How Do I Get Back Together with My Ex-Boyfriend Fast

Every relationship comes with its own set of baggage. Over time, as you dated your boyfriend, the issues that you couldn't ever seem to quite work out between you started to pile up like a load of dirty laundry. It's likely that, instead of dealing directly with these issues one by one through counseling or other means, you just let the laundry pile up (or maybe you kicked it under the bed - thinking you would get to it later!).

Later, of course, that pile of laundry has turned into the thing that made you break up. So, here you are: still missing your ex-boyfriend and wishing you were back together. Start by following these three crucial steps. I call it Decide, Identify, Imagine.

1. Decide: first you need to decide in your heart that you really want him back. By this, I do not mean just wishing it were true. I mean do what the mystics call "intending" it. That means: you really commit in your heart, mind and soul that you want your ex-boyfriend back in your life. Only then will the universe start doing anything and everything in its power to help make it so.

2. Identify: next, you need to do some soul-searching. You need to identify clearly the list of issues that plagued your relationship. If you are honest with yourself, you will find that some of these issues lead back to - YOU! That's right, this whole thing is not just his fault. It's your fault, together. And, only together can you make things right.

3. Imagine: if you have ever read about the power of creative visualization, read read the book "The Secret," or read the book, "Think and Grow Rich," then you already know the power of imagination. Try this: every morning when you awaken, imagine yourself back together with your ex-boyfriend. But, don't stop there. Imagine what it is you are doing together. Imagine the two of you doing things that make you happy. Imagine the both of you smiling and very much in love. Now, repeat this at least 3 times a day. Hint: to make the effect extra powerful, be sure to associate a lot of positive, strong emotion with the images in your mind.

If it has been days, weeks or months (or longer!) since you have been in a relationship with your ex-boyfriend, in many ways you may have already settled back into your old lifestyle patterns. After all, living for two is quite different than living for one.

Think back to when you were in a relationship with your ex-boyfriend. How was your life different? What types of different decisions did you make then that you have been making since you've been single again? If you recall, relationships are all about compromise.

Many people who have been single again for some time start to get a little - well - self-centered or self-absorbed. Life tends to become "all about me" instead of "all about the two us."

So, before you initiate contact with your ex-boyfriend again, make sure that you are ready to make room for someone else in your life again. After all: it's not always easy to give up one's freedom. Make sure you are ready, or the newly-rekindled relationship may not last.