mindset from that of victim to one of empowered, forgiving (and forgiven) victor.

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Some Characteristics of Emotional Abuse
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Healing Work

Some Characteristics of Emotional Abuse

-can only guess what healthy behavior is
-difficulty letting go
-trouble having fun since childhood was lost, stolen or repressed
-taking self too seriously or not seriously at all
-trouble completing things
-often take responsibility for problems but have difficulty accepting successes
-feel different from others
-are extremely loyal even with faced with overwhelming evidence their loyalty is undeserved
-are either super responsible or super irresponsible
-difficulty with intimate relationships

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Read how others are dealing with emotional abuse

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“Recipients of abuse often struggle with feelings of disempowerment”

Educate Yourself

Read whatever you can get your hands on, surround yourself with supportive, healing people. You CAN choose a different life.

Healing Work

Once you've decided to make a change in your life, you already possess the tools and mindset you need to create a better life for yourself. Don't forget this. There will be times when you feel like it's hopeless to keep going. That is the nature of self-development. The fact that you DESIRE to change means that you have the ability to change.

One of the characteristics of the experience of emotional abuse is that we learn to not trust ourselves. Or the world. Or just men. Or anyone we become intimate with. In order to heal from emotional abuse, you'll need to learn to trust yourself and consider for a moment that the world indeed is a loving, supportive, trustworthy place to be.

When you begin to trust, you will learn to follow your heart again. You will learn to follow your intuition. You will learn that people and things will show up in your life that will support your growth. Set your intention to heal from emotional abuse. Follow in the direction of the steps that are revealed to you. One step at a time. Baby step after baby step. Keep your eye on the prize of healing. Your life will transform.

You will understand you came here to learn exactly what you are learning.

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michaeldavid3 Aug 3, 2009 @ 3:23 pm | delete

Hello Sue; I lens rolled your site to mine. I agree from personal and experience with clients - it takes years to heal trauma & it is getting quicker & easier. I am writing a book, "The Power of Emotions" which includes stories and methods for healing emotional abuse and trauma.

Blessings,
Michael David Lawrience