Are You Unhappy? Simplify Your Pursuit of Lasting Happiness: Learn How to Be Truly Happy and Live Your Best Life

Find True Happiness: Learn How to Be Truly Happy and Live Your Best Life

The pursuit of happiness is vital to our life satisfaction. All of us want to lead meaningful and fulfilling lives... we want to enhance our experiences of love and relationships as well as work and play... we want to find true happiness.

The pursuit of happiness doesn't have to be so hard. You don't have to be unhappy -- misery is ONLY an option. You can simplify and enjoy the process of finding your own happiness.

This lens will offer strategies that have been used effectively in the pursuit of lasting happiness as well as answers to frequently asked questions on how to be happy:

* What is happiness?

* What makes people happy?

* What are simple ways to find lasting happiness?

Yes, you can learn how to be truly happy and live your best life!

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What Are the Keys to Finding True Happiness?

Some people always manage to find a way to be happy... to love and be loved... to be "successful" in it's purest form -- no matter what actually happens to them. Catastrophic events in their lives don't seem to cripple them and stop them permanently. They might pause a little bit to treat their "wounds"... they might even retreat from the world for sometime. But almost always, they manage to heal and recover emotionally from what was going on... they manage to move forward with their lives and be happy. What's their secret?

What are the keys to finding true happiness?

I'm certain it's not about luck, but a way of looking at the world... a certain attitude. People that are happy tend to be more emotionally intelligent than others -- they tend to make choices that help them get the best out of life. In contrast, unhappy people tend to make choices that keep them stuck in misery. Even when they have happy moments, they seem to find a way to mess things up and keep themselves miserable.

The Pursuit of Happyness: Part I

The Pursuit of Happyness Part 1

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Are You Happy? Do You Know How to Be Happy?

Are you happy? Do you know how to create and find true happiness?

Some people are miserable and unhappy... and they usually don't do anything to find a solution for their unhappiness. Most unhappy people hope that they will be happy someday -- they will be happy when they find their ideal soul mate... they will be happy vwhen they finish school and start their dream career... they will be happy when they land their perfect job... they will be happy when they make a lot of money... and so on.

Why are so many people miserable and unhappy?

The truth is that most people just don't know how to be happy. They don't know how to take simple pleasures in everyday life.

Most people know how to entertain and amuse themselves -- they know how to have fun... they know how to go to parties... they know how to go to the best shows -- but, they don't know how to be happy.

Most people know how to achieve their career goals and succeed -- they know how to move up the corporate ladder... they know how to build a successful business... they know how to achieve incredible things in their careers -- they expect and hope to find happiness *after* they achieve their financial and career goals, but they usually still end up being miserable.

Most people know how to create wealth, but they don't know how to create happiness. Most people know how to have fun on dates, but they don't know how to be happy in their relationships.

Sadly, you can learn almost anything at school -- except how to be happy.

Most parents teach their children valuable skills in life, but they usually don't teach their children how to be happy. Quite often, the reason is that they can not teach what they do not know.

Why is happiness such an elusive concept for most people? Happiness is not something that we can pursue directly -- it's usually the by-product of doing things we love to do.

Most happy people are passionate about various things -- they are happy when they are doing the work they love... they are happy when they are spending time with their family and friends... they are happy when they're enjoying art or music... they are happy when they're walking in the park... they are happy when they're dancing or just reading quietly.

Most happy people find happiness just by enjoying the process of living -- by being and doing the things they love -- they follow their bliss wherever it leads them.

The Pursuit of Happyness: Part II

The Pursuit of Happyness Part 2

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How to Be Truly Happy: What Are Simple Ways to Find Lasting Happiness?

Can you learn how to be truly happy? If so, what are simple ways to find lasting happiness?

By understanding the science of happiness and applying the findings, more people can learn how to be happy and enjoy greater life satisfaction. But, finding lasting happiness is not just about feeling good or feeling positive emotions for the sake of pleasure.

Happiness and other positive emotions may have a powerful influence on our health. They can make your immune system function better, provide a protective effect against some diseases and even help you live longer.

Happiness and related mental states, such as, hopefulness, optimism and contentment appear to decrease the risk or limit the severity of diabetes, hypertension, cardiovascular and pulmonary diseases as well as colds and upper-respiratory infections.

