Free to Be Me!

At the heart of every person there is a small seed of uniqueness that represents the person that you are meant to be. Unfortunately this small seed of uniqueness usually gets buried in the process of childhood.

Babies know exactly what they want and let you know what it is that needs to be satisfied. If the baby is hungry they communicate that by crying until that need gets met. When a toddler wants something they will go straight for it without fear.

Typically as adults we do not respond this way. Through childhood we became influenced by the adults who had care over us and we modified our behaviour in order to gain acceptance and approval. We got used to hearing phrases like "Stay away from that" Eat everything on your plate whether you like it or not" "You can't have everything you want just because you want it" "Can't you think of anybody but yourself?" With repetition' phrases like this begin to influence our behaviour until we learn to put aside our needs and wants, and do the things that are acceptable or that will please the other people in our lives.

As time passes by most people lose touch should with the needs of our bodies and our dreams and desires that are deep in our hearts. These become replaced with trying to figure out how to please other people, how to behave acceptably in their eyes, and how to do what others want us to do.

If we want to discover and nurture that feed of uniqueness within us, we need to get in touch again with our real selves. Old habits die hard and so at first this will take a bit of work. In breaking out of the old habit patterns of putting other people's needs before our own, we will begin to take back our power over our own lives.

Ask yourself what is it that I really want in this situation or circumstance? Am I saying yes in order to please someone will gain someone's approval? Are you doing what you really love to do? Are you allowing your seed of uniqueness to grow? When you start to be real with yourself and break the habit patterns that stunt the growth of your uniqueness, you will experience more joy and happiness in living your life "you shaped"