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How To Come Out Of Shyness And Become Confident

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Learn How To Come Out Of Shyness

I used to be a very shy person. I was always anxious, nervous and tense in social situations. When in the company of more than one person, I was generally very quiet, I had no idea how to keep a conversation going - my mind always went blank or I ran out of things to say.

I thought that it was impossible to learn how to come out of shyness, and I almost gave up on life altogether until I stumbled upon some amazing resources that changed everything.

Getting over shyness can seem like a major challenge, but it can be done. It's a skill, an attitude, a state of mind, and it can be learned.

If you're serious and you want learn how to make effortless conversation with anyone, make friends easily and live life to the fullest, then visit ShynessSocialAnxiety.com to see the techniques that helped me overcome my shyness.

I Thought Alcohol Would Help Me Come Out Of Shyness

Yes, alcohol helped tremendously with my shyness. But, the more I relied on alcohol to relax and steady my nerves the more nervous and tense I got when I sobered up. I got to a stage where I needed a few drinks to feel normal.

Now, some psychologists recommend drinking a couple drinks to "loosen up" - just buzzed enough to feel good. If you can handle it, be my guest...just be sure you're not getting drunk.

"WARNING!!
Shy dude + being drunk = shy dude acting a fool"

You'll do stuff that will seriously embarrass you when you sober up...been there and done that (lots of regrets).

I started drinking because I was told it will help my social problems, well, for a while it did...fast forward a few months later and I was drinking significant amounts every day to avoid very uncomfortable withdrawal symptoms. I became a prisoner of the booze. Believe me, becoming physically addicted to alcohol is a nightmare. Plus, it's bad for your liver and bad for your wallet.

Will Facing Your Fears Help You Come Out Of Shyness?

Well, that depends on how YOU go about it.

A friend of mine once told me,

"To get rid of your shyness, you have to face your fears. Find an activity that requires you to deal with other people, then just DO it whether you are really afraid or not."

Well, I used to do just that when I was shy, and you know what? It never helped. Even though I spoke up more often, my shyness never went away.
In fact, on many occasions it backfired and I ended up more nervous than when I started.

Now, don't get me wrong. My friend (Oliver) is nice a guy, and I know he meant well, but this "face your fear" strategy is half-baked.
Forcing yourself to face your fears doesn't make that fear go away if it's irrational in the first place. You have to confront the irrational beliefs that give rise to fear themselves.

In other words,
Facing your fears - confronting irrational beliefs = DEAD WRONG!
Facing your fears + confronting Irrational beliefs = CORRECT!

One Tip That Helped Me Come Out Of My Shyness

"when you're trying to engage others it's not about you it's about them."

Think about it...
Shy people tend to be self-conscious, and when you're self-conscious you become self-focused...you become too concerned about how you look, how you sound, that kind of stuff.

Being self-focused gets in the way of making conservation.

Whenever I feel tongue-tied during conversation, I asks the other person questions about their own lives, this takes the pressure off and gives the other person a chance to talk.


"People like someone who's interested in them just as much, if not more, as someone who's being insightful or hilarious."

learn how to come out of shyness and become confident and charismatic!!

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