How To Stop People Taking Advantage of You

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Exploring the ways in which people take advantage of someone

 

Do people take advantage of you? Perhaps people use your ideas and claim them as their own? Maybe you've been mislead about the facts? In extreme cases you might have been bullied, lied to and subject to the narcissistic ambitions of others. Imagine...never being duped again!

Why do some people always seem to take advantage of others? How do some people have the advantage taken of their good nature? What can you do to stop people taking advantage of you? As you know people can take advantage of us in a variety of situations. It is the dark side of our naturally co-operative instinct. When we co-operate or share we place our trust in others and anticipate that this will be reciprocated.

People who abuse this trust or deliberately take advantage of our vulnerability or dependency take advantage of us. This happens in one to one relationships, the workplace, the school yard, and even in society and invariably involves a combination the abuse of power, the deployment of deceit, and betrayal of trust So, cheaters, con artists, bullies, betrayers, and traitors are all in the business of taking advantage of us in some form or other.

They are self serving individuals who have little care for the feelings and consequences of their actions for others. Psychologically they tend towards socio-pathic behaviour and show narcissistic character traits. Ultimately people who take you for a fool, who try to dupe you, who deliberately try and deceive you are what Eric Fromm would call 'life thwarters'. The opposite of 'life enhancers' When people take advantage of us they rely on us devoting our thoughts to the people involved, "what did I do wrong", "how could they do that to me", "what makes me so gullible". You might like to know that there is no such thing as a gullibility gene so you can let your yourself off the hook. 

Psychologists call this a Fundamental Attribution Error, where we blame the person more than we blame the situation. People who take advantage of us are highly skilled at manipulating the situation we are in in order that we operate on false assumptions. So, one of the best ways of avoiding being taken advantage of is to critically look at the situation you are in and how that can be set up so that you are more easily duped, conned, or betrayed. Control the situation and you control the person. When you get time you might also like to visit:

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Carrot Egg Coffee 

Are you at the effect of the situation?



A friend sent me this story:

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to survive and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.
Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.'
'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg.

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 'What does it mean , mother?'

Her mother explained that! Each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were
Unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?
Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is
The darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level?

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy. The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in
Life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches.
When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling.

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying.

You might want to send this message to those people who mean something to you to those who have touched your life in one way or another; to those who make you smile when you really need it; to those who make you see the brighter side of things when you are really down; to those whose friendship you appreciate; to those who are so meaningful in your life.

May we all be coffee!!!!!!

Dealing With Office Gossip 



Office gossip is the bane of office life. It is destructive and unproductive. Whilst some of it might be regarded as 'fun' it can often undermine the reputation of people and destroy their self esteem

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How To Stop People Taking Advantage Of You 

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Knowing a great deal is not the same as being smart - Dr. Carl Sagan 

Travels into Several Remote Notions

So, where does an interest in how to stop people taking advantage of you come from?

Well, the idea orginated when a buddy of mine and I were thinking back over our expriences at home and the workplace. We were having a laugh at ourselves over those occaisions where we'd really been taken for fools and how we had learned from the experience.

We had, what we thought was a spark of inspiration to write a book called Gullibles Travels (after Gullivers Travels of course) only to find that others had beaten us to it. To read the full story go to Gullibility - Travels into Several Remote Notions

The Gullibility blog is a collection of stories, ideas, and resources about how to avoid people taking advantage of you by recognising the beliefs we take for granted, and how our assumptions about things can lead us into trouble. Ranging from a sceptical look at news stories through to full on philosophical introductions to critical thinking, critical theory and the ways of knowing what we know the exploration of how to stop people taking advantage of me, aims to show how you can being being taken advantage of by others.

The idea behind this lens and the gullibility blog is that we are all in a state of change, and that sometimes difficult experiences, challenges to cherished ideas, and looking at things through new 'lenses' are part of the way we can stop being taken advantage of.

As a result we are exploring what might be called 'several remote notions'; ideas that are slightly off the beaten track and a bit deeper than your usual 'celebophile' gossip column. 'Several remote notions' is an idea we are rather chuffed about as the proper title to Gulliver's Travels is... Travels into Several Remote Nations.

We hope to point you to some interesting stuff, and if you have eaten a beating moles heart - you'll know all of this anyway... if Pliny was right that is. Now if you believe that you'll believe anything!

