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Let Your Child Fly
When I was a child I loved nothing more than snuggling up next to my parents being read to, I remember the Mrs Pepperpot stories and the Wooden Horse. Through my life I wanted to be a nurse, a fairy, one of Charlie's Angels, a motor biker, an actress and a singer. Due to listening way too much to what I 'should' be doing ended up being an Administrator for a Bank. Oh, how my heart did not soar.
It took many years to figure out where my happiness lay, and it was in doing what I truly wanted to do, which is, to write.
From finding this out, it then helped me to understand how to help my child become a success. This blog is just a little over view of my scribblings and thinking, I hope it helps.
Remember, if you want to be anything, you can.
It took many years to figure out where my happiness lay, and it was in doing what I truly wanted to do, which is, to write.
From finding this out, it then helped me to understand how to help my child become a success. This blog is just a little over view of my scribblings and thinking, I hope it helps.
Remember, if you want to be anything, you can.
When you thought the answer was not there . . .
Here it is. Hold onto your seats parent types.
There are many people who ask "What is the right way to bring up my child". Worried mothers and fathers fretting about this wide ranging topic.Well here is the answer that you have all been looking for, the definitive knowledge, the golden chalice as it were. So, buckle up and read on . .
There may be a sentence in this next paragraph that will either elate you or deflate you but you have to stand by it as the answer to the question.
There is no correct way, just as each adult you meet is different and has different needs, views, opinions, hopes and dreams so does your child.
Yup, that's it. Your mother/father did it her way, got a couple of things wrong. Your local shop keepers mother/father made mistakes. That bloke across the street looking at jewellery in the window for his wife, his mother/father, now and again, got lost and confused. The leader of your favourite political party's mother/father sat in total frustration not knowing why their baby was crying. The great leaders of the world's mothers or fathers worried about whether they were doing the right thing. Am I getting this across yet?
Stories Your Child Will Love
Let Their Imangination Fly
Reading to your child and letting them read to you is a great way to encourage their imagination. After reading a story book it is a great to chat about what your child thought were the best bits. Remember this is their time to talk and explain things to you.
I love the sound of my child's laughter ringing through the house when she is reading something funny, in fact I think there are very few sounds that I like more than the pure laughter of a child.
When my children were little I used to search everywhere for colourful picture filled books so even before they could read they could point to the pictures and tell me who the person/animal/creature was. There were a few books that were read so often I would end up listening to them reciting them with me. Music to my ears.
Pop up books were our favourites, as they just have everything, story, colour and things literally popping up from the page, in my children's eyes (quite literally) these were the top books. My eldest child now at university, still has one!
I love the sound of my child's laughter ringing through the house when she is reading something funny, in fact I think there are very few sounds that I like more than the pure laughter of a child.
When my children were little I used to search everywhere for colourful picture filled books so even before they could read they could point to the pictures and tell me who the person/animal/creature was. There were a few books that were read so often I would end up listening to them reciting them with me. Music to my ears.
Pop up books were our favourites, as they just have everything, story, colour and things literally popping up from the page, in my children's eyes (quite literally) these were the top books. My eldest child now at university, still has one!
Time to Stop Worrying
Start Enjoying
On the whole as one body of parental beings, we worry about our little people.
The best advice I have ever taken is . . . let your child be who they want to be. Trust in the fact that they are quite capable of becoming that which is best for them. This may be quite the opposite of what you desire or expect but, at the end of the day this is not your life it is THEIRS. By all means love, care and guide but don't try and control or take over their lives, it can not work. If they like tennis, hey let them play but don't expect them to be the next pro, just let them enjoy it, if they like art, buy them a pencil you don't need to buy them easels and all that you see in the shop just a pencil and paper will do.
The best advice I have ever taken is . . . let your child be who they want to be. Trust in the fact that they are quite capable of becoming that which is best for them. This may be quite the opposite of what you desire or expect but, at the end of the day this is not your life it is THEIRS. By all means love, care and guide but don't try and control or take over their lives, it can not work. If they like tennis, hey let them play but don't expect them to be the next pro, just let them enjoy it, if they like art, buy them a pencil you don't need to buy them easels and all that you see in the shop just a pencil and paper will do.
Why can't I be an olympiad?
Son. You can.
I am always in awe of people who push themselves to be the best and doubly so when they are only children. He may not have won, but he stepped up to the mark, did the work, had the belief. How many 14 year olds do you know that can say they were in the Olympics for their country?
What Are Your Childs Dreams and Ambitions
Allow them to keep their dreams sacred
Yes, of course at a young and tender age they will want to be Superman, Fairies, Knights, Princesses, Wrestlers, Ballet Dancers or just invisible and why not? I have a friend whose daughter wanted to go to playschool in her fairy outfit every day, so rather than making her conform to what everyone else dressed like, she let her daughter do just that. This little girl has now grown up and guess what, she does not walk around in a fairy outfit, she is a wonderfully artistic little being who is at peace with the world and does not judge as in her mind everyone has the right to their own individuality and, if they so choose to wander round the streets in a fairy outfit then good for them!
We All Have The Ability
How many of us choose to use it
Having faith in your child's personal ability is one of the greatest gifts you can give them.
I met a man in Australia many years ago who had disabilities from birth. H his parents were told that he would never be able to walk and would never reach past the mental age of a 5 year old. His parents refused to believe this, and always trusted in the fact that their son, despite his disabilities, would grow up to have a normal and fulfilled life
I met this man at a friend's house. He was in his early thirties and was sitting next to the pool his walking stick to his left. He had become a molecular bio-chemist, well that was his second degree he was in-fact working in the hospital as their leading gynaecologist. Not only was he a brilliant man, but incredibly funny and wonderful company. He sat and told me how much respect he had for his parents as they refused to put him in a "special" school and insisted he went to the local mainstream school even though they knew he may get bullied because of his deformities, but trusted in him and trusted in the fact that he would be fine. And, he was.
