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  • saritajain86 Mar 16, 2012 @ 6:08 am | delete
    Thank you for the useful info on this lens...
  • Cari_Kay Mar 14, 2012 @ 10:12 pm | delete
    I write on miscarriage related topics and have to say, this is an excellent lens. I will be sharing it. Thank you!
  • pregnancymatters Mar 15, 2012 @ 6:12 am | delete
    Thank You
  • Mujjen Feb 15, 2012 @ 10:38 am | delete
    I went through loads and loads of tests after my second miscarriage, but they found nothing wrong. After six pregnancies I am now the happy mum of two girls. The second pregnancy I had to lie down for most of the pregnancy. Boring but well worth it.
  • xmbbe Feb 5, 2012 @ 11:00 am | delete
    Great info but I wish you had cover one of the reasons is that nothing you did cause a m/c. I had a m/c for my second and the doctor said there was nothing I did to cause it. The risks and warning signs you wrote about - I had none of those. I was healthy and was told that sometimes it's nature's way to tell you that it's not your time yet. It was the worst thing that happened to me (tears still come down every time I think about her) but I realized if that didn't happen, then I wouldn't have my other beautiful children. Things happen for a reason - you just have to go on and look forward to more positive things.
  • pregnancymatters Feb 6, 2012 @ 11:02 am | delete
    Thank you for sharing your story and I am happy to hear that you have gone on to have other children. Yes, things happen for a reason and sometimes it is mother natures way of correcting things.
  • oopsimaisy Nov 10, 2011 @ 1:39 pm | delete
    I used pregnancy miracle and found the level of support was fantastic and I suppose it comes as no surprise that it worked and I am now expecting my second baby using the same methods. Many Thanks
  • tcmbrendan Aug 17, 2011 @ 4:35 pm | delete
    I really enjoyed reading your articles! Keep up the good work!
  • miaponzo Jul 25, 2011 @ 5:43 pm | delete
    I had a miscarriage .. but no one really knows why.. and my following two pregnancies were high risk, with spotting etc.. so it was bed rest and a lot of lying down.. but I now have four grown children! :)
  • pregnancymatters Jul 26, 2011 @ 6:44 pm | delete
    I am so happy for you.

    Your story clearly shows that suffering a miscarriage although painful...is not the end of the world and that as long as there is life....there is hope.
  • njmanura Jun 25, 2011 @ 10:40 pm | delete
    One of the most important things is the psychological adjustment and getting rid of the feeling that i am incompetent in getting pregnant.
  • chicnewmom May 26, 2011 @ 5:38 pm | delete
    Great topic. I have friends and relatives who lost their fetuses as well. This would be a great read for them. I'm an expecting mother and over 35 and thus I'm dealing with other pregnancy issues. More specifically, the screening tests that medical providers use to detect DS and other genetic diseases. It's really a nightmare and I wrote up on it on my lens. I hope your lens and mine will offer some type of comfort for pregnant women. Thanks for the great lens!
  • LatifaPule May 20, 2011 @ 9:28 am | delete
    i had my miscourage at 6months,my cervix opened and when i was about to be stiched up, i went in to labour,this was my first baby.
  • pregnancymatters May 20, 2011 @ 4:31 pm | delete
    I am so sorry to hear aout your loss. My sister-in-law had the same issue at 20 weeks and lost her first baby, but she had better luck with her second pregnancy....my nephew is now 2 years old.

    Good luck with your next pregnancy...I will pray for you.
  • MarkBentley May 15, 2011 @ 11:35 pm | delete
    Thanks for writing about such a tough subject.
  • kilester May 5, 2011 @ 12:36 am | delete
    Awesome lens!
  • pregnancymatters May 5, 2011 @ 3:24 am | delete
    Thank You
  • laurenlendowsky Mar 30, 2011 @ 12:18 pm | delete
    Very good lense. Well presented
    Relevant to anyone looking for this information
  • kguru1979 Mar 20, 2011 @ 10:48 am | delete
    Very useful informative lens...
  • pregnancymatters Mar 21, 2011 @ 5:30 pm | delete
    Thanks
  • EuroSquid Feb 3, 2011 @ 5:42 am | delete
    Great lens. Blessed
  • pregnancymatters Feb 9, 2011 @ 5:34 am | delete
    thank you
  • TanyasTags Dec 4, 2010 @ 3:55 pm | delete
    Love Your Content Filled Lens! Great Information! I too consider myself an expert in this field... After 14+ years TTC (Trying To Concieve) and over 30 early losses (miscarriages) and the loss of our son Elijah in the second trimester - I have been through it all! My Diagnosis was immune related. I had to take baby aspirin daily, heparin shots 2X a day and IVIg once every 3 weeks to carry my children to term. But I am proof that you should not give up! I have a beautiful 5yr old daughter & an adorable 3 yr old son - Both Miracles! They key is to educate yourself - see the very best doctors, take care of your body & to always have faith... Great Lens! If anyone wants to conect with me - you can find me on facebook (Tanya Teams) Thanks for sharing!
  • dellgirl Oct 29, 2010 @ 6:55 pm | delete
    I love your lens, it is filled with a ton of great information and helpful advice. Thank you for publishing such a wonderful lens.

