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How to Win a Girls Heart-Written By a Girl

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We're talking about winning her heart so dude your focus should be on impressing her heart and nothing else!

How to Win a Girls Heart-Written by a Girl is everything guys should know about winning a girls heart.

To win her heart, it takes much more than money and good looks. Just remember one thing before you get started on this, she will not be impressed by your look or your riches if she's after your heart! So make sure your efforts are not wasted on the wrong person. This applies to both genders.

Guys usually search for ways to impress a girl to bed and if you're looking for those kinds of advices, you're on the wrong place. This page is for those sweet boys that really care about their loved ones and are trying their best to win their girls hearts.

A wise man once said that you can be the best looking person in the world but if your personality is ugly then you're ugly too. So keep your inner heart pure and innocent and you will not only win her heart but also every one else's too with your beautiful personality.

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TIP-1: Being romantic is different from being desperate. . .

You should really not be having sexual thoughts when you're trying to win her heart..

Whether you're still in the process of getting to know her or if you've already started dating her, if you constantly talk about sexual matters every chance you get, trust me you're not going to win her heart but rather make yourself look desperate after something else.

Don't get mad at her if she refuses to get physical with you even weeks after dating, it's not her fault! Remember what I said in the beginning, you're trying to win her heart and your focus should be on her heart not on anything else.

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  • expertseofrance May 28, 2012 @ 7:19 pm | delete
    Thank you for the tips!
  • Dave May 25, 2012 @ 1:25 pm | delete
    I was dating a girl who've I've recently lost... she talked about moving in with me and getting a phone plan and what not... then suddenly dumps me saying she hasn't been happy with me for a couple weeks.. this only started after her best friend became single... I miss her insanely and I'm trying to give her the space she wants.. but she still broke it off.. we didn;t talk about the stuff that bothered us and i think that was part of the problem but she got so frustrated she broke it off... I want to win her back because she truly makes me feel happier than anyone else I've ever known and I do believe shes worth fighting for.. How do I let her know or try to romance her without annoying her? She said she still loves me...
  • piyush vora May 25, 2012 @ 4:34 am | delete
    I LIKE HER BUT NOT idea she likes me
  • Hany May 24, 2012 @ 9:08 pm | delete
    I love her so much but she dosen't want me and I tried to tell her 3 times
    and I don't know what to do
  • Trey Shebell 11 year old May 29, 2012 @ 11:17 pm | delete
    Try to give her comfort when something bad happens or other wise just find a time when she's alone and try to get her to listen to all the things you love about her and if she still says no she's prolly shy so get her when the time is rite and if you really like her you'll wait years and if you don't date anyone then she should grow into you it just takes time then if she says no then move on Lad listen I'm 11 years old I've gone through this both has happen so if it doesn't work then she prolly doesn't have it in her to be considerit to a great heart so be all you can be if u can't it might still work but the more you of yourself the better so hears the point do what you can. If you love her and yet your not dating her then your a good man and a good man deserves the best be all u can be and be ur self
  • hamshi5433 May 30, 2012 @ 3:15 pm | delete
    A 11 year old kid giving love advice, Oh my god, I'm about to faint! Nice advice :)
  • Notimportant1 May 23, 2012 @ 10:19 pm | delete
    I like a girl, and I'm pretty sure she likes my personality, but she likes my friend and he likes her. They both know it. But he isn't going to my school next year and I am hoping to maybe ask her next year. I hear that looks don't matter but I am not very handsome and I'm overweight.
  • sam May 20, 2012 @ 2:46 pm | delete
    i am feared to talking to her
  • yoshi May 18, 2012 @ 7:50 pm | delete
    I like a girl, but have no idea if she likes me...
  • Lé Luis mónté May 11, 2012 @ 11:30 pm | delete
    I like a grl but she has a huge crush on another kid :( if only she liked me
  • mario May 12, 2012 @ 6:52 pm | delete
    i feel ur pain buddy, the same is happening with me :(
  • joseppy May 22, 2012 @ 1:21 pm | delete
    same here
  • Trey Shebell 11 years old May 29, 2012 @ 11:26 pm | delete
    Here's an idea to all you I'm a ladies man my self and I'm only 11 comfort her when she needs it and she's alone and so far just because she has a crush on a nother kid doesn't mean she doesn't have on on u so follow my advice it usually works u can do it men but still be yourself or rite a note but say its from a friend that she doesn't no and say do you have a crush on whatever your name is and see what she says so try both I hope and wish good Luck to you men
  • biznardi May 9, 2012 @ 12:24 am | delete
    I really haven't said any bad things. I was always trying to keep my foot out of my mouth and it worked. It is interesting reading the comments.
  • 123 May 1, 2012 @ 6:27 pm | delete
    I haven't been in a date but I want her :( soo badly is a school crush I have a whole life time ahead of me but I cannot do anything without know f she is alright I always see her at real smiling awy or looking at my direction but very time I seem to look back she moves her head away esp when I'm tlkig to another girl.
  • Luis Minte May 11, 2012 @ 11:33 pm | delete
    Ikr me toooo I heart astry
  • JimNimmo Apr 30, 2012 @ 5:37 am | delete
    Im not interested in going out with you again:-(
  • Sk Apr 18, 2012 @ 5:33 pm | delete
    oh sorry that woz my stupid mate but nice work thts so true i appreciate ur good work:)
  • hamshi5433 Apr 18, 2012 @ 6:26 pm | delete
    lol that's okay...he didn't say anything rude and thanks for the compliment :)
  • SK Apr 18, 2012 @ 5:28 pm | delete
    OK LOL !
  • JessicaBielWorkoutTips Apr 17, 2012 @ 3:17 pm | delete
    I think someone said I Love You to me.. lol
  • inspirehisloveforyou Apr 16, 2012 @ 5:33 pm | delete
    Focus on the heart. love it. it's the key that unlocks the other parts! :) thanks for sharing.
  • pinkrenegade Mar 17, 2012 @ 6:20 am | delete
    Nice lens! Very interesting ideas too, thanks for sharing!
  • kevingomes13 Feb 27, 2012 @ 3:52 pm | delete
    Anytime someone goes "I love talking" that shuts me up and closes me. I don't know why but i appreciate actions more than words. Your puppy picture made my heart melt!
  • ClassyGals Feb 8, 2012 @ 12:19 pm | delete
    When I suggested to go somewhere for drinks and he said, do you have to be drunk to be with me!
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TIP- 2: She would rather have you take her to one of her favourite places than to a park or a pub!

Just because your friends take their girls to parks and pubs doesn't mean you have to be like them. . .

Spend some time trying to get to know her likes and dislikes. This is one of the most important thing to do if you want to win her heart. This does not mean you hand out a questionnaire to her and ask her to fill it in. Just take things slow and get to know her day by day from her daily activities and her conversations with you.

For e.g. if you two were planning on a day out and you know that she would rather visit a science museum than go to cinemas, why not visit the museum for her sake? You might not be getting too physical with her at a museum but you will definitely impress her heart because you gave more importance to what she likes than focusing on what everybody else is doing. By doing this you will make her feel respected and loved.

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TIP-3: Tell her she's beautiful not sexy!

Girls love being called beautiful than sexy, fit, peng etc

Being called beautiful is the best compliment a girl can ever get! All the other words are nothing but just words of lustful thoughts.Tell her she looks beautiful even when her hair is messy and when she's not wearing any make up. But if her hair blatantly looks like a clown then don't go telling her a poem about how beautiful she looks with her hair like that, that will either make her laugh or get angry. But always remember to say baby you look beautiful.

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TIP-4: Never ever compare her to your ex in both good and bad ways. .

This can cause big problems in your relationship if you compare her to your ex at any circumstance. . .

Just because your ex cheated on you or your friend's ex cheated on him doesn't mean your girl is going to do that to you so stop comparing her to other girls who cheated in their relationships and learn to trust her for who she is.

If she got really mad at you for some reason, don't shout at her saying "Ahh you're just like my ex, this is why I broke up with her etc", if you say things like this she might end up saying good bye to you for ever so watch what you say to her. Being compared to a cruel ex will give her more pain than you breaking up with her so never ever compare her to your ex.

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When it comes to winning her heart...

All readers are welcome to participate in the debate..

Will you ever compare her to your ex?

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NEVER EVER...

Nick Jackson 12 year old says:

No I hate my ex (LOSER)

CCC says:

NO

stephen greg says:

No never will i

Jeric says:

NO

Albert says:

No way...never did and never will..she's all that's left of my heart.

Yoshi says:

No, that would just make her feel aweful, or make her think that i still like my ex, so NO!!!

josh says:

it will make her her feel not speacial/unique, she mighte think, "if im so much like her, why did he dump her for me?"

JimNimmo says:

Never in a 100 years

Sponge says:

Never

JessicaBielWorkoutTips says:

Of course not!!!

qopomo says:

I have no girlfriend

cajkovska says:

I never have!

