Peggie Shealy was one of the dearest friends I ever had. In my young adult years, she was my therapist during a terrible bout with depression, and what a brilliant, caring therapist she was!
Time passed quickly. Suddenly I was in my fifties and she had long since retired to the mountains of South Carolina. One day she called me. "I want to write my story and I want you to type it." Of course, I said yes! And over the months ahead, Feeling Safe was born.
In Feeling Safe, Miss Peggie tells the story of her life and lessons she has learned. Her story is fascinating; her lessons unforgettable! As you read her book, you will laugh, you will weep, you will learn, and you will enjoy this delightful lady -- who was way ahead of the women's movement in the USA!.
All of the quotes on this page are taken directly from my precious copy of Feeling Safe
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I don't know who was the proudest when the book appeared on Amazon -- me or PLS! But it was indeed a happy, happy day!
Dr. Shealy used her computer to play solitare. Only. She wrote her book on paper or dictated it to me via transcription tapes. You cannot imagine the number of packages that flew back and forth in the mail -- or the hours and hours we spent on the telephone! My friend, Susan Killingsworth, helped with the final typing and editing. Another friend, Susan Whisonant, read, edited and even went with up to Salem, SC, to visit with PLS and work on the book one weekend. Other friends read, edited and helped us get the book ready for publication. Thank you all!
Peggie L. Shealy, Ph. D.
At her funeral, Miss Peggie's pastor began the eulogy saying "Peggie Shealy was one of the most difficult women I have ever met -- and the most Godly."
The congregation laughed with love and remembering. We also knew her well and loved her dearly. She was brilliant, delightful, supportive, directive, and multi-talented. I am thankful to have known and loved her in my lifetime.
One reason being a parent is so difficult is that you think you are going to get a being that replicates you and therefore you will understand it. Wrong. You don't.
Peggie L. Shealy, Ph.D.
Peace between us;
Peace inside.
Throughout the world,
May peace abide.
Peggie L. Shealy, Ph.D.
Dr. Shealy's biography
taken from her obit published in the Spartanburg Herald-Journal on 12/12/2007.
Dr. Peggie Lancaster Shealy
SPARTANBURG, SC-- Dr. Peggie Lancaster Webb Shealy, 81, of RoseCrest Retirement Center, and most recently of Salem, SC, died Monday, December 10, 2007, at Mary Black Memorial Hospital. Born June 1, 1926, in Orlando, FL, she was raised in Spartanburg by her adoptive parents, the late Dr. Walter Bernard and Dorothy Witter Lancaster. She was predeceased by her husbands, Rev. Dr. O. Kenneth Webb, Jr. and John Carey Shealy, Jr. She was a graduate of Spartanburg High School, Vanderbilt University, BA, University of North Carolina, MA, and University of South Carolina, Ph.D. Dr. Shealy was a clinical psychologist in South Carolina for many years at Aiken County and Richland County Mental Health Centers and was the Executive Director of the Rock Hill Mental Health Center. She was deeply involved in disaster-preparedness and assistance planning for the State of South Carolina, Department of Mental Health. She also published a book, Feeling Safe.
Some people eat, others dine.
Peggie L. Shealy, Ph.D.
More Wisdom from Dr. Shealy
from Feeling Safe
If the world gets too much, go to the beach and look at the ocean. Any time of year will do. She is powerful. She puts you in your place and that's not bad. You are a little mammal on a little planet in a little galaxy in an enormous universe that all makes God's own kind of sense. Your problems are nearly the same dimension as that of your dog when it gets a flea or the goldfinches when the birdfeeder runs out of sunflower seeds. I happen to think God cares about all of these. We just happened to be creatures that can contemplate all of this. That's enough! Be thankful you can think!
Look for the challenges in life. When you see a path to do great things and the path is clear somehow for a moment, go for it.
You only become whole when you let others know your weaknesses and become vulnerable. Then they accept you.
Peggie L. Shealy, Ph.D.
Dr. Shealy's poem about her son
Momie's Orchid
The most beautiful flower I ever received
Was really an iris without the stem,
From a four-year-old who truly believed
The delicate bloom was one of "them."