    I'm rating your lens 5 stars, joining your fan club, and lensrolling you to my "Vasa Previa Is Diagnosable" & "Friends Are Angels in Disguise" lenses.
  • bsblmike2 Oct 24, 2010 @ 5:35 pm | delete
    i had a friend who had a miscarriage. it is a terrible things. thanks for the tips
  • ajsphotographic Oct 8, 2010 @ 6:16 am | delete
    This is such an emotional lens, I had a miscarriage back in June this year, we went for our 12 week dating scan full of excitement only be told that the baby had died a few weeks earlier. I had no symptoms of miscarriage at all so it was a complete shock to both of us. I had to have everything removed under sedation a few days later. We are now pregnant again but very early stages and I have had a bleed which has worried us alot. I went for an emergency scan yesterday and I hadn't lost the baby which was such a relief but I am not quite 6 weeks yet and the heart has not started beating as yet so we are due to go back in another 10 days time for a rescan to see how things have progressed. I am hoping and praying everyday that the little heartbeat will start and everything will be ok. My thoughts are with all of you that have suffered this loss.
  • southergirl83 Aug 23, 2010 @ 7:15 pm | delete
    I have had 6 miscarriages and an ectopic pregnancy my first miscarriage was at 19 weeks I went into labor and I was home alone by the time I got the streangth to drive myself anywhere I was bleeding so bad and the fear is what drove me to get out of bed. By the time I delivered my son they had me so drugged up and just said he didn't make it. I never got to see my little man. Every miscarriage since has been horrible and it hurts more and more everytime...emotionally that is. When you look down and see blood like you're in a horror movie it never leaves you. My husband and I think we may be pregnant again now it happens every 2 months or so now and I have moments of excitement but mostly staying detached and in denial I guess as self preservation. I'm 27 yrs old and everyone in my family has kids but me all cousins and aunts and uncles included...I feel like a worthless failure...I feel like God has turned his back on me and making me question if there is a god or gods or karma or anything...I have been a good person I have raised nephews and neices and was the perfect kid to my parents and I'm the one that someone decided to punish this way. I am willing to adopt but after having my son kicking in me for 19 weeks I long for that feeling and bond again. Has anyone else gone through this? I know that I have graves disease and endometreosis but I can get pregnant so why can't I stay pregnant?
  • pregnancymatters Aug 24, 2010 @ 4:29 pm | delete
    Hello Southergirl,

    I am really sorry to hear about what you are going through, but I think you need to talk to your doctor at length and let him or her explain your options. It is heart breaking to lose one pregnancy but to keep losing every pregnancy is unbearable.
    I am a great believer in God and I would like you to keep praying, for even though doctors can help with most medical issues, some things are beyond them. But things that are beyond doctors are never beyond your creator.

    Good luck and I pray good fortune smiles on you soon.

    Claire
  • southergirl83 Aug 24, 2010 @ 11:56 pm | delete
    Claire,
    Thanks for the words of encouragement...I'm trying to stay positive and and to keep faith. I have spoken with 8 doctors and specialists and even saw a fertility specialist with my husband in january of this year. They all have theories and all have ideas unfortunately everytime we get pregnant no one starts me on the medications they think I need. I feel like in the medical field I am fighting an up hill battle...we even moved 3 states away to be near "better" doctors. What I am finding is that medical practice is literally just practicing on us like we're guinie pigs lol. I think if we stop stressing maybe we'll be blessed...who knows. I just wasn't sure if there was anyone else out there like me that is searching for answers or has a success story to bring the hope back in. I know that I'm only 4.5 weeks along but bonding at this point like I have in the past is a constant battle with myself out of fear. I guess I think if I don't bond it won't hurt as bad when it's gone.
  • audrey31p Oct 29, 2010 @ 12:41 pm | delete
    southergirl, if you're still out there, I agree with Claire. My personal relationship with Jesus, my savior helped me and my husband tremendously through our two miscarriages, and sometimes doctors can't figure things out or fix them. If you've never accepted Christ into your heart, I encourage you to ask him. :)
    I have heard of cases like yours, I have a labor & delivery nurse friend who works at a big hospital with high-risk cases a lot and know two people who've lost babies pretty far into pregnancy. I'm a childbirth educator as well.
    A couple good books that might really help you (the first one addresses faith in God vs. bad things happening, written by someone I know) are:
    When Answers Aren't Enough by Matt Rogers
    and
    Empty Cradle, Broken Heart by Deborah L. Davis
    there are many others if you search on Amazon too.
    Prayers for all of you trying to conceive after losses!