Cristiano Garcia says:

Tell my girlfriend that

eternisemoi says:

I don't compare my bf to my exes. I know that no one likes that, especially when it happens during an argument. In the past, I have done it, but I don't do it anymore.

paullenton says:

I never have! Once I was dating a girl and she ventured to talk rubbish about my ex, instead of trying to make a good impression herself. That was the end of her!

BunnyFabulous says:

Not a good idea in the vast majority of situations. My husband did tell me about how mean one girlfriend was and that's why he dropped her like a hot rock. He he said I was the exact opposite. That's probably one of the only good kinds of comparisons.

gvfdfvdffd cchjzvzcxvzvz says:

not even when she begs

GED3961 says:

Heck No

naheedahsan says:

Never, even when asked!

jimbarnes says:

no!

Well sometimes things go out of hand...

sunny_saib says:

You're absolutely right in Tip-4 there- NEVER to compare.. but even if you don't speak it out, or say, speak out on purpose, somewhere inside you there IS something like that goin' on.. for example, if you (at a time loved) your ex a lot then you would still respect her and may not want to replace the "signature" gestures that defined your ex at a time.. More than mechanically keeping this in mind, it's also hard to have a new one (who's obviously innocent in this case, no doubt) be EXACTLY there where the first one was, in any gesture, be it saying something or anything.. it just hurts.. you must move on, that's for sure, but yes coming back to the point, some kind of 'contrast' does flow in your head every once a while..
nice lens..

AmandaSilver says:

well... sometimes it is all unconsciously, but I will try never to make the same mistakes. What's the point, if not 'learning'

jamespete says:

I tried to make a positive comparison into a compliment but it didn't go over. That was a mistake. It seems they can make their own comparisons though.

 
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TIP-5: Dont be too overprotective. .She is not your slave!

Little bit of jealousy is fine for a healthy relationship but if you go over the top and complain about every single thing she does, you might end up losing her. Some guys go to some extreme level and get angry because their girl is spending time with her boy cousin who is about the same age as her. Well you have to trust her, if she cheats on you then she is not the one for you and you should just move on.

Don't force her to give you a time table of all her daily activities; she is your love not slave. Don't annoy her for simple things like not picking the phone up on the first go or not getting ready on time. She is a girl and she is your girl, if you want to win her heart, you must learn to be patience with her in all matters and this could mean letting go of your ego for your love's sake.

TIP-6: Show interest in meeting her family members and becoming one of them. . .

This will let her know that you're serious about her. . .

Most guys back off when it comes to introducing their girls to their family members and this makes girls become suspicious about the relationship. So the sooner you introduce her to your family, the happier and secure she will feel about your love.

To win her heart, you have to try your very best to win her family members hearts as well. Even if you don't end up impressing her family members, you will definitely impress her when you show interest in getting to know and get along with her family members. You should also show a keen interest in introducing her to your family members even if it means you will have arguments with your family members because of her. Not trying to say that she matters more than your mum or dad but she does matter so you have to be ready to take the risk in introducing her to your family members no matter what.

what if her parents or your parents disagree with your love?

If that happens by any unfortunate chances, make sure you`re ready to sacrifice your family members for her! Don't end up coming up with excuses such as "I love my mum so much and I can't marry you if mum doesn't agree etc". You should have thought about all of these consequences before you got excited enough to fall in love with her and make her fall in love with you. It won't be fair on the girl if you make her fall in love with you, get her hopes high and then come up with family excuses to break up with her. This applies to both boys and girls.

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TIP-7: Kiss her on the forehead. .

Its super cute and will make her happy

Some guys think forehead kisses are dry and boring but trust me girls love it. Forehead kisses are super cute and makes her feel really loved so kiss her on her forehead when you have the chance to.

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TIP-8: Be kind and helpful to others. .

Rude boys might impress the minds but not hearts. . .

Be helpful to others. If you see an old lady drop her grocery bags in the middle of the street don't stare and walk away or stand and laugh like others would do, go and help her out. Little things like this will give big positive impression of you to her and make others feel embarrassed too.

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TIP-9: Can you cook?

If you cant, make her a simple sandwich at least.

No guys cooking Is not for women only! Cook her tasty meal or at least a nice sandwich. This shows her that you're different from all the other so called bad guys who think women belong in the kitchen and guys don't have to cook etc.

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TIP-10: Don't break her trust..

You will break her heart too. .

Its okay to have friends who are girls but don't blatantly flirt with other girls in front of her or behind her back. Would you like it if she flirted with other guys in front of you or behind your back? The girl would also feel hurt if you do that so don't do it.
Don't keep on lying for simple and silly things like "oh I don't know who she is" and then she finds out that girl you were staring at was your ex. Don't tell her lies such as "I was scared you will get mad at me" to cover up the initial lies. Be honest with her in all matters to avoid future heart breaks.

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TIP-11: Don' t judge other girls from what you heard about them. .

Before you say something really bad about a girl, think of her as your own sister and ask yourself if you would say such thing about your own sister. Judging other girls and having jokes about them with your friends might be fun to you but all girls hate it. Your girl will see your personality by the way you judge other girls. Don't start saying bad things about your ex to her thinking she will be impressed, no she won't! She might just get suspicious about the kind of stuff you might say about her one day if she becomes your ex. Girls worry about the future a lot so think before you speak.

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TIP-12: Oh you` re cherishing the memories of your ex? :|

What the??

Why on earth are you going to waste another girl's time if you're still in love with your ex and you want to cherish her memories and so on? Even if your new girl says she's perfectly fine with you keeping the old photos/cards/gifts of your ex, deep inside she is sad and she will definitely bring it up one day soon or later in an argument. It is a must to get rid of all the past memories with your ex if you really want to win the heart of another girl. Would you be happy if she kept any of her ex boyfriend's stuff and told you that she was cherishing his memories? In everything you say and do to her, put yourself in her position before you do it.

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TIP-13: Be the first person to wish her on her birthday right at 12am!

No matter what. . .

Even if she has 100 friends waiting on the line to wish her and her family by her side, she will only be expecting you to wish her at 12 before any one else does. So make sure you do! Girls love that moment of joy when their loved ones surprisingly wish them happy birthday right at twelve in the midnight. And if it's possible, you can even give her a surprise birthday party. You could surprise her by buying something that she's wanted to get for a long time.

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TIP-14: Allow her time to spend with her own friends too..

I talked about being too overprotective earlier and now we're talking about being too possessive! Girls like it when guys are possessive over them but remember not to cross the limit. Don't force her to spend time with you 24/7, allow her to spend time with her friends and families too. If she wants to spend time with you 24/7 then that's a different story but otherwise please don't be over possessive.

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TIP#15- How can I win her heart even when she already has a boyfriend?

Oh myy! Why on earth do you want to win another guy`s girl?

Don't come up with excuses such as love is blind and so on because karma will get you back. You might search for ways to win her heart even when she already has a man and if by any chance you do manage to make her yours, how can you be sure that someone else might not search for ways to win her heart when she is your girl? This is even worse if she is already married and you`re trying to win her heart. Wow what are you thinking in your head? Sorry if this disappointed you but it's the fact. Search for ways to win single girl`s hearts not the ones who are already taken.

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TIP#16: How to win a girl's heart when she's still in love with her ex?

This is a complicated situation. I would call it a triangle relationship because you like her, but she likes him and he doesn't like her? Firstly get to know the actual reasons [if possible] for why she broke up with her ex or why he broke up with her. Be a good friend to her, give her the emotional support that she needs without taking advantage of her trust on you. if she does trust you enough to let you know what happened in her previous relationship and so on, ask yourself this question: "Am I like her ex?", if your answer is yes then forget about winning her heart because you will never.

Fortunately if you know in your heart that you are nothing like her ex and you will be everything she ever wanted from her boyfriend, then continue with the good friendship which might or might not grow into love. You need a lot of patience when you're in triangular relationship situations like this, so don't rush into "I love you, can we go out?" straightaway, be patient and take things slow. Who knows she might feel comfortable being with you and might start falling in love with you so just find out what she likes/dislikes and act according to that.

Unless she tells you about her ex, you must never ask about him in both good and bad ways.

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TIP#17: Whats the best thing you can do during a huge argument with your girlfriend?

The best thing you can possibly do is to keep quiet no matter how much she tempts your words. This can be impossible at times but it seriously is the best way you can quit the argument! This tip applies for both guys and girls. If you ever have a serious mad argument with your loved one, just try your best to stay calm and quiet.

You wouldn't be reading this if you don't give a crap about that girl, you love her so much and no matter how worse your situation is, you want to be with her and if that's true then you must keep calm and wait for her to calm down. Even if whatever that's caused the argument is not your fault, if you keep calm and explain things in an appropriate manner, she will understand [hopefully] and things will get better again.

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TIP#18: What can you do if you two are arguing 24/7 over anything and everything?

Its time to test whose love is true. Just take a break from the relationship for a while and continue with your everyday life. If you love her so much, you would rather have her sit next to you arguing about something than not have her talk to you at all and it's the same story with her too. Eventually you will both miss each other so much that one or sometimes both of you will come to an understanding to let go of each other's ego and apologise and get together again.

