Infidelity and My Failing Marriage: 14 Traits of the Offender

Have you heard from your spouse that the failing marriage is a "reason" for his/her affair?

Does s/he consistently justify the affair with the failing marriage song and dance? (The theme of my failing marriage made me do it can be loud and in your face if you confront your spouse with his/her infidelity behavior. S/he may react powerfully with a subtle yet, piercing way of blaming you and abdicating responsibility for his/her actions.)

This article addresses the kind of person who would find him/herself going down the path of marital infidelity and embracing this kind of affair with the excuse, my failing marriage made me do it.

Now, remember, I've identified 7 very specific kinds of affairs:

1. My Marriage Made Me Do It

2. I Can't Say No

3. I Don't want to say No

4. I Fell out of Love... and just love being in love

5. I Want to Get Back at Him/Her

6. I Need to Prove my Desirability

7. I Want to be Close to Some one... but can't stand intimacy

But, this article focuses on the first kind of affair, "My (Failing) Marriage Made Me Do It." (Please check out another one of my articles to learn some of the other key points related to this kind of affair.)
Moving Past the "My Failing Marriage Made Me Do It" Justification

Once you identify the kind of affair facing you, you are in a much better position to know exactly what you need to do to break free from the old cycles that are spiraling and leaving you clueless, powerless and out of control. (And those feelings are terribly awful, aren't they?)

Please know - I've seen and heard about this over and over again from people who eventually contact me after breaking free - you get wonderful clues about the kind of affair facing you by taking a long and hard look at the character traits of your partner/spouse.

These traits are footprints, and each kind of extramarital affair has a footprint. And, of course, these footprints have different forms, sizes, shapes and characteristics.

Did I make these up? No, not really. They come from observation of literally hundreds of couples and thousands of people I've worked with over the past twenty five years in my private practice as a Marriage and Family Therapist.

They are also based on personality types and inter and intrapersonal ways of coping with life, but I'm not going to get into that here. That's too technical. Plus, I don't want you bored and I want to get on with it.
14 Likely Traits of Your Spouse who says, "My Failing Marriage Made Me Do It"

So, if you are facing an affair, it's a strong possibility that you are facing a "My (Failing) Marriage Made Me Do It" affair if your partner/spouse exhibits most of these characteristics:

If most of these fit, you may want to take a close look at the "My Marriage Made Me Do It" type of affair.

With "My (Failing) Marriage Made Me Do It" there are specific strategies and tactics you can employ that will shake his/her world and place you on the road to breaking free and perhaps saving the marriage, if that's what you really want.