Falling In Love...

The symptoms of a cold last between seven and fourteen days, and although a cold may be annoying, it turns out that it may actually be an easy disease course compared to falling in love.

Love will take you approximately a year, and maybe even two, to recover from. The physical symptoms that love imposes on your body last much longer than a bad case of the flu.

Love attacks the brain and its ability to maintain rational thought, so count on being emotionally unstable, or in layman's terms an emotional wreck, for at least a year after your initial exposure. Be aware that these symptoms can last upwards and well into the three year time period.

There are no known treatments or cures for love and even chicken soup won't help to alleviate any of its symptoms. So crawl into bed and pull the blankets up over your head if you like, but if cupid has shot his little arrow in your direction then sooner or later you are going to find a silly little grin plastered across your face, and you will have to acknowledge the fact that you've been struck by love.

As you fall deeper and deeper into the complex state of disrepair known simply as love, your brain begins releasing a host of dizzying chemicals into your system, and one by one it is these chemical messages that force you to exist in a new state of heightened reality.

It is a little protein molecule in your brain which is suspected to be partially accountable for the unnerving physical changes that you experience as you fall in love. Known simply as "nerve growth factor" or NGF, this little protein experiences a rapid increase in numbers when you fall in love, and it remains proportionally high in your brain for approximately one year after the initial assault that love delivers to your body. For men or women falling in love these chemical changes are basically the same.

"When infatuated we experience a surge of dopamine that rushes through the brain causing us to feel good. Norepinephrine flows through the brain stimulating production of adrenaline (pounding heart). Phenylethalimine (found in chocolate) creates a feeling of bliss. Irrational romantic sentiments may be caused by oxytocin, a primary sexual arousal hormone that signals orgasm and feelings of emotional attachment. Together these chemicals sometimes override the brain activity that governs logic." As stated at: www.selfcreation.com/

Your heart may now beat faster, your palms sweat, and your hands and legs even tremble at the mere thought of your love interest. Being near the source of your infatuation sends you rocketing into heaven.

People in love are often seen glowing, grinning from ear to ear, or hop-skipping like a little kid might, and all these new mannerisms courtesy of the chemical changes occurring within that part of the body responsible for reasoning. Most of the chemicals released during this initial period send feel good messages to the body, but this increase of chemical messaging in the brain can also often have the "love struck individual" riding an emotional roller coaster of uncontrollable highs and lows.

When the one you have fallen in love with disappoints you it is this same chemical heightening of your emotions that can send you plummeting into feelings of worry and despair.

Most individuals that fall in love find that the overpowering chemical messages being received from their infected brain do begin to lighten a little with time. The individuals involved can then move onward into a more rational and relaxed love relationship with their chosen mate.

Sometimes finding that special someone to love can be the hardest part of falling in love. Logically there are people out there who will match up with your personality, interests, and morality. So how do you find them?

Look at hunting for love like searching for a job. If you are not out there looking for a job then it is pretty unlikely that one is going to drop pleasantly into your lap as you sit at home watching television and munching on Cheetos.

The key to acquiring a job is to be dedicated in your search, to always be looking for the ideal position, to never give up, and to be willing to retrain if necessary for you to acquire the position you desire. When you seek employment you enter into a dedicated search for an employment position which is suitable to your skills. You search the newspaper daily, the employment office twice weekly, visit local businesses, search the Internet job postings, and keep a heads up for tips from your friends on any possible openings.

Well seeking love is just like looking for a job. You have to be out there actively looking for it. Love sometimes falls smack dab into your lap by accident but unfortunately that is not always the case. Go where you think the opposite sex with similar interests to you might be.

That special someone is out there waiting for you to find them. Read through these little love tips which will help you to find someone, and then get out there, and just do it. Find someone to fall in love with you.

1. Take a course, join a club, attend concerts, or sporting events. Just get out there and participating in events that you enjoy because just maybe the person that you are hoping to meet is also out there doing the same.

2. Ask friends if they know someone who they can introduce you to.

3. Browse the singles column in the local newspaper.

4. Place a singles ad in your local newspaper.

5. If there are singles events in your community attend them.

6. Attend your local church and community events.

7. Post a profile on a reputable Internet dating site. Keep an open mind, but also be wary, people who post on the Internet can pretend to be anyone they want to be. Make sure they are who they say they are before you put yourself in a vulnerable position with them. Safety first.

8. Take advantage of chance meetings in the supermarket, library, department store, or other areas. Use direct eye contact to show your interest. Be friendly.

9. Stop for coffee at a local cafe, and if they are willing, talk to the single people at the table next to you.

If you are too submissive or passive an individual then you may pass up opportunities to present yourself to someone that you are attracted to. If you are too aggressive of an individual than you can frighten away potential romantic partners. It takes a well balanced personality to successfully find, and hold onto, a successful love relationship.

Many of us were not raised to be assertive individuals so a little assertiveness training can go a long way to helping us become more confident, and content, within the many social situations we encounter each day.

It all adds up to you being much more content with who you are and how you acquire the things in life which you desire most. When it comes to finding love becoming a more assertive person may actually help you to find, and keep, true love. That sure makes it worth while to spend 15 to 30 minutes reading or listening to an assertiveness training course.

Sometimes love just doesn't work out the way that we hope or plan for it to. For those individuals who do fail at their attempt to find true love the heartache can seem devastating. They usually find themselves in that horrible emotional state of upheaval known as "heartbreak".

Don't panic. Everything will be okay in a little while. The chemical changes that your body undergoes falling out of love subside much quicker than the chemical changes associated with falling in love.

Although "broken heart syndrome" does exist, and people can actually die from the adrenalin rush associated with a broken heart, suffering the ill feelings of a lost loved one is rarely fatal. Time will generally heal the wounds received from a disinterested love interest. This devastating event will pass by, you will recover, and you will go out once more to seek that wonderful emotion that we refer to so simply as love.

For those who are not lucky enough to have their love interest return their passion, well they usually recover within a matter of months, and then find themselves going on about their lives just as they had done previous to falling in love. That is until Cupid once again takes aim, and sends his fully loaded little arrows, flying in their direction one more time. Then you can duck, or try to hide, but that all encompassing phenomenon known as "love" is bound to find you once again.

To read more about "broken heart syndrome" visit: hopkinsmedicine.org

Have you been wondering how you are going to find someone to love so you can get your booty nestled happily into a love relationship?

Well it turns out that many of the scents which attract us to one another can be found right in your very own kitchen cupboards. So if you are looking for a love spell to attract that special someone to your side you may want to look into one of these fragrance options: Men fragrance yourself with chocolate, kiwi, or other light fruity scents and ladies fragrance your body with the scent of chocolate, vanilla, peppermint, cinnamon, fresh baked bread, roast meat, or cheese pizza.

According to research studies done by Chicago neurologist Alan Hirsch Ph.D. the scent which women found most sexually attractive was the natural fresh smell of a man's clean skin. This was most appealing when the man's sweat was also combined with fresh fruity scents. The scents which women found most appealing on men were very light scents, such as ocean breeze, kiwi, or a combination of baby powder and chocolate.

Men were most attracted to the scent of cinnamon buns, chocolate, vanilla, peppermint, roast meat and cheese pizza.

Sounds logical to me...

When you participate in pleasurable activities like smiling, laughing, exercising or playing, your brain does an amazing thing and releases a little chemical message known as an endorphin.

These endorphins are feel good messages that have the power to actually remove physical and emotional pain. They travel down the spine, and then throughout your body, sending a feeling of well being as they go. These endorphins not only have the ability to relieve pain but they also have the power to make you feel happy. So remember to take time to play - it really is important.