Want To Know How To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back?
Take it from me, after all I'm a girl so I am telling you this from a girls point of view, if you've split with your girlfriend and now want her back, you're almost certainly doing the wrong things! Let me tell you what some of the right things are...
Do's and Don'ts Of Getting Back Your Ex
DON'T: Cut all communication. Some people say you should do this - something about "absence makes the heart grow fonder". But remember also, "Out of sight, out of mind."
By the same token:
DON'T: Pester the hell out of your ex all the time. Not cutting communication does not automatically mean you need to be calling up, calling round, texting, and generally being a nuisance!
DO: Keep a happy medium of contact. Let your ex know that you're there for him / her, but don't be pushy. Think of how you might play with a cat. If you chase it round, it will quickly get fed up and go off to do it's own thing. But if you don't show it any attention at all, it will get bored, with the same end result. To play with a cat you push a little then pull back a little. You probably did this when you were dating. Do it again now.
DO: Build a life without your ex. This doesn't mean give up on them. But it does mean you should keep active outside of your efforts to win them back. There are two reasons: 1, your ex will (hopefully) see that you are building a better life for yourself. This will make you more attractive to them (trust me!). 2, You'll raise your spirits and enjoy life more if you're doing more. And not only is that directly beneficial to you, it feeds back to reason 1.
DON'T: Constantly keep telling your ex about your wonderful new life. You need to be subtle. If you push it in his / her face, they'll just think the only reason you are doing anything is to please them. Even if that IS the case, be subtle about it.
By the same token:
DON'T: Pester the hell out of your ex all the time. Not cutting communication does not automatically mean you need to be calling up, calling round, texting, and generally being a nuisance!
DO: Keep a happy medium of contact. Let your ex know that you're there for him / her, but don't be pushy. Think of how you might play with a cat. If you chase it round, it will quickly get fed up and go off to do it's own thing. But if you don't show it any attention at all, it will get bored, with the same end result. To play with a cat you push a little then pull back a little. You probably did this when you were dating. Do it again now.
DO: Build a life without your ex. This doesn't mean give up on them. But it does mean you should keep active outside of your efforts to win them back. There are two reasons: 1, your ex will (hopefully) see that you are building a better life for yourself. This will make you more attractive to them (trust me!). 2, You'll raise your spirits and enjoy life more if you're doing more. And not only is that directly beneficial to you, it feeds back to reason 1.
DON'T: Constantly keep telling your ex about your wonderful new life. You need to be subtle. If you push it in his / her face, they'll just think the only reason you are doing anything is to please them. Even if that IS the case, be subtle about it.
by abiwestram
Hi I'm Abi. I'm 21 years old, and love horses, the outdoors, and cakes. Lots of cakes!
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