Forgiving Infidelity - Is It Possible?

If you and your spouse still want to be together after the affair, than you must start to figure out what it is you want to do. Starting to trust your spouse again is going to take time and it will be a lot of work for the both of you.

You should not hesitate to go to a marriage counselor. A marriage counselor is someone who is trained to deal with these types of problems and can help you to express your feelings and thoughts about this betrayal.

What you can start to do is to focus on the future, focus on something positive and good for your marriage. That does not mean though that you should forget about the past, not at all. But if you dwell on the past, on that betrayal, it will be so much more difficult for you to find forgiveness. You will be stuck in negative thoughts that will affect your emotions and it will be harder to stop feeling depressed.

After an infidelity occurs, you may still find yourself often doubting your partner. Don't lose heart, there is hope. Here are some signs that may indicate if a person is still worthy of your love.

* Expresses sincere remorse and regret for cheating on you.

* Heartfelt apologies feel true when you hear them.

* Accepts total blame for his or her betrayal.

* Cuts off all contact with the third party.

* Shows a renewed appreciation, admiration, respect and devotion to only you.

* Displays a willingness and openness to talk about what happened.

* Is willing and eager to go into marriage counseling with you.

If both of you are willing to participate in a deep, open, and honest conversation regarding your relationship and how you would like it to progress, there is a good chance you will be able to work through your issues.

It is up to you to figure that out. If you feel like there is still hope for you and your spouse, then by all means you should find a way to work things out. Just remember that it is crucial that you make that decision and stick to it. Give it all your heart if that is what you feel.

But if you have doubt, if you feel you're not sure that is the right thing to do, then don't do it! Sometimes it is better to end it and not waste time to try to mend a marriage that is broken.

Whatever you choose, remember that you're not alone and there is always hope!

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• How To Identify and Survive Infidelity

• What To Do After Infidelity: Make up or Break up

• Marriage Retreats: How It Can Help Your Marriage