How Not to Judge Others

Why Judging Others is Harmful

Its often been said that when we pass judgment on someone that we are really taking attributes we dislike about projecting them onto other people. This may make the person doing the judging temporarily feel better but you are not only hurting the person being judged but you hurt yourself.

The most important aspect when learning how not to judge others is to also not judge yourself. We are own worst critic and when we learn to look upon our own selves favorably we can begin to see others more favorably is well.

When we spend time and energy making judgments about people we are only going to draw in the type of people who are going to do the same to us. Don't confuse this with some cooky law of attraction garbage because its not. Think about the things both good and bad thats happened in your life. When did the good things happen? Chances are when your thoughts were good intentioned. This applies to the people that we are surrounded by as well.

Every day we judge people and sadly we may not even realize we are doing it. The next time you find yourself tempted to judge someone stop and find good attributes about that person. There are good qualities in each and every one of us and by focusing on that you will not only find you feel better but you will find that people will do the same towards you.

I want to take this a step further the next time you meet someone or hang out with a friend, tell them something you like about them. Look at their reaction when you tell them something good. You will see right then and there that our words, thoughts and actions have a real impact on others.

My Personal Thoughts About Judgment and Religion

Let my preface this with a little background about me. I'm a 32 year old woman from Ada, Oklahoma and as a child I spent a great deal of time in church specifically Southern Baptist Churches.

Have you ever heard someone say they don't attend church anymore because every time they go they leave feeling like dirt? I have and its because often times pastors spend the majority of their time passing judgment on others and what's funny is the Bible speaks against this in many scriptures.

God does not want us to spend time judging other people. God wants us to love and accept others. God wants his children to love and accept people imperfections included. This is the problem I have with religion is the majority of churches I've attended have had some of the most nasty ill intentioned people I've ever seen. These are the type of people who will come up shake your hand give you a hug and then talk bad about you on the phone later that day.

As Christians God wants us to embrace people and show them the love of God. How many more people would discover Gods Peace and Joy if we just loved people? Its not our job to beat people over the head with religion. its our job to love and befriend them.

As Christians you can't love, help and befriend people if you are constantly judging others and preaching hellfire and condemnation. For this reason many people have turned their back on organized religion. Its for this reason why fewer and fewer people quit attending church in the first place.

Who wants to attend church only to leave feeling beat down? Why are people feeling beat down when they leave church you ask, Its because they are hearing about what a sinner they are or what a bad person they are etc etc. God wants us to be uplifted when we attend church not burdened.

This is only one of many reasons why its important to learn how not to judge others

Closing Thoughts on How Not to Judge Others

Life is short and we only get once chance so why not spend that life experiencing all the good and wonderful things around us. We will never truly appreciate all the good around us until we learn how not to judge others. We will only truly grasp all that is good and wonderful in life by looking for the good things in people and ourselves. When we truly appreciate the good in ourselves we will then begin to see more and more good in people.