    sidenote, with our middle child, we had two early losses in a row and did not wait to try again, sure enough, conceived again the next time. there is an article I think in midwifery enews regarding this too.
  • southergirl83 Nov 7, 2010 @ 8:39 pm | delete
    I am still here and I have been a christian my entire life. I was saved at 3 and very active in church until recently. We have now lost our 8th child and I am beginning to believe that God does not want me to give birth to a child, maybe I will end up adopting some day. Thank you for the information about the books, I will see what I can find we just moved for work so being in a new state with a fresh start not knowing anyone to look at us like we are crazy for being 27 with no kids will be nice. The thing I have found is that out of all the times that my faith has been tested on whether or not God loves me now is the worst. I keep remembering back at 3 when my faith was so pure and everyone told me "God will fulfill the desires of your heart" well the desire of my heart is to be a mother and grandmother someday but I guess God never says how he will fulfill that desire. Everyone's comments and experiences have helped me get through this, Thank you
  • Jared307 Nov 30, 2010 @ 2:11 pm | delete
    Dear southerngirl83,

    Have your doctor's really looked into your Graves disease? Issues with your thyroid can affect your hormone levels, especially during pregnancy and cause miscarriage. My sister-in-law suffered at least one, that I know of, before she was diagnosed with Graves disease. She chose to have her thyroid removed and take synthetic hormone replacements. She then went on to have two healthy babies.

    On a separate note, adoption doesn't make you any less of a mother. My father was adopted and I don't look at his mother any differently as I do my other grandmother. To her, my dad was always her baby. She just didn't meet him until he was two.

    Either way, I wish you all the best. I know what it's like to have a baby and what it's like to miscarry. My son will be four in March and I just lost a baby on November 7.

    Good luck and take care!
  • Kristin Ann Aug 8, 2010 @ 1:11 pm | delete
    I went into the doctor to find out what i was having. i was almost 20 weeks, I was so excited! I went in he could not find the heart beat right away so he did an ultrasound and Nothing...The Baby Was there, just no heartbeat. He sent me home, told me to expext pain and told me i could deliever the baby at home... And to call him if I was soaking a pad in more than an hour. Friday Night And Saturday night I had extream pain durning the night, but during the day I was fine..Sunday night came,,, It was so painful! Worse than Labor!!! Blood was dripping out of me and i was in extreame pain. I could no longer stand. I crawled into my bedroom, woke up my fiance and told him I needed to get to the er fast. (i thought I was gonna die) When we got there I was trying to pull down my pants to get ready or the doctor to come in and tons of blood started coming out, like someone turned on the faucet full blast! and blood clots the size of my fist... But that wasnt proof enough for the e.r doctor that I was having a miscarriage...so while all this was going on he had to give me a pap/exam..It was AWFUL! I told him how much it hurt and he wouldnt stop. I seriously just wanted to kick him in the face...Finially after 10 shots of morphine that didnt help I got an epedirl and finially the pain dulled... Hours later I finially delivered my baby with my 1 yr old daughter sleeping in my arms in the hospital bed.. I buzzed the doctor in and he told me that I had a baby boy :( It appeared that the cord had gotten wrapped around his neck. He called it a freak accident cause it rarely happens at that stage of pregnancy... It was a hard greiving process, I felt like god hated me, and i was worthless and didnt deserve him :( But now 4 months later...Still saddened by the loss of my little man, but yesterday I found out i am pregnant again! I am so excited, but super scared! I told my fiance but afraid to tell anyone else...I am so affraid that it will happen again. I just gotta keep telling myself to stay strong, eat healthy, pray everyday, and everything will be ok!
  • pregnancymatters Aug 8, 2010 @ 5:30 pm | delete
    Kristin, I am happy that you have conceived again so soon. Though your case is a little unusual, some things are beyond us. Cherish the memories of your son and I pray that all goes well with your new pregnancy.
    I will be praying for you.
  • kloset2kloset Sep 24, 2010 @ 10:14 am | delete
    Can you keep me informed of your progress? I just lost our son at 19 weeks due to cord stricture they believe. I am devastated as this is the 3rd miscarriage in a row, but I have 3 perfectly healthy kids. I am hoping to get pregnant again, and praying this freak of an accident wouldn't happen again.
  • pregnancymatters Oct 1, 2009 @ 7:24 am | in reply to jjj1 | delete
    Your story is truly inspiring. To think that your wife kept going for ivf treatment after ivf treatment until she got what she wanted at the eight attempt is nothing short of inspiring.

    I really salute her courage and I hope that your story will encourage other women going through a similar experience.

    As long as there is life, there is always hope

    Thanks for sharing your story.
  • jjj1 Sep 28, 2009 @ 3:56 pm | delete
    My wife had a miscarriage the first time we tried IVF. Because it was a private clinic, they immediately tested her for Lupus antibiodies and killer cells (on the NHS you have to have THREE miscarriages before tests). They found she had Lupus antibiodies which thickened the blood and so each future IVF attempt was accompanied by daily blood-thinning injections and a junior asprin per day. At attempt no 8 she carried two beautiful babies to full term and we now have three year old twin boys.

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