What You Can Do When Your Days Aren't Merry and Bright
For many people instead of the holidays being a time when "the days are merry and bright," they are more likely to be experiencing the blues for many different reasons.
For some people the holiday season can be a very difficult time time of year. It is a time of sadness and loneliness, a time of self-evaluation and reflecting about the past and a time of anxiety about the future year.
This lens takes a look at the "Holiday Blues." With a bit of understanding about this common emotional state, your holidays might be a little less blues.
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What are the Holiday Blues?
The Holidays Blues are defined as "a feeling of sadness, loneliness, depression and even anxiety that often occur in and around the holiday season."It is very helpful for people to realize that while the Holiday Blues can be emotional, intense and upsetting, but they tend to be short-term lasting at the most about 2 weeks.
The Blues end and people generally get better once the holiday season is over and get back into their normal daily routine.
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Factors that Contribute to the Blues
Reason Why People Feel Blue During the Holidays
- Increased stress and anxiety
- Increased financial pressures
- Fatigue
- Unrealistic expectations
- Inability to be with family
- Memories of past holiday celebrations
- Over commercialization
- Change in diet
- Change in daily routines
Who experiences the Blues?
- Someone who has a death in the family
- Someone who has experienced financial setbacks at the holidays
- Someone who is separated from loved ones at the holidays with work, military obligations or other reasons
- Someone who has experienced other losses - moving, recent difficult medical diagnosis
- Someone who has experienced a change in lifestyle - getting married, getting divorced, new baby
- Someone who tends to be depressed, stressed, anxious
How can I recognize the Blues?
- Headaches
- An inability to sleep or sleeping too much
- Changes in appetite that cause either weight loss or gain
- Agitation and anxiety
- Excessive or inappropriate feelings of guilt
- Diminished ability to think clearly or concentrate
- Decreased interest in activities that usually are enjoyable, such as: food, sex, work, friends, hobbies and entertainment.
Basic Ways of Coping with the Holiday Blues
- Take things one day at a time and if need be one hour at a time.
- Try and maintain a normal routine. Keep doing your normal daily activities.
- Get enough sleep or at least enough rest.
- Regular exercise, even walking, helps relieve stress, tension and improve moods.
- Eat a healthy, balanced diet. Limit high calorie foods and junk food.
- Avoid using alcohol, medications or other drugs to mask the pain.
- Do those activities or things and be with the people that comfort, sustain, nourish and recharge you.
- Remember the healthy coping strategies you have used in the past to survive challenges. Draw on these strengths again.
How to feel less blue during the Holidays
- Determine your priorities and establish realistic goals for the holidays.
- Delegate some responsibilities to others.
- Take time for yourself.
- Minimize financial stressors by setting a budget and sticking to it.
- Enjoy free holiday activities.
- Think about giving a free gift from your heart. Your time or your presence.
- Be around supportive people.
- Volunteer and help someone else.
- Create a New Holiday Tradition.
- Find a new place or a new way to celebrate.
Get Your REST Helps in Handling the Holiday Blues
- Reasonable expectations and goals.
Be realistic about what you can and cannot do. Get plenty of rest and relaxation. - Exercise daily.
Eat and drink in moderation. Enjoy free activities. - Simplify to relieve stress.
Set a budget for social activities and gifts. Simple gifts can still bring happiness. - Time to relax and remember.
Spend time with caring, supportive people. Keep in mind that traditions can be changed.
When to Be Concerned
- Constantly sad, anxious, or in an empty mood
- Sleeping too much or too little
- Having insomnia middle-of-the night or early morning waking
- Experiencing a change in appetite either reduced or increased.
- Having a loss of interest or pleasure in activities, including sex
- More irritable or restless
- Experiencing difficulty thinking, concentrating, remembering or making decisions
- More Fatigued or having a loss of energy
- Feeling inappropriate guilt, hopelessness or worthlessness
- Experiencing thoughts of death or suicide
** Anyone with suicidal thoughts or suicidal ideation needs to seek immediate care with their physician, crisis line or the nearest hospital emergency department.**
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More Resources on the Holiday Blues
- Holiday Blues - General Information
- The holidays are supposed to be a joyful time of good cheer and optimistic hopes. From the University of Maryland Medical Center.
- Beat the Holiday Blues
- University of Maryland experts examine the causes of depression around the holidays, and offer advice on how to manage the stress and anxiety associated with this time of year.
- Healing the Holiday Blues
- Healing the Holiday Blues -- a holistic approach to coping with depression by Kenneth Porter, M.D. from Beliefnet.com
- Those Holiday Blues
- From Dr. Gail Carlson, School of Medicine from the University of Missouri Extension.
- The Blues: Holiday or Anyday
- Information on the Blues from the Journey of Hearts website.
- Holiday Hangover Blues
- One of the most difficult times for stepfamilies can be the holiday season. This article offers some helpful suggestions for stepfamilies in beating the blues.
- Holiday 'blues' can be lessened with a few easy tips
- Holiday blues effect many people, but there is something to can do about it from Michael Moran, M.D., at the Adult Psychosocial Medicine at National Jewish Medical and Research Center.
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What else might the Blues be?
- Holiday Blues
- Stress
- Anxiety
- Grief
- SAD - Seasonal Affect Disorder
- Depression
Getting Professional Help for the Blues
Anyone who is experiencing the "blues" consistently over a period of several weeks (more than 2 weeks) should seek professional help.Some of the people that can be contacted to help someone feeling more than the blues include: physicians, primary care providers, mental health care providers, counselors, clergy, crisis lines, support groups, or mental health centers.
Talking with a professional or taking a mental health screening test can help assess whether it's the "blues" or depression.
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Remember that the Blues tend to be Short Term
The Holiday Blues can be emotional, intense and upsetting, but they tend to be short-term, lasting at the most around two weeks.The Blues end and people generally get better once the holiday season is over and they get back into a normal daily routine.
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Reader Feedback on the Holiday Blues Lens
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What do you think about the Holiday Blues?
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rms
Thank you for adding this great lens to the Best Christmas Ever group! Posted December 03, 2007 |
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prosperity66
Some of my friends have the Christmas blues and that is why I generally organize a Christmas party at home. Just hope to give them some fun. Posted November 19, 2007 |
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rms
Wonderful information here. Just what I needed! Posted November 18, 2007 |
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