I met a man in Australia many years ago who had disabilities from birth. H his parents were told that he would never be able to walk and would never reach past the mental age of a 5 year old. His parents refused to believe this, and always trusted in the fact that their son, despite his disabilities, would grow up to have a normal and fulfilled life
I met this man at a friend's house. He was in his early thirties and was sitting next to the pool his walking stick to his left. He had become a molecular bio-chemist, well that was his second degree he was in-fact working in the hospital as their leading gynaecologist. Not only was he a brilliant man, but incredibly funny and wonderful company. He sat and told me how much respect he had for his parents as they refused to put him in a "special" school and insisted he went to the local mainstream school even though they knew he may get bullied because of his deformities, but trusted in him and trusted in the fact that he would be fine. And, he was.
A Little Trust
Goes A Long Way
The famous author Napoleon Hill wrote about the story of his son Blair, who was born without ears they were told their son was a deaf mute. He describes how
. . . . . . "the outlook was far from encouraging but DESIRE BACKED BY FAITH knows no such word as impossible. . . ."
And through a series of events he learnt to hear and speak. Blair went to college, stumbled across a hearing aid that worked for him when he was 18, wrote to the company to thank them which lead him to obtain a position within the company reaching out to thousands upon thousands of deaf people showing them the technology which in turn helped them.
So, even after being told his child may never hear or speak, through his belief in his son, his son endeavoured and succeeded in doing both. Blair was later tested by Dr Irvine Voorhees, a specialist who was astounded at how well he could hear and speak, even though an x-ray showed there was no opening in Blairs skull from where his ears should be to his brain.
He put faith in his son, and trusted in the fact that his son would succeed.
. . . . . . "the outlook was far from encouraging but DESIRE BACKED BY FAITH knows no such word as impossible. . . ."
And through a series of events he learnt to hear and speak. Blair went to college, stumbled across a hearing aid that worked for him when he was 18, wrote to the company to thank them which lead him to obtain a position within the company reaching out to thousands upon thousands of deaf people showing them the technology which in turn helped them.
So, even after being told his child may never hear or speak, through his belief in his son, his son endeavoured and succeeded in doing both. Blair was later tested by Dr Irvine Voorhees, a specialist who was astounded at how well he could hear and speak, even though an x-ray showed there was no opening in Blairs skull from where his ears should be to his brain.
He put faith in his son, and trusted in the fact that his son would succeed.
Live For The Now
Enjoy Taking That Risk
Another thing to ponder when thinking about your childs abilities to understand is how much information a child learns in one month of school, the maths, English, languages, history, science etc., how quickly they learn to play, skip, draw etc. Then you worry about their ability to walk down a flight of stairs! It just doesn't add up does it.Recently I was at a skate park with my daughter, whilst she was whizzing merrily about I heard mothers telling their boys "be careful", "look out" etc. Instantly when you are told to be careful you are looking out for danger, as soon as you focus on danger, you are going to find it, as soon as you find it, it's going to hurt. How about just saying "go and have the best fun you can have" rather than taking all the fun out of the skate park! If you are careful whilst learning to BMX or skate or Board you are not going to get very far. You have to trust in the fact your child will learn how to avoid the dangers.
Children by definition naturally take risks, they do this the moment they decide to flip over onto their fronts and crawl. So at the tender age of a few months they were allowed to flip over and crawl, so why not let them, when they want to flip about on a bike/roller blades or whatever just let them try it without pointing out the dangers. Babies don't understand danger this is why they are less likely to hurt themselves when they fall over. Adults expect pain and tense when falling and this is why more adults than children sustain more injury in a fall.
A great quote that I love is:
"The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is nothing, and becomes nothing. He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn and feel and change and grow and love and live."
By Leo F. Buscaglia
The Last Bit
So to sum up, there is no right way to bring up your child, everyone does it differently but one thing is for sure if you trust in the fact your child will be OK, then, they will be. Love them eternally, forgive their mistakes and believe that they will be the best that they can be. Most importantly of all let your child be happiest when they are being themselves.I hope you enjoyed reading this as much as I enjoyed writing it.
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Why Not Help Someone Else's Child Too
If you only have a little to give, it will be appreciated. If you have a lot to give, it will be appreciated. There is no such thing as too much or too little when it comes to helping others.
With thanks and appreciation.
Cathi x
With thanks and appreciation.
Cathi x
Child Aid works to alleviate poverty in some of the world's poorest communities by partnering with rural, mostly indigenous communities in Guatemala and helping them create sustainable educational programs for their children.
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With thanks.
Cathi
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TheLifestyleChanger
Feb 29, 2012 @ 9:30 pm | delete
- Love and support them all the way. Unconditional love!
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OneFootPutt
Feb 19, 2012 @ 10:31 pm | delete
- Lots of great advice. As I struggle with my son, there are a lot of good learning here.
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CosmeticMom
Jan 15, 2012 @ 12:10 pm | delete
- My son has many dreams...they do seem to change alot :) That's ok, at least he is dreaming of what he wants to be!
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darciefrench
Jan 7, 2012 @ 4:06 pm | delete
- Your work is so joyful, I love what you're doing in this world to help people become the best they can be. What a miracle you are! Thanks for sharing these very important tips for raising children to let their spirits soar.
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Sylvestermouse
Dec 23, 2011 @ 10:35 am | delete
- Being a parent is difficult at times, but I do believe the hardest thing to do is to let you children choose their own path, make their own mistakes, take their own risks and sit back and let them be :) Excellent advice!
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