Fathers and Sons - When a Son Loses His Father

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by Barbara Tremblay Cipak, Copyrighted

Now that he's without him
what is he working for
He had never truly realized
His dad drove him to want more
With working came acceptance
replaced emotions he concedes
with his father unavailable,
he kept his schedule filled with deeds,
When his father passed away
it broke him to the core
just learning he and his dad
had things in common they stood for
His dad had loved unconditionally,
despite his character flaws
and perhaps was thinking he'd call his son
when the winter thaws
but winters came and went
and neither reached to call
yet they truly loved each other
despite their voices being awol
His imperfect life with his Dad,
is now the oddest gift he treasures
He's vowed to be a father
for his sons to proudly measure
He says "I love you" to his kids,
and has being saying so for many years
then thinks of what he missed
with his Dad,
and it reduces him to tears
Nothing can make that emptiness go
he carries the lesson learned
Knowing now to speak his love out loud
not said to be returned
When a son loses his father
a part of himself fades into that light
as do the words he rarely stated,
like, "Dad, nice to hear from you tonight"
or picking up the phone to say,
"hi dad, did you just hear",
are calls he wished he'd made
while he wipes away a tear,
Now in a prayer he says, "I love you Dad",
to the heavens he kneels and pleads
and wonders if his fathers knows
that his love's so strong, it bleeds
"Dad, in case you didn't know it,
I love you more than I can say
I always tell my kids I love them
I learned that the hard way,
and in my heart,
my father,
you shall always stay".

(VERSE ONE)
Now that he's without him
what is he workin' for
He had never truly realized
His dad drove him to want more
With workin' came acceptance
replaced emotions he concedes
and his father unavailable,
he kept his schedule filled with deeds,
When his father passed away
it really broke him to the core
just learning he and his dad
had things in common they stood for

(CHORUS)
His dad had loved unconditionally,
despite his character flaws
and perhaps was thinking he'd call his son
when the winter thaws
but winters came and went
and neither reached to call
yet they truly loved each other
despite their voices being awol
His imperfect life with his Dad,
is now the oddest gift he treasures
He's vowed to be a father
for his sons to proudly measure
He says "I love you" to his kids,
and has being saying so for many years
then thinks of what he missed
with his Dad,
and it reduces him to tears
Nothing can make that emptiness go
he carries the lesson learned
Knowing now to speak his love out loud
not said to be returned

(VERSE TWO)
When a son loses his father
a part of himself fades into the light
as do the words he rarely stated,
like, "Dad, nice to hear from you tonight"
or picking up the phone to say,
"hi dad, did you just hear",
are calls he wished he'd made
while he wipes away a tear,
Now in a prayer he says, "I love you Dad",
to the heavens he kneels and pleads
and wonders if his fathers knows
that his love's so strong, it bleeds
"Dad, in case you didn't know it,
I love you more than I can say
I always tell my kids I love them
I learned that the hard way,
and in my heart,
my father, you shall always stay".

(BRIDGE to Chorus)
Winters passed into the night
like this father and this son
too late to change the way it went
too late to change a wrong, he says
"Goodbye my father,
I miss you more than I thought I might
and Despite my life's hard journey
in my heart there's only light
and to have this love in me,
you must have done a few things right"

Although winters came and went
and neither reached to call
they truly loved each other
despite their voices being awol
Nothing can make that emptiness go
he carries the lesson learned
Knowing now to speak his love out loud
not said to be returned
"Dad, I'm sure you truly know it,
I love you more than I can say
because I always tell my kids I love them
I learned from our mistakes,
and in my heart, my father,
you shall always stay"

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FOR JIM

A poem remembering Jim the Dad, Friend and Husband. For his son and wife who miss him very much.

His little boy lost his father at the age of 11 years. I can't possibly imagine. My cousins, I love you.

The night Jim passed, I had a dream about Jim - or maybe "Jim came to me in a dream" who knows? Jim clearly said "what's your contribution". He wasn't referring to me personally - it felt as though, in this dream was a message for all of us. From that day forward, I have focused on my family, and also my writing as "my contribution". As a result of that dream, my main website is now governed by the theme "What's Your Contribution" - www.drageda.com

Thank you Jim. By the way Jim, John, your best friend and my hubby, had a surprise birthday party the other day, and we were thinking about you.

FOR JIM
By Barbara Tremblay Cipak, Copyrighted

It's not these words that bring you peace,
Nor the memories that help you sleep,
For you turn a page to another day
knowing love sustained you
when he passed away

He too knew love through his
family and friends,
His time, though short, often lends,
a smile to a face, held up to the wind

He gave his heart the best he knew,
He shared his gifts, his laughter too,
You know he's home now peering through,
as you begin your life anew,

I trust he'll be there when you're blue,
Watching over, Loving you.



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Time heals
Promising closure
Shrinking scars like popping bubbles
As it prepares our gift
Times benefaction is objectivity to our past
Building an awareness of yesteryears
Defogging our vision for truth
Generously donating our package of clarity

Time lies only to those
who misuse its precious moments,
Lines entrenched on our face
can devour redeemable blemishes
By gracefully accepting our package
healing eyes can widen to witness dissipating mist

Time promises blessed tomorrows
Let us put away our spinning wheels
plunge forward with our lesson
accept our bequest from Time, and yes!
We will have morning smiles

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