How to Deal With Betrayal

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How to Deal With Betrayal Introduction

How to Deal With Betrayal Introduction

At some point we all have to learn how to deal with betrayal. No matter our gender, race or age being betrayed is something that is going to happen. Its how we handle it that really speaks volumes about who we are. Betrayal comes in many forms and ranges from minor betrayals to betrayals that are life altering. Read on to find out how to deal with betrayal and become all the better for it

How to Deal With Betrayal - What is Betrayal

How to Deal With Betrayal - What is Betrayal

Dealing with betrayal can mean a variety of different things; such as an affair, a breach of trust, a secret told or finding out something out about someone that shattered your world. No matter what the betrayal, the person betrayed walks away feeling hurt, dejected and possibly embarrassed.

Betrayal is something that you would not want to wish upon you worst enemy or for anyone for that matter. It's hard to cope with betrayal because we tend to spend a great deal of time dwelling on the broken promises that were made, all the secrets that may have been exposed about you to other people, and more importantly the trust that has been broken. It can be even harder at times when the person who betrayed you is someone you deeply love. It is never easy learning how to deal with betrayal but it is something you can overcome. We all have the power to rise and overcome even the most painful types of betrayal; but in order to do so one just needs the right tools.

How to Deal With Betrayal - Figure out How to Deal With the Perosn Who Betrayed you

How to Deal With Betrayal - Figure out How to Deal With the Person Who Betrayed you

One of the first things that you will want to begin with is to reflect upon everything that has happened. Spend a lot of time reflecting on what has happened, and decide whether or not it will be worth saving a relationship over.

If you decide that you want to save or repair the relationship then you will have to confront the person who betrayed you and be honest with them about how you feel. It's essential to express to them the following things:

How exactly the person betrayed you
Why you feel betrayed and what you expected from them
How the Betrayal made you feel
What you need from them in order to gain some peace and closure.

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How to Deal With Betrayal - The Importance of Taking Care of Yourself

How to Deal With Betrayal - The Importance of Taking Care of Yourself

After this it is time to let all your emotions about the specific situation drain out of you. If you feel that crying will help you I think that you should cry if you feel that take a long walk may help you than you should take a long walk. Whatever it is that you need to do then do it and let nobody tell you how or how much you need to do in order to express your emotions. Only you can say when you have vented your feelings.

When I first learned how to deal with betrayal It really was one of the most painful experiences I had ever experienced. I know firsthand that betrayal is a very difficult and painful experience. There is no right way to get past it. Essentially we all deal with being betrayed differently. Later I will tell you how I dealt and deal with betrayal.

While many well intended people such as family and friends may tell you that should be able to suck it up and understand that betrayal is just part of life. Dealing with betrayal is so much easier said and done.

I know thinking of a day where you will no longer hurt is hard right now but with time and work it will happen. I learned how to deal with betrayal by getting inspired. I spent time listening to motivating music, and I watched motivating movies in order to empower myself and feel good about myself again. Doing this will brought my spirit sky-high and helped me regulate my emotions the entire time that I was going through my betrayal.

Lastly I had to make a concerted effort to think constructively and not continue to beat myself up over the how's and why's of the situation. I used my experience to help me learn more about relationships and myself which in the end helped me to make better relationship choices in the long run.

In the end learning how to deal with betrayal was not easy but sometimes life is not easy and as cliche as it sounds we truly do have to turn lemons into lemonade. The good news is you are not alone in your pain when learning how to deal with betrayal.

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How to Deal With Betrayal - Is thee any type of betrayal that is unforgiveable?

Is thee any type of betrayal that is unforgiveable?

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NO - People Should always get a second chance

PaulWSutherland says:

Nothing is ever unforgivable. It is purely a matter of choice.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o5O17adznFs ... Trailer form own book on this very subject ... and about bad marriages and relationships...

reasonablerobinson says:

Hard as it seems, forgiving helps you let go. Otherwise the act of betrayal continues to act on you and you ends up suffering over the long run, long after the betrayer has done the deed.

Tipi says:

Forgiveness is a choice we make by and act of our will and we can do that and walk away in peace....we need to know when to walk away. There are instances when such harm is done that it would be foolish to return to a relationship. There's a Proverb that says something like, "As a dog returns to his vomit, a fool returns to his folly". Forgive but don't forget in these kind of situations.

ernieplotter says:

Being able to give a second chance demonstrates the ability to forvige. Even God waits until you are dead to judge...

Yes - There are just somethings so bad they are unforgivable.

binmark says:

Stabbing in the back is a dead sin!

 

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Thoughts and Comments for How to Deal with Betrayal

  • siobhanryan Mar 21, 2012 @ 6:37 pm | delete
    Betrayal is the deepest cut of all.I feel my first betrayal was by my parents,
  • siobhanryan Mar 21, 2012 @ 6:37 pm | delete
    Betrayal is the deepest cut of all.I feel my first betrayal was by my parents,
  • reasonablerobinson Feb 24, 2012 @ 1:56 am | delete
    When you are betrayed for the first time it is a salutary life lesson. Philosopher Eric Fromm said that there are two types of people in the world Givers and Takers. The Givers weakness is not being cynical and devious enough to realise there are Takers in the world. Once this lesson is learned Givers can learn to explicitly value themselves in a way that protects from Takers. I call this distinguishing between being self centered and selfish.
  • candidaabrahamson Feb 14, 2012 @ 2:51 pm | delete
    I just did a lens on Protecting Yourself Financially in Marriage, specifically about the issue of being betrayed financially by your romantic partner--and, just for the record, I DO believe that that kind of betrayal is forgiveable. Some of your ideas might be just the right balm for the spirit, though--if there's money left!
  • Tipi Jan 28, 2012 @ 8:35 pm | delete
    When betrayed, we need to remember that it was the other person that did something wrong and give ourselves some grace. I love your idea of not beating yourself up but get inspired, blessed!
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