Annals of Gullibility: Why We Get Duped and How to Avoid it 



Have you ever thought, now that's a book I should have written? Well, congratulations to Stephen Greenspan, who has scored a direct hit with this book.
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Amazon introduce the book as: an unprecedented examination of gullibility, how we develop this tendency to be duped, and what we can do to become less apt to be fooled. The first book to provide a comprehensive look at the problem of gullibility, this groundbreaking work covers topics from how we are fooled in areas from religion, politics, science, and medicine, to personal finance and relationships.

Critical Theory 

What philosophers think about how to stop people using you.

Critical Theory is a Philosophical basis for critical thinking. Many of its creators talk about how big business and big media dupe us into thinking that we need things that we don't really have to buy.

Critical theory is the examination and critique of society and culture, drawing from knowledge across the social sciences and humanities. The term has two quite different meanings with different origins and histories, one originating in social theory and the other in literary criticism. Though until recently these two meanings had little to do with each other, since the 1970s there has been some overlap between these disciplines. This has led to "critical theory" becoming an umbrella term for an array of theories in English-speaking academia. This article focuses primarily on the differences and similarities between the two senses of the term critical theory.

Jurgen Habermas 

Jürgen Habermas ([http://books.google.fi/books?id=98bFe11o0TgC&printsec=frontcover&hl=en&source=gbs_navlinks_s#v=onepage&q=Habermas&f=false The Complete Idiot's Guide to Understanding Ethics]; David Ingram, Jennifer A. Parks; ; born June 18, 1929) is a German sociologist and philosopher in the tradition of critical theory and American pragmatism. He is perhaps best known for his work on the concept of the public sphere, the topic of his first book entitled The Structural Transformation of the Public Sphere. His work focuses on the foundations of social theory and epistemology, the analysis of advanced capitalistic societies and democracy, the rule of law in a critical social-evolutionary context, and contemporary politics?particularly German politics. Habermas's theoretical system is devoted to revealing the possibility of reason, emancipation, and rational-critical communication latent in modern institutions and in the human capacity to deliberate and pursue rational interests.

Herbert Marcuse 

Herbert Marcuse () (July 19, 1898 - July 29, 1979) was a German-Jewish philosopher, political theorist and sociologist, and a member of the Frankfurt School. Celebrated as the "Father of the New Left,Douglas Kellner. " his best known works are Eros and Civilization, One-Dimensional Man and The Aesthetic Dimension. Marcuse was a major intellectual influence on the New Left and student movements of the 1960s.

Max Horkheimer 

Max Horkheimer (February 14, 1895 - July 7, 1973) was a German philosopher and sociologist. He is well known for being a leader in the Frankfurt School, for his work with critical theory and his most important works: The Eclipse of Reason (1947), The Dialectic of Enlightenment (1947) and Critical Theory: Selected Essays (1972). Through the Frankfurt School, Horkheimer also planned, supported and made other works possible."Horkheimer, Max" Dictionary of the Social Sciences. Craig Calhoun, ed. Oxford University Press 2002. Oxford Reference Online. Oxford University Press. College of the Holy Cross. 14 October 2009

Social Psychology 

All about what makes people tick

This is the subject that you really need to study if you want to understand how people can take you for granted. It studies the ways in which people interact and how they use people to get their own way.

Social psychology is the scientific study of how people's thoughts, feelings, and behaviors are influenced by the actual, imagined, or implied presence of others.Allport, G. W. (1985). The historical background of social psychology. In G. Lindzey & E. Aronson (Eds.), The handbook of social psychology. New York: McGraw Hill. By this definition, scientific refers to the empirical method of investigation. The terms thoughts, feelings, and behaviors include all of the psychological variables that are measurable in a human being. The statement that others may be imagined or implied suggests that we are prone to social influence even when no other people are present, such as when watching television, or following internalized cultural norms.

Social psychologists typically explain human behavior as a result of the interaction of mental states and immediate social situations. In Kurt Lewin's famous heuristic formula, behavior can be viewed as a function of the person and the environment, B=f(P,E).Lewin, K. (1951). Field theory in social science: Selected theoretical papers. D. Cartwright (Ed.). New York: Harper & Row. In general, social psychologists have a preference for laboratory based, empirical findings. Their theories tend to be specific and focused, rather than global and general.

Social psychology is an interdisciplinary domain that bridges the gap between psychology and sociology. During the years immediately following World War II, there was frequent collaboration between psychologists and sociologists.Sewell, W. H. (1989). Some reflections on the golden age of interdisciplinary social psychology. Annual Review of Sociology. Vol. 15. However, the two disciplines have become increasingly specialized and isolated from each other in recent years, with sociologists focusing on "macro variables" (e.g. social structure) to a much greater extent. Nevertheless, sociological approaches to social psychology remain an important counterpart to psychological research in this area.