The good news is that your level of happiness can be changed widely -- up or down -- based on findings from research studies on happiness and other related positive mental states.

So, no matter what your level of happiness is at this time -- whether you're very unhappy or less happy than you would like -- you can learn to be truly happy and get the best out of life.

According to Seligman, author of "Authentic Happiness: Using the New Positive Psychology to Realize Your Potential for Lasting Fulfillment," the best strategy for increasing your level of happiness involves working on the three components of happiness:

· Pleasure -- You can savor more sensory experiences and get more pleasure out of life.

· Engagement -- You can become more engaged in what you do. You can increase the depth of your involvement with your family, friends and other relationships as well as your hobbies, work and play.

· Meaning -- You can find a sense of purpose in your life. You can find ways to make your life more meaningful.

NOTE: If you're often sad or very unhappy, you may have clinical depression which requires medical attention. If you have clinical depression, the extreme opposite of happiness, this causes important changes in your brain chemistry. Getting help from your physician or mental health professional -- for example, by getting medication or therapy -- can relieve some of your symptoms and help you feel better. Your physician or therapist can also give you some guidance on finding happiness after your clinical depression is managed.

If you're not as happy as you would like and you want to learn how to be truly happy, these are simple ways to find lasting happiness:

· Simplify your life. Less is more. If you have too much stuff to do -- if you're always too busy with work or if your day is over-loaded with too may activities -- there is too little time for you to enjoy what you're doing. Instead, you're probably too stressed out to even notice things that can make you happy.

o If your work keeps you very busy, try managing your time a lot better. If you just have too much to do, figure out which tasks are not absolutely necessary for you to do and stop doing them. You may have to limit your assignments or even decrease your hours.

o If your school work keeps you too busy, you may have to decrease the number of classes you're taking. Of course, you can try managing your time a lot better.

o If you are disorganized, you may be wasting a lot of time. Learn to be more organized.

o If your day is filled with too may activities, figure out the most important activities that need to be done and just focus on doing those things.

o Get help from you family and friends, if possible. You can also consider hiring some people to help you with some tasks.

· Learn to appreciate the good things in your life. Open your eyes. Open your heart. Learn to appreciate what you already have in your life. Appreciation can only come from paying attention. If you're too busy, it makes it harder to notice the good things you already have in your life.

· Express gratitude at least once a week or as often as possible. Studies have shown that people who take the time to "count their blessings" once a week significantly improved their satisfaction with life. People who express gratitude on a regular basis have better physical health and well-being.

· Make a difference in someone's life or perform random acts of kindness. You can help your family, a friend in need or even a stranger. You can do volunteer work in your community or you can volunteer online. You can call, email or visit your grandparents. Performing acts of altruism or kindness, makes you feel good about yourself. This can make you feel more connected to other people and can put more meaning in your life.

· Accept yourself and your emotions. No matter how happy you are, you are going to be sad, anxious or lonely sometimes. If you try to be happy all the time - and you reject yourself or feel guilty if you're not happy or being positive - you are actually going to make yourself very unhappy.

· Try to avoid using too many shoulds, oughts, musts and have tos because they can make your life miserable. Instead, replace them with more rational thinking based on preferences, acceptance and tolerance. Change "I must," "I should," "I ought to" or "I have to" into "I wish," "I prefer" or "I can tolerate."

· When you're feeling down, do something to lift your spirits. Do something special for yourself or pamper yourself. Simple activities, such as, shopping and enjoying a good meal, can make some people happy. Although studies have shown that they do not lead to long-term fulfillment, they can provide some pleasure and distraction.

· If you lost a friend or a relationship has ended, try talking to your family and friends or doing an activity that can help you deal with your loss. Use a coping strategy that has worked well for you in the past. Keep in mind that your feeling of sadness will probably not last. Studies have shown that people typically overestimate how long they will be sad after a bad event, such as a romantic breakup. People who have had a loss recover over time.

· Wealth does not contribute a great deal to your happiness. Once your basic needs are met, particularly when income is above the poverty level, additional income does NOT raise your sense of life satisfaction.

· Your happiness depends on your state of mind. Whatever you focus on will become magnified. If you focus on the negative things - whatever your life is lacking and whatever you've failed to do - you can significantly decrease your sense of life satisfaction. So, try to focus on the positive things in your life - whatever you have and whatever you've already accomplished - and you can increase your contentment and sense of satisfaction in life.

