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  • Zhana21 Feb 24, 2012 @ 6:34 am | delete
    It is particularly difficult when the narcissist is one's parent.
  • JJNW May 8, 2012 @ 1:54 pm | delete
    Or spouse! ; )
  • Julie May 2, 2011 @ 8:21 am | delete
    I am hoping for a miracle! I have been with a narcissist for 6 years and just figured his problem out now. We have children together and for a whole year I have been trying to get away from him. I have been trying to secretly work to gather up money to leave him. Being that he wont let me work either and hes always home I feel like my hopes of leaving and living a pychologically, emotionally, and physically healthy life for my children as well as myself will never be. Being that he is controlling, judgmental, and verbally aggressive the doors never opened for me to break free. Every now and then he catches these tantrums that consist of something I did wrong so he must question me, insult me putting me to the most biggest peice of excrement he has ever met, until Im in shambles on my knees apologizing for my wrongs. In front of others he's this sweet calm, guy but in closed doors he speaks with fowl words or spurs up a nasty attitude. He at times insults the kids (which just a couple of days ago i put my foot down on that) I realized what his behavior towards the kids were doing to them harm too. But when it balls down to something he does wrong "I don't want to hear this $#!+" He fills everyone up with dreams, goals and plans and things he's going to accomplish but never gets it done. He doesn't work he says he's to superior to the workforce. He wants to be his own boss (which I agree everybody does) but im just tired of the fantasy im 26 years old feel like I have nothing to show for my life because of him. I dropped out of high school when we met and tried several times to better my education but he was not supportive at all. I want to be free from this so bad. I love the man but i wish i can get away and never look back. Help Me!
  • StopTheAbuseInfo May 2, 2011 @ 9:37 am | delete
    Julie, your situation is obviously damaging you, and your children - an I have to tell you it may be physically dangerous. You need professional help. Use the blue link www.Stop-The-Abuse.info above to put yourself in touch with professionals.

    You also need to prepare yourself to leave in a safe manner If you decide to do so - Kim and Steve at that link can advise you.

    Do not wait, take action!
  • Desperate Dec 29, 2011 @ 12:27 am | delete
    I have a 5yr relationship with a narcissist we have 1 1/2 years living together, the only thing I can say is that I was never this drepressed, unhappy, insecure, and abused like I am now. I want and need to leave this relationship but unfortunately I am trapped. I was getting divorce when I met him I was a house wife all my marriage, and after the divorce I went back to school to finish my career to have indepence and support my 2 kids. He knew my situation and he said he was going to be supportive. About two years ago he asked me to move together, but I told him that I needed peace and emotional security because the last year of my career was going to be very stressful, he promised me he was going to give all the support I need it.
    Now I just graduated 5 months ago and it has been so difficult to get a job do to the lack of experience, thats why i feel trapped I have no place to go and no job yet.
    Well this man insults me, belittle me a lot, always telling me I have nothing to put on the table, always compares me with other women specially with his ex's. He always rub me in my face what he spends on me or my kids, controls the money, and he said that I am the worst woman he ever had.
    Lately he started to yell at me for everything, he controls what I want to say, hes very verbally agressive and he's always threating me that he is going to end up the relationship. He acts like I am so lucky to have him, and that i have to be very grateful.
    I am emotionally destroyed and very tired of his cruel games.
  • donna Dec 25, 2010 @ 11:48 pm | delete
    my sister is a narcissist. it is very hard to live with her since everytime i effect her plans she starts a major unnessary fight. she will have her happy highs and her awful lows ussually taken out on me or her boyfriend.she has threatened my life many times and has always gloated about her "amazing jobs" and how rich she is. she will argue and fight with me infront of my friends and to my friends. im pretty calm and usually give in just to keep the peace but its hard sometimes. parents cant do much about it cause they owe her 1,000's of dollars. this has lead me to get kicked out of the house twice, they will kick out the barley legal child to have the loud narcissist calm and happy. i get many mixed signals one day she will want me to move back home the next she will lie to our parents telling them im the one who does all wrong. i just dont know what to do. i want to cut her and my family out of my life but at the same time i just want to come back home.
  • etta Nov 14, 2010 @ 10:29 pm | delete
    My 19 year old daughter who is living with me has strong narcissistic traits .I feel like I'm dying a slow painful death, it's very difficult to co-exist in the same house.I've told her to leave but she said she does not have anywhere to go. I do not believe she wants to leave.She recently dropped out of college only after a couple of months and talks about getting a job. I'm at the end of my rope.
  • Tammy Nov 5, 2009 @ 4:43 am | delete
    I left a good relationship because I thought this person was for me. I went out of state to be with him. To make a long story short he basically made me destoy the life that I had with my fiance and he made my life a living "hell." I now have someone who loves me, but this guy took a toll on my emotions and my life. Please, anyone out there if you fall for someone like that run for your life, because they will ultimately destroy your life and keep living theirs.
  • StartBusinessMentor Sep 22, 2009 @ 10:23 pm | delete
    Great information - I had a boss that had most of those traits - he was REALLY hard to deal with. In the end I left, a pity as otherwise it was a great job.

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