How to Be an Alpha Male

There is a big difference between being the kind of guy who pushes around other guys, grunts like a fool, and smashes beer cans on his forehead and the natural alpha male. The natural alpha male is not walking around trying to overcompensate for anything, or to try and make himself feel good by pushing around the other guys. He just is. He's that guy that is friendly, inviting, and a natural leader. He relies more on his charisma and charm than anything else.

Instead of trying to look like whatever the "in style" is, he has his own style. He makes his own moves in life, he's not a follower by any means.

These are the kinds of guys that attract women easily and don't have to worry much at all about competition from other guys. In fact, they often end up being friends with the competition, which just makes life easier for them. So, if you are turned off by the idea of trying to be an alpha male because you think that you have to act like those doofy guys who think they are tough in clubs... don't be. That's not the kind of alpha male that we are going to talk about at all in this lens.

You might be wondering, what are the qualities of an alpha male? What kind of things is it that women respond to particularly well about these guys. Well, you are about to find out 4 alpha male qualities that you want to have in spades if you really want to do well with women.

Here are those 4 alpha male qualities:

1) Charming Personality.

They say that charm can disarm the coldest and most cynical of women, and I have to say from experience, that is definitely TRUE. When a guy is charming, it does not matter how much cash is in his 401K or his checking account. It does not matter if he rode in on the bus or in a Maserati. It does not matter if he is six foot four or five foot six. All that matters is that he knows how to make a woman feel something that very few guys are able to make her feel. And she LIKES it.

2) Confidence in Almost Any Situation.

You may not be able to punch your way out of a wet paper bag, but if you are confident enough in most situations, you will never have to. Most women don't care if their guy can last 6 rounds in the ring. They don't care what he can bench press. They DO CARE if you are confident when they are not. See, as long as you can be totally confident when she is not... she will be attracted to YOU.

3) Walk Your Own Line.

This is why the rebels always got the girls. Why the James Dean's were always so cool. Most people are followers. They will do what the rest of the herd does. They will fall into line rather than walk their own. You want to be one of the guys who knows how to walk his own line. That is more than enough to take most women by surprise, just because they are not used to that at all.

4) Be caring without being a emotional wreck.

You don't have to be a cold hearted, good for nothing, well... you get the drift. A natural alpha male is caring when it counts. Sure, you may not goo goo ga ga over the sight of a puppy, but you know when to be caring when a woman needs it. That's all you need to do.

If you were to look around, you would probably find quite a bit of conflicting thought on the way that an alpha male should dress. Some thing that you would have to don a "GQ" kind of look to be describe as an alpha. Others would think that you would have to dress like sports jock or something. Personally, I don't think that there is any "correct" way to dress, other than that you are dressing in a way that makes you look good, shows off who YOU are, and makes you feel comfortable. For some guys, that just means the t-shirt and jeans look. And it also is dependent on the time and the place.

Most of the time, you won't see me rolling around in a suit, but there are times when I do. For business related stuff, I might break out a suit or if I am going to an upscale club, I might do the same. However, you are more likely to see me in a pair of jeans, a t shirt, and that is about it. And I don't think that makes me less of an alpha male at all.