My mud-streaked cherub thought he'd found
"The one you wear all upside downed!"
Peggie L. Shealy, Ph.D.
Feeling Safe
Life can get empty and then fill up again. Mostly you have to fill it back up yourself.
My own thoughts about this lens
I have tried to introduce you to Peggie Shealy. It simply cannot be done. The little snippets from Feeling Safe simply provide a peek at this lady's wisdom. I am thankful that she was part of my life for such a long time. I learned so much from her. I hope that some of these little notes will help you or inspire you.
And yes, do write your story. Dr. Shealy would insist that you do. It is so important to do that. Her book has comforted me many times and I am sure it will continue to do so. Leave your story in written form for your children and grandchildren. Let them continue to learn from you long after you are gone from this earth. Okay?
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Did you learn something from Dr. Shealy today? Did it help?
Who has touched your life?
This lens is dedicated with thanksgiving to Peggie L. Shealy, Ph.D.
Thank you, Miss Peggie!
The_Party_Animal wrote...
What a beautiful heartfelt tribute - so well written and the quotes were wonderful. You have been Blessed by The Party Animal. Party On....
Posted October 22, 2009
OhMe wrote...
I think Miss Peggie would approve of this lens and that is saying a lot!
Posted July 24, 2009
Treasures-By-Brenda wrote...
Nicely done; I particularly enjoyed the quotes. Blessed.
Posted July 21, 2009
sittonbull wrote...
LRed to my Inspiration lens! This story sounds like it has several great lenses within it that we may eventually get to enjoy.
Posted July 09, 2009
sittonbull wrote...
Wonderful tribute to one who obviously meant a lot to you. Must have been a lot of work, but a wonderful educational experience to draft her book for she sounds like an amazing character. "You only become whole when you let others know your weaknesses and become vulnerable. Then they accept you." Peggie L. Shealy, Ph.D. Ain't it so! Will never forget my grandfather, a College President at the time, sharing with me of some of his undergraduate, sophomoric escapades... after it became evident that I was trying to make a wild University Fraternity life out of my soph year at The Citadel. Prior to that I never knew he was anything but perfect, but he formed a great bond with me that day by getting on my level and sharing his vulnerability. I was always appreciative and being a relatively new grandfather, I know it must have been gratifying for him to share that bonding knowledge with me and know that I still thought of him as one of the greatest men I've ever known.
Posted July 09, 2009
blissnow wrote
Wonderful words of wisdom! I love the part about writing your story as legacy for your children.
Posted July 08, 2009
tandemonimom wrote...
Beautiful tribute - and this quote is going into my permanent file: "Your problems are nearly the same dimension as that of your dog when it gets a flea or the goldfinches when the birdfeeder runs out of sunflower seeds. I happen to think God cares about all of these. We just happened to be creatures that can contemplate all of this. That's enough! Be thankful you can think!" Love it!
Posted July 07, 2009
JaguarJulie wrote...
Quite a nice tribute to a remarkable woman -- you know being near water has always helped me. My most relaxing vacations were in the Florida Keys with mom and my stepfather -- my stepfather and I would go out each day on his 18 ft. aluminum boat and fish for up to 8 hours. Mom would pack a lunch for us. I miss these quieting times! My stepfather has passed on; things have changed.
Posted July 07, 2009
GrowWear wrote...
A heartfelt tribute, Joan. Would love to have known this lady!
Posted July 06, 2009
mukunda22 wrote...
Peggy sounds like a great friend and teacher in your life!! Those are the kind you always remember!!
Posted July 06, 2009
Michey wrote...
Joan This is a great tribute, and I know is comming from the heart.
Thanks
Michey
Posted July 06, 2009
lwhitelaw wrote...
What a wonderful tribute - she sounds like an amazing woman!
Posted July 06, 2009
chefkeem wrote...
My first ever therapist's name was Peggy (different spelling), too. I'll never forget her, of course. Great lens, Joan, with lots of wisdom in it. Blessed! :-)
Posted July 06, 2009
Susan52 wrote...
What a beautiful tribute lens! What I learned was how to simply thank someone, the way you did here. Excellent job, Joan!
Posted July 06, 2009
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