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Make a Man Fall in Love With You
If you are anything like me, you've been head over heels crazy for a man who seemed to "like" you. That was the story with my boyfriend. I could have spent all day, every day with him. He, on the other hand, didn't seem to remember I existed half the time. It was annoying and frustrating. It's not easy being in love with a man who doesn't feel the same way.
I tried everything in my power to get him more interested. I dressed in provocative clothing, I cooked extravagant meals - I even wrote him love letters. I'd get an occasional - "you look great" or "thanks for that." Nothing more.
I knew I needed to change something. Other single friends all had their own jewels of advice that ranged from dating another man to make him jealous to giving him an ultimatum. Since most of them were also struggling in their own relationships, I knew I needed more sage guidance than that.
I don't know why it didn't dawn on me sooner- if I want to get under a man's skin - become the woman he thinks about constantly -I had to learn exactly what it is men want from a woman.
I was at a point where I had nothing to lose - I wasn't happy with the way the relationship was progressing - and he wasn't about to change on his own.
If you love a man and want to make him your own - you need to understand what triggers the feelings of love in a man. Once you understand this, you'll be able to draw him in - hook, line and sinker.
Oh and that man I was dating - is now my husband.
I tried everything in my power to get him more interested. I dressed in provocative clothing, I cooked extravagant meals - I even wrote him love letters. I'd get an occasional - "you look great" or "thanks for that." Nothing more.
I knew I needed to change something. Other single friends all had their own jewels of advice that ranged from dating another man to make him jealous to giving him an ultimatum. Since most of them were also struggling in their own relationships, I knew I needed more sage guidance than that.
I don't know why it didn't dawn on me sooner- if I want to get under a man's skin - become the woman he thinks about constantly -I had to learn exactly what it is men want from a woman.
I was at a point where I had nothing to lose - I wasn't happy with the way the relationship was progressing - and he wasn't about to change on his own.
If you love a man and want to make him your own - you need to understand what triggers the feelings of love in a man. Once you understand this, you'll be able to draw him in - hook, line and sinker.
Oh and that man I was dating - is now my husband.
What Won't Make Him Love You
Put These on Your DO-NOT-Do List!
As women we're often brought up to believe we have to be perfect to find the man of our dreams. That's rubbish. I know because I was one of the women who strived for perfection for years. It didn't get me the man of my dreams. It did make me miserable though. I wasn't being myself.Here's a list of things you shouldn't be doing in an effort to make a man fall in love with you:
Cater to his every need. There's a great chance that if you do this - cater to every whim of a man, he's going to stick around. But it's not because you are the woman for him, it's because you'll do anything he wants. NEVER cook a man dinner every night. NEVER do his laundry if you are dating. NEVER clean his apartment for him and NEVER run over to his place simply because he's feeling frisky.
Change your appearance for him. If you wear pink lipstick and the man you are dating says he prefers red, don't convert. If you do you are showing him that you are easily manipulated. Men like a woman with her own mind. Don't change who you are just because there's something about you he doesn't automatically like.
Act like his mother. Don't treat any man you are dating like a child. This means no calling him all the time. Don't ask him where he's been if you haven't heard from him in a while and never tell him to button up his coat if it's cold outside. He already has a mother, he doesn't want you to be one too.
Assume he knows what you want. Men can't read minds. Their minds also don't operate the same way yours does. If you expect a man to know what you want from him, you'll always be disappointed.
If you want to get a man to sit up and take notice of only you, you need to understand how to become irresistible to him.
Long Term Dating
Knowing Whether He'll Ever Pop THE Question
As women we tend to be very patient - too patient sometimes. We'll wait and wait for the man we are dating to first utter those three words we long to hear 'I love you' followed by a close second 'let's get married.'The problem is that some of us wait, and wait, and wait. Months, then years pass and the most we get from our guy is the occasional 'you're cool' or 'you're a lot of fun.' Futures aren't build on fun alone.
There are easy ways to tell if your relationship is headed for something more substantial or if he's considers you his girlfriend or in some cases girl friend.
