How Good of a Kisser Are You?

Are You a Good Kisser?
Teaching yourself how to be a better kisser is something that many of us should consider. The fact is, so few of us ever take notice of our kissing skill and naturally assume that we are good kissers. And, because poor kissers are rarely informed by their significant others, most of us continue to be just that - poor kissers. Yet, it need not be this way - you can teach yourself how to be a better kisser.

Even if only one person in a couple makes an effort to become a better kisser, their skills can help improve the other's "game". This can happen very subtly and without the other person fully realizing it. You're probably already aware of this fact - think of some of the kissing experiences you've had when a partner is rushing along too quickly and you bring them to heel by slowing your own mouth's motions. Your unspoken signals are heard and understood by your partner.

The Magical World of Kissing
A kiss is the gateway to romantic and sexual bliss. If this gateway isn't fullfilling then everything that follows will be lacking. The kiss sets the tone for everything that happens afterwards. Kisses have an ebb and flow - a rythym. Just like music, which relies on tension and release, great kisses consist of moments full of blissful calm and expectation punctuated by moments of passion and intensity.

It's accurate to state that great kisses are preceeded by great moments. The unspoken and subtle interplay between romantic partners sets the stage for a fantastic kiss. Therefore, the first step towards learning how to be a better smoocher is to focus on creating the makings of a wonderful kiss - a sense of excitement, attraction, and extreme anticipation. It's fairly safe to say that some of the weakest or most terrible kissing experiences are those that lack this manufactured "moment"; or ones in which a partner tries desperately to use a kiss to create this type of "moment". Always remember, the "moment" must come first and then great kissing will follow naturally. It's a simple concept - create great moments and great kisses will follow. So many try to create great moments by kissing first, but this is wrong.

Creating the Right Moment
So, how do you create these moments? Well, there are a myriad of ways - drinking is one (haha!). But in all honesty, sexual attraction and body chemistry play heavily in setting the stage. Real intimacy, when you are acutely aware of that precious living and breathing person standing opposite you, is also an important ingredient for beautiful "moments". But, the key to creating the right moment for kissing relies on anticipation.

Typically, women are much better at creating this sense than men (no suprise), but it should be learned by both sexes. The idea is to create longing and desire by withholding what your partner desires. Once you get the feeling that your partner wants to kiss you - make them wait. Yet, continue to give them hints that their waiting will be rewarded in due time. Creating this sort of anticipation is the best way to whip up your partner's desire to a fever pitch.