However most guys and girls make the silly mistake of going for a quick rebound after breaking up to ease their minds of the past and to make the other person jealous. If you even think about doing this to your girl, do it only if you have no hope of getting back with her again. Unless you want to forget your girlfriend completely and move on with your life, do not attempt to fall for any one else.

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TIP#19: Periods are not always the cause of our mood swings!

Why do all guys ask a girl if she's on her period just because she's upset about something? What makes you think you're not the cause of her mood swing? Why do you have to blame it on her period every time? Girls [most of them] do get quite stressed and upset during their menstrual cycle and it's not our fault! The hormonal changes that take place inside our bodies' causes a lot of stress and pain for some women to go through what they go through during their menstrual cycles. So next time you even think about asking a girl if she's on her period, think twice!

Okay there might be some girls who overact and blame it on their period every time but guys we're not all the same!

TIP#20- 2. Spending too much time with your so called `Sister from another mother`

Is not always a good idea...

There are some guys who really mean it when they call a girl their sister but the rest don't even know the meaning of the word `sister`. They would call a girl sister, spend time with her, eventually flirt with her and get too touchy touchy with her and lie about their relationship when confronted.

So if you know a girl whom you really do see as a sister, make sure that you introduce her to your girlfriend and keep things open with her. Its okay to spend time with your sister from another mother but just don't overdo it.

Girls get jealous when they see their man spending too much time with other girls no matter who they are.

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Sooo have you already won her heart or are you still in the process?

Share your stories and tips here..

I love reading all your stories and the way some guys express love for their girls here is so adorable. I read and reply to all the comments posted here asking for advice with their relationship matters. We all have this moment in our life when we feel the urgent need to talk to someone about our love problems. You guys can see me as that someone and feel free to talk about your love matters here. I normally reply within few hours [definitely within 24 hours] so don’t forget to pop back and check for my reply for you. You can come back here as many times as you wish so please feel free. 

  • Ruben Jun 1, 2012 @ 11:55 am | delete
    My name is Ruben i'm 26 yrs old, my Friend is 32 yrs old, we've only chat once in a while for 2 years, I've known her from a church i used to attend. About 2 months ago i asked her straight out, that if could get to know her more than a friend, she replied "yes, i don't see why not" "one of these days we can go to the beach" with in those two months i realize she does not keep her phone with her so i understand and only text and when she is available i call. I've taken her to Eat at an Italian Restaurant (her favorite food). second time i invited her to my church and presented her with my friends. Also I have taken her to the Park and had a Picnic and watched "the Vow" with her since she has been wanting to watch it. the first time we hang out I initiated the hug goodbye. the second time we hang out she initiated the hug goodbye and i heard her lips smack on my neck...the most recent time I Initiated the hug, and she complimented me on the cologne i was wearing, :) She actually went very close to my neck to smell it... I mentioned the age difference but this is where it gets tricky, I have asked her if age is a problem for her, she said no, that was in the begging, but from time and time she will drop in a joke like "I don't want people to think that i'm taking advantage, lol" she mentions alot What does your mom think? what does she say? I respond just like my mom says and i told her that my mom likes her and is actually happy im talking to her... My Friend just says "I just get nervous". She calls me "MR." alot in the beggining but now she calls me by my NAME. don't know if thats a good thing or bad. another thing i do my part of sending her small poems just to say im thinking about her and calling her beautiful... every time we hang out she thanks me for her taking her out and that she had a very good time... The part where i'm trying not the get to me, is that my best friend seems to know that she is Secretly dating one of his friends, BUT what she told me was that she just to date some one who was very NEEDY, did not let her breath so she broke it off... Now i don't know if she was talking about that guy or if she still talking to him... either way she hasn't told me that she is talking to someone else not that she would but I would think she would let me know that she is, if she is, Right? To me i think i'm doing somethings right but she still hasn't told me "hey i like you" or she never initiated the conversion, most importantly the good morning or goodnight... i may be wrong but maybe she is just busy. but i initiated just so that she knows i'm thinking about her when i wake up and before i sleep. I just want to make her my Girlfriend, everything is there that i like, my family for a first time likes her even my mom, thats never happened before, lol. so i really want this one to work out...Side note she knows about my exes, i had to get that out of the way so it wouldn't bite me in the butt later. but i don't bring them up after that one time because my main concern is to know her. What do you Think? and thank you in advanced for taking your time to read this.
  • THE INCREDIBLE ADITYA. Jun 1, 2012 @ 11:18 am | delete
    Hello! I'm Aditya from india.
    (Sorry! I am not very good in English)
    I have been loving a girl from from past three years.She was my classmate.I know her from my 8th class,but was not in any relationship with her as I was too small to know any thing about that.my classmates used to call her sister,so was I(it was not intentional in any way). when we reach in 10th my mates started calling her by name,I followed them.I am too shy and hardly used to talk to any girl.I hardly talks with that girl too in any matter.But when we were in 11th,we came little closer as we were in same coaching center.Days passed,we became friends and now we are best friends.I fell in love with her after few months . I even tried to tell her about my love thrice ,but words refused to come out from my mouth.I do not know weather she loves me or not(it does not matter to me),but I still love her from my bottom of the heart and it will not end till my last breath. Her happiness is my love, I can sacrifice my every thing,even my love for her happiness and smile. Nowdays we rarely meet as we are in different colleges.But some of my mates(so called good friends of her) are jealous of me and are on mission to make me her brother as I am her best friend.They know that I LOVE her but still talks ill things about me.She is the ONLY girl in this world for me.It really hurts when any one tries to infect life. They are selfish beasts who runs behind every girl,I want to free my beloved from that hell. we have great respect and belive for each other,I can spend my whole life with her ,she is the queen of my dream,my life.But I am not courageous enough to tell her directly,also fear of losing her,afraid of what she thinks,afraid of consequences.....still waiting for any supernatural miracles!!!.Please help me what should I do!
  • Ed Jun 1, 2012 @ 6:35 am | delete
    Basically women will mess you around for fun. They love the power trip and will say anything for attention. So forget all this and remember the Rapper's Delight way: "If your girl starts acting up, then you take her friend."
  • HRC May 31, 2012 @ 9:56 pm | delete
    Thank you so much, you really are very attentive to each and everyone of your readers. Really, thanks for the advice :)
  • Justcallmejoe May 31, 2012 @ 1:05 am | delete
    Hi my names Joe and I really like this girl and I have for almost 6 months I think but anyways she is beautiful to me inside and out and she's fun and crazy but i have no idea if she likes me back. We can talk about anything really and I'm always happy when talking to her and apparently she puts on a real smile when she sees me (according to my mom) she also talks about me to her parents at home. But idk because I'm going to be honest I'm not the best looking guy I'm fat and I'm not sure if she will go out with me because were in high school and it's all about social status. Idk what do you think? Maybe she likes me but if she doesn't I'm just happy to be friends with her.
  • hamshi5433 May 31, 2012 @ 7:24 pm | delete
    Hi Joe,
    Don’t worry about your physical appearance Joe, you can [if you want to] alter the way you look anytime you wish and by that I mean, if you want to, you can lose weight soon or later right. So that’s not really a big problem here, especially if she really likes you for who you are. What could make you happier than her liking you for whom you are? I’m sure that’s what you want from her as well. So if she does like you, it means she likes you just the way you are Joe! So don’t worry much about the physical appearance and I know what you mean by high school being all about social status. But once high school is over, that’s when most people really realise the mistakes they use to make back in high school and change themselves for the good. Does she give you signals that make you think she likes you more than just a friend? Does she flirt with you? If she does, it’s quite bait that she does like you and probably shy to let you know. Her talking to her parents about you, maybe because she likes you in the way you like her or it could be that she was just talking about you as a good friend to her parents.

    As long as you have a beautiful personality, that’s what really matters! Pimps and players are for short term, it’s the sweet guys that last longer! So smile and be happy the way you are. If she does like you, she will be happy to have a caring and sweet boyfriend who will treat her right and never hurt her behind her back. If she gives you signals, you can always just express your feelings to her one time and see what she says. If she says yes, then its all good and if she’s like she only saw you as a friend etc, then it`s still good because you said you`re happy to be friends with her right. Feel free to drop by anytime you wish.
    Best Wishes,
    Hamshi
  • HRC May 30, 2012 @ 10:00 pm | delete
    I was with this girl for 4 years, we then broke up cause we were fighting too much. After a couple of months, she had a new boyfriend, i still was alone. About 5 months ago, the guy left her and she was destroyed. In april, we started talking again, and have been going out and stuff. She knows i love her and she says she likes me but doesnt love me like before and that she still needs time to heal her broken heart. This is the girl i want to marry, but im getting tired of giving, and giving everything with nothing in return. Should i keep waiting for her? And do you know maybe how much time a girl needs to get over a person who broke her heart?
  • hamshi5433 May 31, 2012 @ 7:34 pm | delete
    Hiya,
    4 years is a pretty long relationship you know and it shows how much you guys still loved each other so much regardless of all the silly arguments. But maybe you loved her and still love her more than she loves you. She moved on, you didn’t and you still want to find a way to get back with her and make things work out with her. I think she’s probably saying that she doesn’t love you the same no more because of some sort of guiltiness that she had a boyfriend after you? Or do you think it’s because she fell in love with that guy? She’s probably still going through a hard time after breaking up with her boyfriend and maybe doesn’t want a proper relationship again for some time. Talk to her, continue to spend time with her and see how things go from there. She’s right, she needs some time to heal her broken heart.