In addition to the split between psychology and sociology, there has been a somewhat less pronounced difference in emphasis between American social psychologists and European social psychologists. As a broad generalization, American researchers traditionally have focused more on the individual, whereas Europeans have paid more attention to group level phenomena.Moscovici, S. & Markova, I. (2006). The making of modern social psychology. Cambridge, UK: Polity Press. See Group dynamics.

Forer Effect 

You might think that there is a sucker born every minute. Forer or Barnum statements are the stuff of cold readers. Broad generalisations that an uncritical person believes to be a precise statement about themselves.

The Forer effect (also called personal validation fallacy or the Barnum Effect after P. T. Barnum's observation that "we've got something for everyone") is the observation that individuals will give high accuracy ratings to descriptions of their personality that supposedly are tailored specifically for them, but are in fact vague and general enough to apply to a wide range of people. This effect can provide a partial explanation for the widespread acceptance of some beliefs and practices, such as astrology, graphology, fortune telling, and some types of personality tests.

A related and more generic phenomenon effect is that of subjective validation. Subjective validation occurs when two unrelated or even random events are perceived to be related because a belief, expectancy, or hypothesis demands a relationship. Thus people seek a correspondence between their perception of their personality and the contents of a horoscope.

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Con Tricks 

Confidence tricks and scams are difficult to classify, because they keep changing and often contain elements of more than one type. This list should not be considered complete, but covers the most well-known confidence tricks. Throughout this list, the perpetrator of the confidence trick is frequently called a "con artist" or simply "artist", and the intended victim called a "mark".

Con Tricks 

Con Tricks
There is, according to legend, a sucker born every day, and of course there are many confidence tricksters around who are all too ready to relieve them of their wealth.

Two main levers of confidence tricksters are gullibility and greed. They will exploit the incautious and naive and offer something for nothing as an appeal to our natural desires.
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Victor Lustig 

The most accomplished 'con artist' of all time.

Victor Lustig (January 4, 1890 - March 11, 1947) was a con artist who undertook scams in various countries and became best known as "the man who sold the Eiffel Tower. Twice.".

Hoaxes 

A hoax is a deliberate attempt to deceive or trick an audience into believing, or accepting, that something is real, when the hoaxer knows it is not; or that something is true, when it is false. In an instance of a hoax, an object or event is not what it appears to be or what it is claimed to be; for example, "snake oil," which was sold by 19th century traveling salesmen in the United States as a cure-all. A hoax differs from a magic show in that the audience is unaware of being deceived - whereas in watching a magician perform a magical act, the audience expects to be tricked.

It is possible to perpetrate a hoax by making only true statements using unfamiliar wording or context (see Dihydrogen monoxide hoax). Unlike a fraud or con (which is usually aimed at a single victim and are made for illicit financial or material gain), a hoax is often perpetrated as a practical joke, to cause embarrassment, or to provoke social change by making people aware of something. Many hoaxes are motivated by a desire to satirize or educate by exposing the credulity of the public and the media or the absurdity of the target. For instance, the hoaxes of James Randi poke fun at believers in the paranormal and alternative medicine. The many hoaxes of Alan Abel and Joey Skaggs satirize people's willingness to believe the media. Political hoaxes are sometimes motivated by the desire to ridicule or besmirch opposing politicians or political institutions, often before elections. Journalistic scandals overlap with hoaxes to some extent.

Some governments have been known to perpetrate hoaxes to assist them with unpopular aims such as going to war (e.g., the Ems Telegram, or the Dodgy Dossier). In fact, there is often a mixture of outright hoax, and suppression and management of information to give the desired impression. In wartime, rumours abound; some may be deliberate hoaxes.

The word hoax is said to have come from the common magic incantation hocus pocus. "Hocus pocus", in turn, is commonly believed to be a distortion of "hoc est corpus" ("this is the body") from the Latin Mass.

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Liar Liar 

Tells


Liars depend on our gulliblity. They want us to assume that what they say is truthful by accepting their version of things uncritically. They trade on the fact that most people find it socially uncomfortable to challenge some body elses claims because it generates the implied reaction 'how dare you disbelieve what I tell you'

Liars are skilled at constructing alternative versions of events. They become so skilled that they 'enter into the deception' almost becoming convinced of their own fabrications. In this way they defend themselves by appearing authentic.

