Getting Back Together After A Break Up: Will It Really Work?

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Getting Back Together After A Break Up: Will It Really Work?

Will getting back together after a break up work?

No matter how much in love you are with your partner, there will always be things about the person that you don't like or that irritate you. That's perfectly normal. After all, there are things about ourselves that we can't stand. Break ups will happen. Question is whether to get back together.

Seriously! Will getting back together after a break up really work?

Getting Back Together After A Break Up: Allow Yourself To Hurt If Needed 

Sometimes you hurt inside so bad, that you cannot really hear anything else. Especially if there is a notion that maybe... just maybe you could have been more tolerant. Wait...just wait...don't walk away from here. Just facing up to it may help you get back together and make it work.

Easier said than done. Right? Who else but the person who is suffering the hurt can appreciate it? Fine! So, go ahead and take time to hurt. The difference though is that you set yourself a time limit. 30 minutes? An hour? Take out a piece of paper and start pouring your heart out. Write what hurt you, how bad you feel, how angry and upset you are. Draw pictures, use colors. Give full vent to the hurt you feel.

Chances are that some people will cry. Just go ahead and do that and get it out of your system.

When time is up, tear up the paper(s) into tiny shreds. Imagine that you are also tearing up the hurt. As you throw away the pieces of paper, imagine that you are also throwing away the hurt.

Now, you may feel worn out, but typically most people also feel better after this.

Getting Back Together After A Break Up: Do Something Else To Get Your Mind Of It 

Next, do something physical. Go to the gym. Or put on some music and dance away. Have a game of squash if you like that. Idea is to sweat it out.

Go full out whatever you do. Will the hurt totally go away? Probably not...but at least you are not focusing on it.

Getting Back Together After A Break Up: Is This Relationship Is Worth Saving? 

Before you decide that you want to get back together, take out a piece of paper and start writing down what is so great about this relationship?

Think back when you when you first started with the relationship. What was it that you liked about this person? What was it that you did NOT like about the person and why despite that you decided to develop the relationship?

What were you willing to do because you liked your partner that you did not take the trouble to do once you were in the relationship?

For some people, the excitement is all in the physical aspects of the relationship. Unfortunately, this is not enough for a long term relationship. Are you willing to do that extra for a lasting relationship?

You will need to decide if there is something worth saving. Only then will you have a purpose based on which you can build a plan. Then to work your plan.

Getting together after a break up will really work if you can find that purpose.

Getting Back Together After A Break Up: Develop Your Plan And Work Your Plan 

Now is the time for a plan for getting back together after a break up. Here is where you can do with a little help from someone who has developed techniques that will help people who want to get back together after a break up.

The book The Magic of Making Up describes four stages, representing the growth you will go through to help you get from the emotional suffering you are feeling to regaining control and putting into action your plans for making up.

Stage 1: Understanding - In this stage you discover the most common reasons people break up

Stage 2: Getting your Head On Straight - Being depressed and angry is far from being in a state to attract your ex back. This stage is about sorting you out to become more attractive.

Stage 3: Assessment - Here you are going to take a deeper look into your relationship and work out a plan that will win your ex's heart back.

Stage 4: Work the plan - Now you have a plan to get your ex back, you just need to work it with the simple and effective techniques outlined in The Magic of Making Up.

Getting Back Together After A Break Up: Should You Get Back Together? 

It is not often that people break up to have experiences based on which to do the right things.

Do you want effective ways of getting over the breakup?
Do you want to some out of this a much, much better person than before the breakup?

You can click here to read a review of T W Jackson's The Magic of Making Up. He is sometimes unconventional but effective. He may just bring out in you things that you never thought you had.

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