    Give her the time she needs and be there for her [if you wish]. If she agrees to be in a relationship with you again, please don’t talk about her recent ex to her at any point and try not to have too many silly arguments, it`s really not worth it. It really depends on the person and how much hurt they are to know how long it will take for their broken heart to heal. It could take days, few weeks or even months, but you have to tell me. Do you think she’s going to be worth it? If you think, she will make the best wife for you in the future, and then wait for her as long she takes. Who knows maybe your true love might heal her fast and make her fall in deep love with you again. For the time being, don’t rush her into anything. Just support her and show her your love like always maybe that could change her soon. Feel free to drop by whenever.
    Best Wishes,
    Hamshi
  • Nick Jackson 13 year old May 30, 2012 @ 7:01 pm | delete
    I really like this girl and i hate her friend and her friend treats her horribly she only puts up with it because her friend "saved her life" (apparently) I am kinda scared what my friends will think because I act cool and sometimes can be a poser to admit it but i hope they accept the fact that i am in love what should i do?
    (i am going to ask her out tomorrow ill try to post what happens) THANKS FOR THE TIPS!!! YOU ROCK!!!
  • Caleb May 30, 2012 @ 5:00 pm | delete
    Workin' on it, I told her i loved her a million times but im gonna tell her what she means to me tonight!!!
  • hamshi5433 May 30, 2012 @ 5:57 pm | delete
    Aww that’s awesome! Hope everything goes well for you tonight. Best Wishes :)
  • MJ May 30, 2012 @ 5:41 am | delete
    hi just call me MJ, my girlfriend and i have been in the long distance relationship for two years everything has been going fine so far, sure we have arguements over very small childish stuff. Recently she stop saying she loves me, all she tells me is "she doesnt feel like saying it" so i told her if she loves me put a heart does that mean anything? she does put a heart though, i do get jealous because she hangs out with a single guy friend almost everyday hes been a friend for a while though so not to worried, she says hes just a friend but.........yeah, we skype but she doesnt have a video cam to chat so ive never seen her only pics and she totally beautiful, we play online games and i leave little notes and call her beautiful everyday, what should i do? any tips?
  • hamshi5433 May 30, 2012 @ 3:29 pm | delete
    Hi MJ,

    Long distance relationships are often really hard to deal with especially if the time difference is like more than 3 hours! You haven’t even seen her face but you`ve been with her for 2 years? Wow, that is amazing! Not many guys have this much patience and you should be proud of yourself for that. Why haven’t you planned to meet her yet? At least once, so that you guys can see each other face to face, have a nice heart to heart conversation and make your relationship even stronger.

    If you see her once, the childish little arguments you keep having with her will eventually stop and she will probably love you more than she does now. You see, you knew about her guy friend for a long time now and you were cool with it in the beginning so if you suddenly act weird about it, she’s going to think that you don’t trust her and you know where that could lead to.

    Unless you know for sure that she’s getting up to something sneaky with the other guy, you have nothing to worry about. You can even ask about her friend, how she met him and have a casual conversation about him with her to let her know that you do trust her. I wonder why she still hasn’t shown you her face on skype, why do you think that is? It’s been 2 years, so she could have just got a webcam somehow or went to the internet café to see you at least once. Just try to stay calm and avoid having too many arguments because that can actually make her feel sick of the relationship and seek for freedom. Try not to argue over pointless things because you guys haven’t even met each other in real life so you can’t even be there to comfort her and sort out the argument face to face. Talk to her like how you use to when you guys first met online and tell her you will always be that same person she fell in love with. Try to find an opportunity to meet her in real life, it is actually the best thing you can do to make this relationship even stronger. Feel free to continue the conversation anytime you wish.
    Best Wishes
  • brokenhearted May 29, 2012 @ 10:49 pm | delete
    dude, sorry the night in shining armor never works, ive personally treated every girlfriend like a queen, performed the majority of the steps listed above as a normal relationship as i wanted love and respect without forcing anyone. if anything your too patient, best thing you can do for yourself in both the short and longterm is get drunk and pluck up the courage to text her and ask if she is or would ever be interested in you. one way or another u have closure. dude dont let her play the games it hurts far too much, trust me on that. wishin u all the best with love and life.
  • David May 29, 2012 @ 5:56 am | delete
    Hi my name is David and I really, really, really love this girl. She's really beautiful inside and outside. I have kinda been her friend for almost a year or 2. One day I decided to have the courage to ask if she would go out with me and she said no, she wasn't ready for a relationship yet. But when I would be hanging with my friends I would see her kinda looking at me. She went out one of my "use-to-be" friends because she reminded them of there ex. A month later his ex came back to him and he dumped her. So every now and then I always see her, great smile, beautiful eyes, nice brown hair, just everything about her is beautiful, and I tired to talk to her through text and internet to see "wassup" with her. I want to try again because after meeting her I can never look at another girl again. But then i want to try again but don't want to rush things because I want a clear conscious of her when I do ask her. I do want to be her "knight-and-shining-armor" but I don't want to rush it. Should I try again and how should I approach this, because I know I can be the man she's been looking for, it's just when and the right timing.
  • hamshi5433 May 29, 2012 @ 12:24 pm | delete
    Hi David,
    I don’t quite understand what you`re saying in those sentences about she went out with someone and someone dumped him etc. Could you clarify on that a little more, please? Did she go out with one of your past friends? I’m really confused about that part about her going out with someone and the ex coming back and so on. She said no because she wasn’t ready for a relationship, but she still looks at you, which hints to me that she probably does have feelings for you inside. How often do you talk to her now? How does she talk to you? Does she flirt with you or give any sort of signals that she likes you? I would be able to offer better advice for your situation if I knew what you were talking about in those sentences. Im really sorry about this, let me know what you were trying to say in those lines and I will be able to help. Thank you for sharing your love matters here with me.
    Best Wishes,
    Hamshi
  • aman.... May 28, 2012 @ 5:22 am | delete
    hiiii...my name is aman
    i love a girl but she was already comited with someone else but now she broked up with him coz that guy want her on bed...i am trying to win her heart from 2 years...slowly slowly i made frndship with her and she started trusting me...on 20th april it was her b'day and i was with her...i made a card for her with my hands and i gave her a gift...at that time she was very impressed..and she told me that she loves me...but after that she come to know about her ex that her ex made up with her just for sex..so she is very sad and told me that she don't want any boy frnd and also she don't want to marry...plz help me...what should i do now..
    (sry for my english)
  • hamshi5433 May 28, 2012 @ 9:25 am | delete
    Hi Aman,

    I understand what you`re saying and I just want to say don’t panic! Majority of the girls go through a very painful time after breaking up with their boyfriends and it`s perfectly normal. She probably still some feelings for that guy deep inside [she maybe doesn’t] and so she just needs time [a lot of time] to get over what has happened before she moves on. She obviously sees you as a really good friend and trust me, you`re on the right track. She’s just going through so much pain because of what her ex put her through and she sounds like she`s really scared that whoever she decides to date in the future might also do the same thing to her [in this case you].

    Show her that you`re not like her ex. Don’t be upset if she talks to you about her ex at times because she might do it just to get all his bad memories out of her heart. She needs someone to talk to and a shoulder to cry on. Be that someone for her and give her your shoulder to cry on and if she accepts, give her a good friendly hug to comfort her when she`s deeply sad or even just holding her hand would be fine. When you love someone truly and you find out that they didn’t love you the same way, it will hurt so much and it has for her. So just give her some time of her own and be there for her whenever she needs you.

    She’s not going to be like this forever but it will take her sometime to come out of her past. She said that she loves you once and I think all the kindness you showed her probably made her fall in love with you but whenever she thinks about her ex, she’s getting really scared. Don’t panic! Just give her the time she needs and be there for her. Help her go through her pain and keep on comforting her.

    Are you willing to give her that time and be there for her until then? If yes, continue to be a good friend to her and don’t propose to her just yet. Wait for the right time, because you don’t want her to think that you were being a friend with her just to take advantage at times like this. Read tip 1, 2, 10 and 11 and the rest carefully and keep them in mind all the time.