If a man is even considering a deeper commitment with a woman, he'll do at least one of the following:
Introduce her to his family. I've dated men who seemed to be orphans. I'd wait patiently to meet his family, only to discover he was keeping them at arm's length from me. Men want their parents and siblings to meet a woman they are in love with. If he's keeping you away from them, it's not a good sign.
He'll keep in close touch. He may not call like clockwork but he won't let too much time pass without hearing your voice or seeing you. When a man is really interested in a woman, he'll also want to know what's going on in her life - all the small, seemingly boring details will be interesting to him. An in-the-moment man will usually call and ask if you're busy. The reason being he's got a few minutes to fit you into his schedule and he's in a frisky mood.
He has a savings account. If the man you are involved with is often asking you to buy him dinner, or he makes excuses about not having enough money to buy you a holiday, Valentine's or birthday gift, he's not thinking long term. When marriage is on a man's mind he is saving for the future.
If you want to know how to get a man to commit to you - find out how to ensure he can't live without you.
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My Review of Kara Oh's 'Men Made Easy - How to Get What You Want From Your Man'
How to Really Understand Men
Trying to understand men is not the easiest thing for a woman. I know - more than one man has had me feeling pretty confused about myself and my relationships in the past.In my pursuit to finally take control of my own dating experiences, I started doing some research. I read everything I could find. Then I found Men Made Easy - How to Get What You Want From Your Man.
Men Made Easy - How to Get What You Want From Your Man is written by Kara Oh. Kara is widely referred to as the "Heart Whisperer" for good reason. She knows what makes relationships work. In the book she shares with women what they can do right now to get men to respond to them exactly as they want.
Men Made Easy - How to Get What You Want From Your Man gives you amazing insight into how men think and the triggers that women need to be aware of that when used will make a man weak in the knees and will draw him naturally to her. Kara explains the secret that turns any ordinary relationship into a passionate, once in a lifetime love affair. You're also going to discover the single most powerful tool that will make a man feel romantic love towards you. If you use this the man in your life is going to melt whenever you're around. I used it and it completely changed the dynamic in the relationship with my man. I finally felt as though he really loved me and would do anything for me.
If you want men to chase you - or if there's one man in particular you want as your own - read the book. Use the book and live by the book. It will change your relationship with men - forever.
Besides Men Made Easy - you'll also get four more books and an exclusive newsletter that are designed to make your relationship better.
The most important bonus is a free personal email response from Kara Oh. You can ask Kara anything and she'll respond personally and directly to you within 24 hours. Ask her about your relationship and get her honest opinion. Take advantage of this - it's incredibly helpful for your unique situation.
PS - read the tip on page 23 as soon as possible - it explains the single most powerful tool to ignite romantic love in your man.
The book comes complete with a money back guarantee - I fully recommend it if you feel at all confused about men or your relationship in general. It can teach you how to get your man to love you in the way you want. I refer back to it all the time now and I feel much more confident and in control of my relationship.
Here's my favorite link:
If You Still Love a Man Who You're No Longer With
Get Your Ex Boyfriend to Love You Again - More Than Before
If you already have a man in your life that you love deeply and the relationship isn't everything you want it to be, it can be incredibly frustrating. He might be unwilling to be exclusive or he just seems to waffle on whether he even wants to be in a relationship. Perhaps he's told you that he needs time or space and has broken up with you. As women we tend to think that all we need to do is share our feelings with the man in our life and he'll react in a positive way and be drawn in. The biggest problem with this is that men don't respond to words the same way we do. Imagine after a break up or during a conflict your boyfriend says "I'm sorry for all this, what really matters is that I love you more than I've ever loved anyone." I know I'd melt if I heard this. Men don't melt when a woman says this to them, they rarely even flinch.
It's all about actions. The things you do are what will either make him want to devote himself to you entirely or make him want to leave the relationship for good.
Find out now what you need to be doing - not saying - to get the man in your life to love you deeply now. Most women don't realize that their actions in the days and weeks following a break up determine whether or not they'll get that second chance they want. This is true regardless if you are with a man that you want a deeper commitment with or if you're going through a break up and you want him back.