Probing questions are the key to unlocking the liar. Inconsistencies can be identified in the 'facts' and chronology. Creating space to listen to what the liar has to say rather than jumping in and challenging things is a good method too. Give them enough rope and they will hang themsleves as they say. The liar relies on cues to determine how effective their lies are. By reacting to each and every one of their statements we provide the liar with key information as to 'how well they are doing' and the extent and gaps in our knowledge. They then use this information to improve the deception.

To some extent we are all liars. Erving Goffman in his book The Presentation of Self in Everyday Life describes and explains how we all portray a 'front' a 'persona'. These personae are taken for granted in everyday social situations. They go unchallenged and because of this we are vulnerable to misrepresentation.

Always question the motive and reason people have for saying what they say. What's in it for them? Why are they reluctant to elborate on the things you ask and really keen to elaborate on the things they want you to believe. Are you being asked to take things on face value, place your faith in what they say or are you freely given facts and information in order that ou can judge for yourself. If the other person wants to control the meaning of things rather than you then chances are something is amiss. If you smell a rat then its probably there!


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Spotting A Bare Faced Lie 



Legal academic Stefan Fafinski has set up a website called:


Honestylab.com to research the ways in which people can spot a liar.

His main concern was studying jury service, where ordinary men and women have to judge the claims of witnesses and defendants on face value..

Narcissistic 

The destructive and self attitiude of people who take advantage.

image - Narcissus, by Michelangelo Caravaggio, ca. 1598.


A Narcissist is defined as as 'someone in love with themselves', 'someone who indulges in self love based on self image or ego, a person full of egoism and pride'

People who are narcissists can cause untold pain and destruction to those around them. Often in the first instance they someone who is highly appealling or someone who is a so called 'significant other' in your life.

Because of this you place your trust in them, what they say and the things they say about you and others.

Being self assured is a benevolent effect of narcissism but it is when it migrates into malignant narcissism and exhibits itself as Narcissistic Personality Disorder that social dysfunction happens.

People who behave in this way lie, they blow up their own self worth, they are devious and cunning, and avoid taken responsibility for their actions.

I have worked with people who behaved as if they were what I called 'Medieval Kings' they held the power of grace and favour, employment or job loss and constantly sought to find the reason for failings in other people and external events.

Much has been written on this topic, and it is a recognised psychological disorder.

There are several specialist web sites too:

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How do you stop people taking advantage of you? 

Do you have a way to stop people taking advantage of you? If you do, why not share it here and help someone change their life.

reasonablerobinson wrote...

in reply to LaraineRose I think that is good advice Laraine

ReplyPosted November 07, 2009

LaraineRose wrote...

Some say, "Live and Learn." I say, "Live BUT learn." My folks taught us to learn from other's mistakes. I believe that this helped. I read it all and will always remember about the "Carrot, egg or coffee."

ReplyPosted November 07, 2009

spunkyduckling wrote...

Great carrot egg coffee story. I've favorited it. Thank goodness my days of being taken advantage of has been over years ago.

ReplyPosted October 19, 2009

WindyWinters wrote...

I really enjoyed reading this lens. Very good points! Happy Squidooing!

ReplyPosted August 05, 2009

reasonablerobinson wrote...

in reply to XpectMorebizsolutions Thank you for visiting I'm delighted you are less prone to B.S. and excellent situation. People who read this might also find this link helpful Bullshit Deflectors

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XpectMorebizsolutions wrote...

This is a great lens with a different perspective on Gullible that I have ever heard.

I find that I am now less gullible. I have been taken advantage of to many times that I am finally catching on to the B. S. I got tired of it.

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infoking1 wrote...

diggyisking, I do believe is right. In school , starting around age 12, I used to pretend to believe everything I was told by a classmate. Soon, more and more would tell me taller and taller tales, And I would in turn, eat them up. They all thought I was oh so gullible. But all the while I couldn't understand how so many of them could be so eager to believe that it was I who was gullible. I still wonder if any of them figured out that I was hoodwinking them. Human Psychology
is fascinating.

ReplyPosted March 05, 2009

diggyisking wrote...

I think people are more prone to take advantage of you if they feel they can. So if you portray yourself as a fool or someone gullible with no strong standpoints, people will see you as a victim and pick on you. If they realise you are someone with strong standpoints, they will try less , but even then, you can just say no, and they will not be able to use you!

ReplyPosted January 09, 2009

reasonablerobinson wrote...

in reply to spirituality Ha ha - thanks for visiting and leaving a comment

ReplyPosted November 14, 2008

spirituality wrote...

Impressive lens with some great points. Unfortunately I don't think this will help me never get duped again...

ReplyPosted November 14, 2008

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