· Your interpretation of events can affect your happiness. If you fail to achieve your goal, do you see it as a minor setback and a learning opportunity? Or do you see it as a catastrophic failure from which you will never be able to recover? Try to have a more realistic interpretation of events in your life.

· Accept yourself and all your imperfections. People who are happy with themselves have problems and imperfections just like you. So, don't bother comparing yourself to other people. Accepting yourself just the way you are can give you a more positive self-esteem and greater happiness.

· Develop a stronger relationship with your family and friends. If you have serious problems with your family -- involving sexual, physical or emotional abuse -- you can deal with the problems to create some resolution. If it's not possible to resolve your problems with your family, you can develop a family-like relationship with your close friends.

· Having meaningful and enjoyable work -- whether it is paid or unpaid activity -- contributes to life satisfaction. Being fully engaged in this activity can be so gratifying that some people are willing to do it for it's own sake instead of what they will get out of it. The activity is it's own reward. If your job does not give you enough satisfaction, doing some volunteer work might give your life more meaning and sense of purpose. This can create greater happiness.

· Find a hobby or an activity that you can be passionate about. Art, music, dance, writing, travel, sports or related activities can keep you fully engaged and create happiness.

In addition to having more fun and getting more pleasure out of life, you can focus on improving the components of happiness that can provide the biggest and most lasting payoff -- engagement and meaning.

The most fundamental finding from studies on the psychology of happiness is that being with other people makes people happy. The "need to belong" is important in life satisfaction. So, it's important to work on improving your social skills in order to build closer connections with others and social support. In turn, this can lead to greater happiness and satisfaction in life.

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Finding True Happiness and the Meaning of Life

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The meaning of life constitutes a philosophical question concerning the purpose and significance of existence and/or biological life in general. This concept can be expressed through a variety of related questions, such as Why are we here?, What is life all about? and What is the meaning of it all? It has been the subject of much philosophical, scientific, and theological speculation throughout history. There have been a large number of answers to these questions from many different cultural and ideological backgrounds.

The meaning of life is deeply mixed with the philosophical and religious conceptions of existence, consciousness, and happiness, and touches on many other issues, such as symbolic meaning, ontology, value, purpose, ethics, good and evil, free will, conceptions of God, the existence of God, the soul, and the afterlife. Scientific contributions are more indirect; by describing the empirical facts about the universe, science provides some context and sets parameters for conversations on related topics. An alternative, human-centric, and not a cosmic/religious approach is the question "What is the meaning of my life?" The value of the question pertaining to the purpose of life may coincide with the achievement of ultimate reality, or a feeling of oneness, or a feeling of sacredness.

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Learn More About Positive Psychology and Apply the Findings to Find True Happiness

How do you achieve a pleasant life, a good life and a meaningful life?

Positive psychology is a recent branch of psychology that "studies the strengths and virtues that enable individuals and communities to thrive". Positive psychologists seek "to find and nurture genius and talent", and "to make normal life more fulfilling", not simply to treat mental illness. This approach has created a lot of interest around the subject, and in 2006 a course at Harvard University entitled "Positive Psychology" became the most popular course that semester. Ben-Shahar, Ben (2007) "Happier - Learn the Secrets to Daily Joy and Lasting Fulfillment", First Edition, McGraw-Hill Co.

Several humanistic psychologists?such as Abraham Maslow, Carl Rogers, and Erich Fromm?developed theories and practices that involved human happiness. Recently the theories of human flourishing developed by these humanistic psychologists have found empirical support from studies by positive psychologists. Positive psychology has also moved ahead in a number of new directions.

Current researchers in positive psychology include Sonja Lyubomirskyhttp://www.faculty.ucr.edu/~sonja/ppl.htmlhttp://www.authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu/newsletter.aspx?id=70, Martin Seligman, Ed Diener, Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi,, C. R. Snyder, Christopher Peterson, Barbara Fredrickson, Donald Clifton, Albert Bandura, Shelley Taylor, Charles S. Carver, Michael F. Scheier, Carol Dweck and Jonathan Haidt.Ong, Anthony D. and Van Dulmen, Manfred H.M. (2006). Oxford Handbook of Methods in Positive Psychology. Oxford University Press U.S.

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