    Be calm and don’t panic about her past. Just give her time to come out of it and be there for her. She needs your comforting words and friendship. Stand out from the rest and don’t ever do the things her ex put her through. Feel free to come back and talk about this as many times as you wish.
    Best wishes,
    Hamshi
  • aman.... May 29, 2012 @ 12:54 pm | delete
    thanx for your kind advice...
  • ben May 28, 2012 @ 2:20 am | delete
    I love a girl and i think she knows it but the problem is that it seems like she wants to talk to me for a week and then nothing for 2 weeks but when we do talk we have great conversations. By the way she is very christain still a virgin which i love and the most amazing person i know. What could i do to win her heart.
  • hamshi5433 May 28, 2012 @ 8:35 am | delete
    Hiya, Hmmm, I’m sure you could try most of the tips listed on this page. You`ve said it yourself that she`s a proper Christian girl which could be why she doesn’t want to spend time with you 247? Or is she busy with other things? My best advice in this case would be to be patient and be a good loving friend to her as you are right now. Make use of all the little sweet things you could possibly do to impress her like Tip 1, 2, 3, 6, 8, 9, 10 and 14. Actually keep all these tips in mind and act accordingly, it will help you win her heart. Don’t rush her into anything immediately, give it time and in the meanwhile, be the nicest person you can to her. Have you told her that you love her? If yes, what did she say back? Does she flirt with you when you guys are together and does she talk about any other guy a lot? Girls love attention, give her your attention [in a good way]. Feel free to come back and continue this conversation.
    Best Wishes,
    Hamshi
  • RDP May 26, 2012 @ 1:21 am | delete
    Thank you so much, my name is Dalton by the way haha, thats my middle name but everyone calls me that. I used my initials for this page. But when I was with her I actually found myself reading my Bible more and praying more and just feeling so much happier and stronger, I thanked God for her every day and I still thank God she's a part of my life. Anyway, thanks for the advice :) it's not to often I find someone as nice as you online haha
  • hamshi5433 May 26, 2012 @ 8:47 am | delete
    Oh Hi Dalton, nice to know you and thanks for sharing your love matters here with me. You were reading the bible more when you was with her, so good to hear that. I really hope god melts her heart and makes her see your real love. Thank you for the compliment :)
  • RDP May 25, 2012 @ 8:23 pm | delete
    For me she is definately worth waiting for, ive thought about this for a long time, and I was never happier in my life than when we were together. I dont think her family would have talked negatively about me to her, they all seemed to love me and I even helped them work on their new house. I thought everything was going so perfect, but I had that feeling that it was to good to be true... I invited her whole family to my graduation, she said they might be busy that day, and she didnt get to come but her grandmother did. We also didnt have a single fight while we were together, we barely disagreed on anything. But Im going to give her space and just try to be her freind, I hope that one day she'll see that its not easy to find someone who loves her this much... All I can do is hope and pray that she'll give me another chance.
  • hamshi5433 May 25, 2012 @ 10:06 pm | delete
    I also hope that she realises how much you love her and accepts your love soon or later. Any girl would be happy to be with someone so true loving like you. You seem to have the sweet personality that all girls die for so let’s hope she doesn’t miss you in her life. I’m also a Christian [born again] and I will definitely keep you in my prayers. I will have to call you RDP to Jesus because that’s what you named yourself on this page ha. I will pray that this girl you truly love accepts your love soon or later. I`ve received many miracles from Jesus in my life and he says that all we have to do is to believe to receive his miracles. So I say the same thing to you. Keep praying and believe that he’s heard your prayer, if he wishes you to be with her, he will definitely make it happen. Believe and have faith in him, that’s all you have to do. You can always feel free to come and talk here whenever you wish. God bless you.
  • RDP May 25, 2012 @ 6:43 pm | delete
    While we were together, she was actually the one who brought up marriage first... I had fantasies of it but I never wanted to bring it up because I thought it would scare her away, but she brought it up first so I thought we were both on the same page through our whole relationship. I actually just graduated high school a couple weeks ago, and Im starting college in the fall. And as for waiting for her, I told her that I would wait as long as it took, and I will if that means years even...
  • hamshi5433 May 25, 2012 @ 8:04 pm | delete
    Ah she shouldn’t have done that! What she thought `Love` was actually just `Infatuation`. She just probably got so excited and started saying whatever that popped into her head to you without realising the impact it’s going to have on you. This is really not nice. Do you think any of her friends or family members might have stirred negative thoughts into her mind about being with you and just made her want to give it up? Whatever it is, she shouldn’t have got your hopes high for nothing.

    On the positive side though, I’m really happy that you finished high school and are about to go to college. Always stay focussed on your career path no matter what. When you said to her that you will wait for her, she would have probably wouldn’t have found you serious because most guys say that to girls. I’m not saying that you should wait for her though; it’s totally up to you. Like I said before think twice or more before you wait for her ask yourself if she’s worth waiting for before you do it. If you manage to get over her one day, please don’t fall for the same trap again. Give it sometime for yourself to mature and for the right one to come your way.
    Keep smiling always :)
  • RDP May 25, 2012 @ 2:44 pm | delete
    I have already talked to her about some things, like I asked her why she told me she loved me while we were together and she told me she only meant it as a freindly love. That doesnt make sense to me at all because she knew she was making me believe she loved me the same way I love her, and she let me be her first kiss so I still believe she loved me like I love her... Ive been praying about this for months and months and I act like Im fine with just being her freind, but every time I see her its like somone is twisting my heart... This was actually my first real relationship, I am 17 and she is 16. In the past Ive thought I was in love, but when I started hanging out with her, I realized that ive never felt so strongly about something. Also when we broke up she said she didnt deserve a relationship right now because she was too immature to be in a relationship, and she also said she wasnt closing the door on me forever, but she left it at that... And while we were together she sent me hearts in her text messages and on Facebook posts that she mentioned me in. When we were together I would go to her horse shows(shes a barrel racer) and watch the whole show just to be there for her(the shows lasted for 8-9 hours at a time) and she told me that she was really glad I was there. Now she acts like shes mad at me for everything I do or say(I do have a habbit of being very sarcastic) and she told me I should let her go... When we were together I was actually going to go into the national guard, but I had a talk with her about it and she told me she would worry to death if I went, so I gave it up for her. She had a birthday this past week and I told her happy birthday at 12 AM in a text and a message on Facebook, and I am thinking about getting her something I know she has been wanting. She loves the show Little House on the Prairie, so I was going to get her the complete series on DVD(we used to sit on her couch and watch it together) but im not sure if this is too much because it costs around $80.. Please give me some feedback
  • hamshi5433 May 25, 2012 @ 6:13 pm | delete
    She’s lying to you so nicely. She knows and you know that she didn’t say love you in a `friendly` way. But I do understand her point about her being too young to be in a serious relationship right now. You`re both only 16 and 17, that is so dam young but sweet. First real love always blossoms around this age and it has definitely happened for you.

    Hey you know what, in a way she’s actually trying to help you I think. She broke up with you right after you guys had that conversation about marriage etc right? And she said she’s too young and immature to be in a relationship which hints to me that she wanted you to not to take her so seriously at this point. Though she does like you a lot deep inside [or even loves you], she just doesn’t think it’s the right time for her to be in a serious relationship. She didn’t want a serious relationship right now and when she realised that you do, she broke up right away so that you don’t get hurt more in the future. It will hurt so bad if she broke up months or years later right? So in a way she’s done what she thought would be best for her and for you. Now she can be free and mind her own life without having to worry about being in a serious love relationship but sadly you`re still hurting over her and missing her too much.

    You`ve done and are still doing so many sweet things for her and I just wish this girl would realise your real love for her and come back to you soon. Right now don’t talk to her about love, just try to be friends with her for some time. It will be really hard but if you don’t want to move on from her, the only thing you can do is to be friends with her and see how things go from there. If you soon realise it’s pointless waiting for her, then don’t talk to her at all. It’s just going to cause you more and more pain. She said she hasn’t closed the door on you forever, so maybe she could come back in a few months’ time or even a year or more but can you [are you] going to wait that long for her? Do it only if you think she’s worth waiting for. Otherwise the best thing you can do is to talk casually with her once in a while if you want to and show her that you`re living your normal life. Stay dedicated to your studies. Don’t ever flop your education for a girl because she will be smart not to do it for any guy! So you also show her what you can achieve and let her see you levelling up in your life day by day. When you do this, she will definitely envy to be your girlfriend [or even wife] one day! You`re doing you’re a-levels now right? Make sure you complete them and go to uni and focus on your career. Girls think and worry a lot about future and she definitely wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t have a proper career/job etc. so stay focussed on your studies and work hard, don’t let anything [any girl] ruin your career.

    Take care,
    Hamshi
  • RDP May 25, 2012 @ 5:24 am | delete
    Sorry if my comment is posted like four times, my internet is being weird haha...
  • hamshi5433 May 25, 2012 @ 10:12 am | delete
    Heya, I honestly enjoyed reading your love story but the last part made me really sad! When I was reading it I thought to myself, for once someone’s going to tell me a happy ending story but No, it always ends up sad :(

    From the way you`re talking I can see how much you`re in love with her because you were even willing to take the relationship further and told her that you will marry her too. However I don’t think she was in love with you even though she said she loved you. I know you would be so sad to hear that but you know that’s how some girls are. You clearly asked her not to say love you back if she didn’t mean it right? She told you she loved you so many times, dated you, kissed you and even talked about the future with you so I don’t understand why she broke up with you so randomly. That just makes me think if she got possessed or something the night before she broke up with you seriously!

