How to actually prevent a break up
Break ups can be so difficult to cope with. Especially if you are the sentimental sort. I have been through a couple of it before and I think some of you can relate to this as how I did. Cheating was one of the culprit. There is a way to prevent it and like the old saying goes: Prevention is better than cure. And prevention it is that we need. Guys, this is especially for you. Find out why women cheat on their boyfriends so that we can prepare ourselves better. And girls, if you happen to read this, maybe you can have this as a reference for yourselves.
Why Women Cheat On Their Boyfriends
Why do women cheat when they've committed to a relationship? Are they dishonest? Untrustworthy? Cruel?
Guys who are cheated on will generally tend to see women this way. But they're looking at the situation from their own perspective based on their own understanding of the Dating Game.
And the understanding they have is very LIMITED.
Guys who are cheated on will generally tend to see women this way. But they're looking at the situation from their own perspective based on their own understanding of the Dating Game.
And the understanding they have is very LIMITED.
So why do women cheat? And how do you prevent it?
The key to understanding why women cheat is to look at the situation from a woman's perspective.Yes, I know. It can be difficult to look there and then at yourself, especially when you're the 'victim' -- when you're the one who was cheated on.
Most women are not ruthless cheaters. The simple math is that their boyfriends didn't understand how the Dating Game is played.
The truth is, most women will sooner be with someone temporary than be alone. They often keep boyfriends around as 'insurance' until a Cool Guy comes along.
But women know that they don't really have the CHOICE with a Cool Guy. He's the one who chooses her!
So what do women do?
Since they know they have competition as he's likely seeing other women, they give it their best shot. And in case they're unsuccessful at catching him, they can always fall back on their Temp -- the clueless Nice Guy boyfriend.
Not only do they want to sleep with a Cool Guy because they know the sex will be great, they also know that unless they have sex with a Cool Guy, he's not going to even give them a second thought. So she cheats on her boyfriend.
Of course, she generally won't see it as cheating. To her, it's part of her long-term strategy for ensnaring a man she wants in the long-term.
Nice Guys don't understand this. They believe that when they have a committed relationship with a woman -- they have a girlfriend -- that's the end of the game.
It's a done deal.
Not only do they want to sleep with a Cool Guy because they know the sex will be great, they also know that unless they have sex with a Cool Guy, he's not going to even give them a second thought. So she cheats on her boyfriend.
Of course, she generally won't see it as cheating. To her, it's part of her long-term strategy for ensnaring a man she wants in the long-term.
Nice Guys don't understand this. They believe that when they have a committed relationship with a woman -- they have a girlfriend -- that's the end of the game.
It's a done deal.
Nothing could be farther from the truth!
It's only the beginning. And unless the guy she's dating understands this, he may actually be setting himself to be cheated on.What's one crucial distinction between Cool Guys and Nice Guys? Since Nice Guys don't give themselves options, they leave themselves open to jealousy. And the moment a guy expresses jealousy in a relationship is the moment a woman starts thinking about finding a 'better' guy.
Her mind is made up, but she's not going to break-up immediately. She's going to wait until she secures more options first.
When you understand the reality of why women cheat?", the solution is to make sure that -- if you want a healthy relationship with a woman -- YOU choose her rather than letting her choose you!
You do this by dating several women at once.
No woman will cheat on a man who has CHOSEN her and maintains their relationship using the laws of attraction -- unless she's a psycho or sex-fanatic, in which case... why are you going steady with her in the first place?
Even though women love having guys chase them -- it gives them a huge "power surge" -- what they really want is a man who chooses THEM. This means she has to pursue and win him by beating the competition.
So why do women cheat? The answer is found in understanding the Dating Game from a woman's perspective. And how do you prevent a girlfriend from cheating on you? Be sure you're not her Temp by choosing her.
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Article © 2007, Jay Julio