If your boyfriend or your ex boyfriend is the man for you - DON'T LET HIM GET AWAY! It's guaranteed to work. Love is rare please don't let it slip through your fingers.
Informative Articles
- Ways to Make a Deep Emotional Connection with Your Man
- There are ways you can create a deep emotional connection between you and your man. Find out what steps you should be taking today to ensure he opens up and allows you inside his heart.
- How to Get Him Addicted to You - Dating Advice for Women
- If there's a man in your life and you want to get him addicted to you, you need to focus more on him than you. Find out why it's so important to make a man feel better about himself if you want him to love you.
- How to Read a Man's Body Language to Tell If He's Falling For You
- Having the ability to read a man's body language is priceless for a woman. Once you understand what his actions reveal about his heart, you can quickly determine whether he's indeed falling in love with you.
Weekly Love Tips for Women
Your Weekly Love Tip for June 29th
Last week the world suffered great loss when Ed McMahon, Farrah Fawcett and Michael Jackson all passed. It's a tragic reminder of how fleeting life can be. If you are in love with a wonderful man, always let him know. Do something each day to demonstrate how much he means to you - be it tucking a love note in his lunch or under his pillow or writing "I Love You" on the mirror in lipstick. None of us want to have regrets so celebrate and embrace your love every day.Life can be much shorter than we anticipate and none of us want to have regrets when it comes to the man we adore. Additional Resources
Other Helpful Tools
Calling Men Find out when to call, email and text the man in your life. Knowing when to do these things can actually make him want you even more. This is a must have for any woman in the dating arena.
Rousing the Lion A hypnotic approach to capturing the unwavering love of a man. Unique and effective ideas for getting him to fall helplessly in love with you.
Rousing the Lion A hypnotic approach to capturing the unwavering love of a man. Unique and effective ideas for getting him to fall helplessly in love with you.
Your Feelings about Your Own Relationship
I'd love to hear from other women (and men) about what they feel about their current relationship.
Ecolicious wrote...
Very true! Great Lens. We all need as many tips on love as we can get.
Posted July 04, 2009
Lensmaster
honeyb wrote
I have been married to a Cancer man for 43 years. It has not been a very pleasant time. I stayed because I am a woman who got pregnant and the Cancer man pleaded with me to marry him, My mother, his mother also pleaded with me to marry him. I was completely happy not marrying anyone. I had been asked by 6 different guys.
Anyway,besides him being unfaithful, a habitual liar, and mean, he was and still is a good provider. He is a materialistic person. He grew up very poor. I on the other hand, didn't.
He has always seen that I have whatever I need. Over the years, I have learn to love him in a special way, because he does look after me well. He is strange, but I have learn to accept him the way he is. I know that he loves me, because I let him be himself. When he gets to be too much, I allow my Sagitarium fire to warn him.
Posted June 30, 2009
Lensmaster
nicole wrote
in reply to mia i can relate. i was in a similar relationship for about 3 years. my advice to you.....RUN
Posted June 29, 2009
Lensmaster
Sarah Carter wrote
My boyfriend and I were together for about 6 month before he broke up with me. He will be going into the military soon and feels that a long distance relationship will be too hard. We were apart for about 3 weeks then we decided to hang out just as friends. However he quickly turned it into a date. He took me to this park to look at the stars and we just talked and then began to make out. He said that he sees us together in the future but right now he wants to go slow and work our way back into a relationship. We hung out the bext night and I asked him what he wanted from me and he said commitment. However, that was 2 days ago. And I haven't seen him since. I asked him if he wanted to do something tonight and he said that he is kind of tired so not really, however he is going to a party later. I feel like he is starting to distance himself from me and I don't know what to do.
Posted June 29, 2009
LifeExperiencer wrote...
in reply to mia Mia - thank you for posting. Sometimes it's hard to see a person in a clear light when we are in love with them. As difficult as it may be to accept - if he lies and does things that hurt you, his heart isn't in the right place. He's not putting your best interests or your feelings first. That's not healthy emotionally for you.
Posted June 29, 2009
by LifeExperiencer
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