    I also have this feeling that maybe she just wanted to date you for fun and get up to nothing serious like a proper relationship etc. If she did want a long lasting relationship, she wouldn’t have broken up with you like that. It would have been so much better if she didn’t be so lovey dovey to you and get your hopes high for nothing. I also don’t understand how she can act like she hardly knows you now.

    Why don’t you try and talk to her about this matter for one last time before you can make further decisions? Just take her out for lunch or something and tell her everything you have in your heart. I can only say things from what I`ve heard but you will know the truth only if you make an effort to talk to her about this issue. Ask her to tell you how she sees you now and why she broke up with you like that. Also ask her why she was being all lovey dovey to you if she didn’t want to have a long relationship with you. You need to know what’s in her heart so ask her and find that out first. You never know maybe she’s going through some problems in her life and she doesn’t want a relationship right now? whatever it is ask her and find out what she has in her heart.

    If she says things like she doesn’t think it’s the right time for her to be in a serious relationship or anything similar, just give her a good hug and say goodbye to her before she hurts you anymore. From that day onwards, act normal and show her you`re happy with your life. She might start missing you after you stop giving her your attention, if she doesn’t its all for your good. You don’t want to waste your time and effort with the wrong person right?? So think carefully and don’t waste much time on her when you feel that its not going to get anywhere good.

    Sorry this has happened to you. I hope you recover from this pain soon and get your happy days back again soon. And oh yes your post came up 3 times, I thought something went wrong with my guestbook ha. Feel free to come back and talk about these problems whenever you wish.
    Take Care
    Best Wishes,
    Hamshi
  • RDP May 25, 2012 @ 5:06 am | delete
    Well I fell in love woth this girl at my church, we have been friends for around a year and it started out as a crush, but then I found out she liked my best friend and not me... I really thought since I just had a crush on her that I could let her go, but my feelings for her just got stronger over the next few weeks. I realized I was in love. I had a heart to heart with my friend and asked him if he loved her and he told me he didn't, and that he only liked her as a friend. My friend knew that I had very strong feelings for her so he had a talk with her and convinced her to give me a chance, and that same weekend me and my love started dating. I was overjoyed to be dating the girl I loved, and when we started going out she was extremely excited about it too. Soon we were telling each other we loved each other and from the beggining I told her that I didnt want her to say it back unless she really felt it, and she said it back A LOT. We were texting each other constantly and we were talking about romantic stuff like dancing to one of her favorite songs(If my heart was a House, by Owl City) ps We also went to prom together (as friends) a few weeks earlier. Anyway we were also hanging out a lot and I met her family and they all really liked me, even her dad. Every time we would hang out she would tell me she loved me and how she loved me being with her. I was constantly telling her she was beautiful and how much I loved her and how lucky I was to have her. She loved it when we would hang out in front of her house in her porch swing and I would put my arm around her and she would rest her head on my shoulder :) and while we were together we talked about college and our futures and I asked her if she really could see us together that long. She said that she could, and a few days after that she asked of she thought we would ever be married, so I told her if I was lucky enough to still have her love, that I would be honored to marry her. We dated for around two weeks and we actually had our first kiss(her and my first kiss with anyone, not just each other) and it was amazing. The following weekend, she told me that she wasnt sure about us anymore and she broke up with me... I told her that I still love her, and she told me she loves me as a friend... We went through so much together and she expressed her love for me constantly while we were together. I still love this girl with all my heart and soul, and Im just not sure what to do anymore... I just want her back so bad. I want to take things slow and have a lasting relationship with her, but now shes acting like she doesnt know me that well at all... Im so confused.. Please give me some advice, I will do anything to win her heart again
  • shy guy makeing mistakes May 23, 2012 @ 7:27 pm | delete
    We started out great laughing and talking and eventually after being good friends she started saying she loved me and so on but it was like after awhile she stopped saying all of that and when i comfronted her she said she was in her own head." she use to text me before i woke up now she dosent except before our drill when we see one another before when she was feeling down i drove to go hangout to cheer her up.. now its like she dont want to give me the time of day i have been blowing up her phone which im stopping till her birthday its just hard.. i just want to know there is always hope? always a chance to turn it around? i made the recent mistake of trying to come on sexually or so which im just shy and really would not of but it made it awkward.. i just want to fix what we had.. i care for her alot and me trying to be someone i wasnt i fear i might of made it worse i just fear giving time i will lose this great person but space is good.. im just shy and scared i dont want this to end like always..
  • hamshi5433 May 24, 2012 @ 10:03 am | delete
    Hmm everyone wishes to rewind time back to when everything was perfect at least once in their lifetime. You know the mistake you made and you regret that right? Now don’t worry much about it, have you apologised to her if she was really upset about it? If she said she loves you then she probably still does! But maybe she’s just going through that time of her life when she’s feeling like she’s not doing the right thing. Or maybe she’s still upset with you about something. Try and find a moment to talk to her about this like a proper heart to heart conversation. Find out what she’s thinking and what she wants from you. Sometimes girls ignore and act like they don’t care when they really do deep inside their heart. They do that to get the attention from their loved ones and maybe that’s what she’s doing to you. Maybe she wants you to miss her more.

    Yes there is always some hope! You do have a chance to turn things back to the way they were but only if she’s willing to as well. Speak to her and tell her how much you love and care about her. Tell her you won’t make that mistake again and do the sweet things you use to do for her again. Be there for her when she needs you and give her your support even if she acts like she doesn’t care anymore. I hope things work out for you with her and hope you guys get back to those happy days again. Feel free to come back and talk about this whenever you wish.
    Best wishes :)
  • rahul kumar singh.... May 23, 2012 @ 12:23 am | delete
    i love a girl,, she leaves near my home,nd she too loves me a lot but problem is that,her mother nd father opposes our relationship,,nd we hardly meet each othr,,,,,what should i do?,,i m quite tense ,plz help me,,plzzzzz
  • hamshi5433 May 23, 2012 @ 7:07 pm | delete
    Heya, I understand how frustrated you are from what you said. You`ve already won her heart and now you`re in the stage of trying to win her parents heart right? Well don’t make stupid decisions like running away, especially if you`re not financially well enough to take care of her and the family.

    Patience is really important in situations like this. Try not to rush into anything you would regret later. Ask someone you can trust for help and try to find a way to talk to the girl about this matter. Ask her how she feels and what her parents are planning to do etc.

    Try your best to convince both families but if it gets to the point where they`re forcing her to marry someone else or your parents are asking you to marry some other girl, then ask her if she’s willing to run away with you to be with you and if she says yes, then go for it! This should be your last decision when everything else fails but before that, try your best to convince the parents and stay patient.

    Try not to stress too much about the situation. It only makes things worse. Just try and contact her, talk to her about what she thinks and wants to do about the situation. Get help from someone you can trust in your family and ask them to help you too. I hope you get to marry the girl you love.
    Wishing you all the best :)
  • Chitiz Pradhan May 22, 2012 @ 10:01 pm | delete
    Does girlfriend get jealous when we are busy with our activities...???
  • hamshi5433 May 22, 2012 @ 10:22 pm | delete
    Girls get jealous for various reasons but they don’t normally get jealous for stupid reasons such as you spending time with your family members or you being busy with work related matters. If they do then they`re just being simply silly!

    However it’s normal for girls to get jealous if they see you spending time with one or more of your other friends who are also girls and if you forget to give them the attention they deserve. For e.g. They might get jealous and angry if you spend time doing other things all day every day and not spending enough time with them.

    You just have to learn to balance things out and make sure that you`re not making them feel left alone. Other than that, normal girls don’t get jealous for silly reasons.
  • Craig smith May 20, 2012 @ 11:32 am | delete
    I was seeing a girl for 6 weeks and then she backed off because things were moving too quickly and she wasn't sure if she wanted a relationship. She's now seeing a guy who cheated on his ex to be with her so I'm desperate to try and prove to her that I'm much better than that type of guy and give it a go to 'win her back'.......how can I try and do this?
  • hamshi5433 May 20, 2012 @ 12:10 pm | delete
    Heya.. You seem like you`re in love with her but from what you said about her, looks like she was only dating you for fun that’s why she didn’t want a proper relationship. And does she know that this guy cheated on his ex to be with her? If she does know and she`s still with him then it just adds up that he’s the type of person who suits her. I’m not trying to judge her and say she’s bad or anything but maybe she`s just not a serious type yet.

    I think you should forget that part about trying to prove her how bad he is because if you do try to, she’s going to think you`re just jealous and might never take you seriously. This is how most girls would think in such situations, so you should just stay good friends with her for the time being and let her see your good personality every day. Make her feel special and that you`re not trying to use her for anything. Forget about him for now and just focus on you and her. Don’t give her too much attention either because girls don’t always appreciate it when they receive far too much attention from their loved ones! Especially in your situation, you just want to keep things going casual and nothing too serious at this point.

