Steps to winning your ex back: how to get back at your ex

Be self confident and show your better side.
It is counter productive to show your weak side in this case. Think about it for a moment, would you want someone who is begging or pleading or desperate? These certainly are not attractive attributes that your ex wants at this point in the relationship.

The better approach is to show your ex that you have moved on and are doing just fine. If you show your selfconfident side it is a whole lot more attractive and desirable.

Limit your communication.
Although you really want your ex to call back, it is better to limit your communication for the time being. It is important to take a break from your ex and close off the communication. This will give you and your ex time to rethink what has happened and to let off some steam. The time off can work wonders and your ex may realize how valuable the relationship was.

Be flexible and not one sided.
Try to see both sides of the fence and try to be a good listener and sympathizer. If you are demanding, it will backfire. All you accomplish is making you feel good for that second, but the consequences afterwards are painful. By being flexible you can increase your chances of rekindling your relationship.

Get out of the house!
The best medicine is to get on with your life by jumping back into the real world. Give your friends a call, go somewhere where there are people. Being alone is the worst thing for you. If you can enjoy yourself it is very therapeutic for you and it may also help to convince your ex that they lost a wonderful person.

Be yourself, the nice, good person you always were, especially how you were at the beginning of your relationsip.

There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place.