When I was growing up, and my dad was helping me with Algebra, I clearly remember him saying "Back to the basics." That statement has served me well over the years, not just in mathematics, but in a plethera of problem solving situations.
"The Basics" here is that you have a choice. You may feel trapped, like you don't have a choice, but you always have a choice. Housekeeping may fall behind if you work, but you have a choice. Money may be super-tight if you stay home, but you have a choice. You may be bored or overwhelmed if you stay home with the kids, but you may be bored or overwhelmed if you get a job. What's a woman to do?
Try to get some perspective on the situation. You can do this by speaking to some people you trust. It will also help to make some lists as discussed below, and pray about the choices you have. You will soon make sense of it all.

Start by writing down where you want to be in 5 years, 10 years, and 20 years. Make a chart to include where you want to be financially, educationally, spiritually, experience-wise, physically, etc.
Now, figure out what steps are required for each goal and WRITE THEM DOWN. This may seem a little tedious, but writing it down will help to make it real and purposeful in your mind. Break the steps down as much as possible.
For example: If I want to save up $10K in the next 10 years...I would write that down under "10 years", then I would naturally write $5K under "5 years", then I would figure and write that I need to save $1000 per year or $19.25 per week. Then start doing it.
Example #2: You say that you want to be a bank manager within 5 years. Figure out what education you need and how long that will take and how to pay for it. Divide it by 10 to see what you need to have accomplished within the next 6 months...maybe the first step is research and apply to colleges and financial aid by 6 months. Month 1 is research, month 2 is applying to schools, month 3 is finding financial resources, month 4 is finding childcare, etc. Break it down.