    Always remember not to waste your effort on the wrong person! Think twice or thrice if she’s really worth you`re effort before you try to win her heart back. If you feel it in your heart that she’s the one, then you can go for it. I hope she realises what she lost and comes back to you before its late. Best Wishes :)
  • Craig smith May 20, 2012 @ 4:57 pm | delete
    thanks for the reply hamshi :) yeah she finished a 6 year relationship a couple of years ago so i think you're probably absolutely right about her not being ready for a relationship, unfortunately though she gave me signals that said otherwise. And yes she did know that the guy was seeing someone else. I guess its just upto her now but it will probably turn out that they'll end up in a relationship together, seems to be the sort of thing that happens. But more than likely he'll end up cheating on her like he did to his ex so it will be her that loses out
  • Craig smith May 20, 2012 @ 5:06 pm | delete
    i think my problem with this situation and generally is that maybe i fall in love too easily and so end up rushing things :( at least I will know this for future I guess
  • hamshi5433 May 20, 2012 @ 7:41 pm | delete
    You`re welcome sweetheart. Aha see so that’s probably why she said no to you. I know it will hurt to hear this but she probably just used you as a rebound to get over her ex. That’s what most people do nowadays, but don’t be sad about it. Everything happens for a reason and I’m sure you will find your suitable other half soon or later. I`ve heard a saying that good things always happen to those who wait. May that be true in your life.

    Try not to let yourself fall in love too soon after meeting a girl. It’s hard but you have to try your best not to so that you don’t get hurt again. Even if you do end up falling in love with another girl, don’t let her know until you`re 100% sure that she’s the one. Like I said before, take things slow and move on casually. If he does end up cheating on her, she would realise what she lost.

    Keep distance from her if it will help to get over her and if you can see her as just a friend then it’s your choice. Just try not to put yourself in the same kind of situation in the future. Good to hear from you again :)
  • Albert Crissy May 19, 2012 @ 6:24 am | delete
    Feels like love with her beside me but when i ask her, she said 'nah!!'(with a glittering smile)...Do you know what that means???..
  • hamshi5433 May 19, 2012 @ 3:46 pm | delete
    Hmm you feel that she loves you but she’s not saying yes when you ask her? If she was smiling and being shy when she said NO, then there is a possibility that she does love you. Or could also mean she didn’t take you seriously and just didn’t want to hurt your feelings by saying NO in a strict way.
  • Geekbird May 15, 2012 @ 5:28 pm | delete
    Does some one give a child hood pic to someone he doesn't love? Take studio pictures introduce you to immediate family and tell you he loves you unless he does guys
  • hamshi5433 May 19, 2012 @ 3:44 pm | delete
    Heya, I’m not quite sure I understand what you`re trying to ask here but from what I have understood, you`re asking me if that person loves you because they gave you their childhood photo and introduced you to their family members??
    Friends do that too but you should be able to tell if they do from the way they act around you. Does he say things that make you feel special and more than a friend? Do you guys flirt etc? If yes, then it could be that he loves you and wants to take the relationship to the next level.
  • keepingscore May 14, 2012 @ 11:47 pm | delete
    You could make each one of your tips a stand alone lens, no shortage of material and there's no doubt you have the talent.
  • piarejuden May 14, 2012 @ 12:35 am | delete
    Superb lens.. loved reading it.. :) Cheers!
  • hamshi5433 May 1, 2012 @ 1:21 pm | delete
    Reply to 999:

    She must be going through so much pain because she loved you truly. There is a possibility that you might win back her love but it will take a long time to win back her trust. Have you tried apologising to her for what you did? Find a moment to speak to her, apologise to her from the bottom of your heart and tell her how much you love her. Tell her how special she is to you and tell her how much you regret doing what you did. You can try recording everything you want to say to her in a tape and give it to her with an apology card and flowers. Or you can just say everything to her face to face if possible and let her see your emotions.

    She might continue to reject your apology at first but deep inside she will be thinking about you. She will miss you when she thinks about the good times she`s had with you but she will get angry and sad when she thinks about what you did to her. You have to prepare yourself to cope with all these different types of reactions you`ll receive from her.

    Sometimes she might even think about taking revenge on you by dating another guy but that will be because of lust [most of the time] and if she does do that by any chance, make sure you don’t get mad at her and start talking bad about her behind her back [like most boys do]. Even if one of your mates say something bad about her, you should stand up for her and never let anyone bring her down because no one has the right to.

    Just be patient and continue to apologise to her once in a while. Make sure you don’t hang around with too many girls and avoid keeping in contact with the person whom you betrayed her with. Try work your way to become her friend again [if you haven’t yet] and take things slow. Tell her that you will wait for her until she forgives and comes back to you. Do all sorts of sweet things for her to make her feel special [even if she doesn’t appreciate it].

    Trust is like a mirror, once it’s broken it can be really hard to fix [sometimes impossible]. But if you truly love her and she loves you, she will definitely come back to you someday soon or later. Everything you used to do for her, do it again and do more kind things to make her feel loved again. Do something special to bring her smile and happiness back. Be patient no matter what she does and show her you`re willing to do anything for her. Don’t do the things she dislikes and keep doing something to make her smile.

    If you get a chance to see her alone someday, tell her everything you want to say and then hug her tight. Don’t let go even if she tries to push you away, just keep holding her and hug her tight for few minutes and tell her how much you love her before you leave. This will definitely make her miss you. Don’t feel embarrassed to cry in front of her when you`re apologising to her, just let go of your ego and express your love for her. This doesn’t mean you have to cry every time you see her but doing it once in front of her shows how much you love her. Guys don’t cry that easily over girls and when they do, it means they love their girls so if your girl sees you crying when you`re apologising to her, she will see how much you love her and want her back. And hopefully she will soon forgive you and be with you again. If she does get back with you, please don’t ever break her trust again and do whatever it takes to continue to rebuild that trust. Best wishes :)
  • pureheart Apr 28, 2012 @ 12:47 pm | delete
    am just bad on the pick up lines so how can i win her heart? help on the approach at first site coz ma lonely...thanx
  • hamshi5433 Apr 28, 2012 @ 1:11 pm | delete
    I think the reply below should help you too and you`re welcome :)
  • Reinwheezy Apr 28, 2012 @ 12:44 pm | delete
    uh mm, thanks for the pieces of advice...but my situation is kind of challenging to me.
    i just don't know how to make her mine...whenever i try, i fail what's wrong with me?hey guys out there, help me with catchy pic up lines for her!
  • hamshi5433 Apr 28, 2012 @ 1:09 pm | delete
    You`re welcome and Nothing’s wrong with you. But if you`re worrying too much about what could be wrong then that's what`s probably wrong with you. Just relax and learn to take things easy. It doesn't matter how many times you try and fail but it does matter if you fail and not try again.

    You don’t really need awesome pickup lines to impress a girl at first sight; you can just approach her in a decent and opened manner and be yourself to her. Just don’t be too shy [if you are] and don’t be too brave either when approaching a girl for the first time. Girls don’t really like it when guys are over confident about themselves nor do they like it when they`re too shy.

    Just be yourself and start a decent conversation. You can’t go up to her and say something like “Hey girl didn’t it hurt when you fell from heaven? Etc” Those lines are so old and its good if you`re aim is to make the girl laugh but if you want to make her yours then you got to be yourself to her.

    How do you feel when you see her? What was your first reaction? Just say something simple and sweet and it will get their attention. And remember every girl is different, I’m sure there will be a girl out there who will like you for being you. What could make you happier than that?

    Just relax and approach them in a decent friendly manner. Don’t let them know you`re interested in dating them straightaway, take things slow and try and get to know each other first. Don’t be available for her 24/7, that will make her think you don’t have anything better to do so make yourself busy doing whatever you have to do and spend time with her. The sweet and friendly approach works the best. Hope it works for you too. Best Wishes :)
  • 27guy Apr 27, 2012 @ 4:37 am | delete
    i love a girl who has a boyfriend and they r in a relationship since four months,but i truly love her the guy whom she loves is known to her from the school days but they came into relationship recently...so do i have any chances of making her mine......plzz do rply
  • hamshi5433 Apr 27, 2012 @ 8:58 am | delete
    Heya. I`ve already answered this question on tip 17. I know that we don’t have control over our emotions especially when it comes to love matters but falling for a girl who’s already in a relationship is not right to begin with. I’m sorry, I know this is not what you wanted to hear but I do not want to lie and get your hopes high for nothing. It doesn’t really matter how long they`ve been together, if they`re seriously in love then its best not to interrupt their happy relationship right? How would you feel if another guy was searching for ways to win your girl`s heart while you`re madly in love with her? Karma is a B**** and it’s always got its ways to get people back.

    However some people just date for fun and if she’s not in love with him or he’s not in love with her then yes you could have a chance to win her heart at some point. If you badly want to win her heart, I think it’s best to wait and see how her relationship goes with that other guy. You shouldn’t be the reason for their breakup but you can be the reason for her to fall in real love after she breaks up [if she does]. If anything like that happens by your luck, please do let me know and I will try my best to help you win her heart. But right now it’s against my morals for me to do that. Sorry again.
    Best wishes :)
  • 17guy Apr 24, 2012 @ 11:45 am | delete
    hey! thanks so much....i didnt betray her because we weren't dating..but i know she felt bad. she's forgiven me though..but i know she really loves her new guy cause her bbm statuses are always about him and their love. and i know he's not using her cause he left one of my seniors in school for her. i guess every successive day i realize more and more that its not meant to be. I try messaging her less but she was my best friend and understood me like no other...i guess i just have to embrace that and move on:) thank you.
  • hamshi5433 Apr 24, 2012 @ 12:52 pm | delete
    Oops my bad and you`re welcome. awww at least you realised it how much it still hurt her. Hmm yeah if she loves her new guy so much and he loves her then there’s not much you can do about it but just remember some people write Fb statuses, bb statuses, msn statuses about their loved ones just for publicity and attention. She may not be doing it for attention but writing lovey dovey statuses doesn’t always mean someone’s madly in love. It could just be infatuation [never know]. But hey it’s good that you`re learning to accept the fact that she`s moved on and that you should also do the same. Hope nothing ruins the wonderful friendship you have with her. Hope you have a great life. :)
  • 17guy Apr 26, 2012 @ 3:26 pm | delete
    you're amazing thank you so much. and hope you have a great life to and many more successful blogs. something tells me im going to be back here sometime or the other in my life :)
  • hamshi5433 Apr 26, 2012 @ 3:41 pm | delete
    You`re always welcome to come back and let me know how your love life or just life in general is going. :) And Thank you so much for the wishes. Wish you all the best. Take care.
  • Dom Apr 23, 2012 @ 10:09 pm | delete
    So heyy... I too need advice. I'm 17 and I've liked this girl since 6th grade. I've asked her out before over the years and all we remained is good friends. And now it's just getting to be to much. I never ever get a definate NO from her. And now shes going to prom with some guy who KNEW i loved her ALOT, and continue to do stuff in front of me, (hug, take her places etc.) and i know I don;t have much of a right to be mad about that but it really does eat at me ya know? So he asked her to prom and said yes. But me and her alaways do stuff! like I walk her to her homeroom every morning, we sometime go to get breakfast, i meet her at her locker in the middle of the day, and we walk to lunch together, EVERYDAY!! And it's just getting to a point now where alot of what I think about is her... any advice? I fear I am in what everyone calls "the friend zone" or the "Brotherzone" Terrible terrible terrible places to be in.
  • hamshi5433 Apr 24, 2012 @ 9:57 am | delete
    You`ve liked her since 6th grade? That’s so sweet!
    How many times have you asked her out in the past and how old were you the last time you asked her out? I ask this because if the last time you asked her was more than a year ago, she could have thought that she needed to focus on her studies more than relationships and she probably just wanted to stay good friends with you and see how things go. But it is a bit weird that she hasn’t said a straight NO to you if she doesn’t want to go out with you. I hope she’s not one of those girls who long things out to enjoy the attention they`re getting.

    The guy who asked her to go prom with him obviously doesn’t care if you love her or not. He either asked her in a friendly way [did he?] or he just wanted to give her a try and he succeeded [in making her say Yes to go prom with him]. Do you see them flirting? Do his actions look like he likes her or loves her? Does she get very close with him than she is with you? If yes then maybe she does like him.

    I cannot judge her and say that she’s just dragging you along while she has someone else on the side because I do not know that girl but you know her well so you should be able to tell if she is using you for anything? Does she flirt with you and give you signals like she wants to go out with you? If she does then you could just ask her out for one last time to see what she says and this time make sure you ask her to give you her final answer so that you can at least move on with your life. If she’s flirting with you and says she doesn’t like you in that way then she probably just liked the attention you were giving her and just wanted to keep that attention for as long as she could.

    Or she could have just wanted to remain good friends with you since you guys know each other for a very long time and maybe she didn’t want to ruin your friendship with love etc. It doesn’t matter if she’s going to the prom with him; you need to know a definite answer from her right? So just ask her out and tell her to give you a straight answer. This is the best you can do really. If she says no then you make the decision to whether or not to continue your friendship with her. You might still want to be friends with her or you might not because you might want to forget her thoughts so keeping distance from her can help.

    I understand how you feel about being in the `brotherzone`. If you get the answer that you didn’t want to get from her then you should maintain distance from her and move on with your daily life because it will help ease your mind off her and help you focus on other things. Then again its your choice if you still want to be friends with her if she says NO, if you think you would rather be a friend to her than be nothing at all then just carry on being a friend to her otherwise just avoid talking to her all the time, going to lunch together etc and keep distance. Maybe that might make her to miss you and anything could happen [positive]. Think carefully about all the questions I`ve asked here and listen to your heart on what decision to make.
    Hope it turns out good for you. Good luck :)
  • 17guy Apr 22, 2012 @ 1:39 pm | delete
    ok so i need advice. i am 17. i was dating a girl for 3 years and we broke up 8 months back...we tried to sort it out 3months ago but i said i didn't want it cause she was really demanding... but i never stopped thinking about her...i unintentionally hurt her when i made out with one of her friends at a club...i really love her but she's now dating someone else....a few days back she told me that she's not yet over me. but she doesnt want anything because she loves the guy...i know this page is about how to win a girls heart, but any advice on how to win BACK a girls heart? more than anything she was my best friend...her mom and sis were like family and when she got a dog i was the one who carried it into the vet...that stuff means so much..but can i still get her back?
  • hamshi5433 Apr 22, 2012 @ 2:43 pm | delete
    Dam sweety you must have hurt her so much when you did that and she probably wanted to take revenge or just take her mind off you that’s why she’s with him. I doubt she could be in love with her new guy after everything you guys have been through, but if he ends up being the real sweet guy who won’t hurt her the way you did and will treat her the way she really deserves then yes there could be a possibility for her to fall in love with him. Lust blinded your eyes and you ended up hurting her but it looks like to me that you really do love her and want her back with you so I would say just be patient.
    What do you mean when you say that she was so demanding? Majority of the girls who fall in love expect their man to show real love and affection. Sometimes we expect our guys to show the love of a father and this means making sure that she’s always safe, being there for her when she really needs you and giving her that big teddybear hug when she’s feeling sad and all these kind of things. We also get quite possessive over the ones we love and especially over our boyfriends. Boys always mistake it when a girl acts possessive over them; it’s not because she doesn’t trust you but only because she loves you that much and doesn’t want to share you with anyone. This applies to both guys and girls.
    Give her some time to get over the pain you gave her. She told you herself that she’s not yet over you which means that you still do have another chance but you got to think about the other person who might also get hurt if he finds out that his girl was only using him as a rebound. You have to show her how much you regret doing what you did. Even though she’s with another guy, you should try to avoid hanging out with other girls [if you do] and try out some ways to say sorry to her. You can text her once in a while letting her know how sorry you are. You can try sending her an apology card with some flowers [old technique but still works!]. Do these sweet little things to impress her and win her heart back; if she still has space for you in her heart then she will come back to you soon or later. But please don’t rush into a relationship to try and get over her or to try and make her jealous because you really aren’t trying to push her away so stay away from stupid decisions and give her some time to think about you guys. Even if you`re not with her, make sure you wish her right at 12 on her birthday and tell her how much you miss her and want her back.

    Girls love attention and they die for the attention from their loved ones so give it to her and let her come back. You never know she could be happy in her relationship today but she might have an argument tomorrow and remember the good memories she had with you which might make her want to get back with you. You really have to show her that you can be trusted and you`re not the same person who once betrayed her. I’m sure you still remember all the good moments you had with her, try to do the sweet little things you use to do for her and don’t be upset if she doesn’t take any notice at first. She might just want to throw out some anger at first but eventually she will realise how much you love her and hopefully get back with you.

    However I really hope the guy she’s with doesn’t end up getting hurt in the end [He didn’t do anything to deserve it]. Let’s hope he wasn’t planning on having a serious relationship with her and also that she’s not really in love with him. Do what you can and be patient and leave the rest to fate [Fate matters sometimes]. I hope she forgives you and comes back to you and also hope that you will never hurt her again if you have her back. :) Good luck and have a blessed life.
  • this guy Apr 16, 2012 @ 11:03 pm | delete
    a girl likes me what should i do
  • hamshi5433 Apr 17, 2012 @ 10:39 pm | delete
    Then it should be easier for you to win her heart and the tips on this page can surely help with that. So try them and hope you have a nice relationship with her. Be a good friend to her and take things slow if you`re serious about having a proper relationship with her. Good luck :)
  • 999 May 1, 2012 @ 5:04 am | delete
    i hv broken the trust of a girl who was deeply in love with me for vry slly reasons........how can i get her back to the old days were she loved me.....:(
  • Mujjen Apr 15, 2012 @ 4:26 pm | delete
    This was fun to read, and think if I agree. My husband of almost three decades has never cooked for me yet.....but he takes me out for dinner instead!
  • dramaresistant Apr 15, 2012 @ 2:16 am | delete
    Still in the process. She just broke up with her ex, so I'm taking it slow. She's internally and externally beautiful. I know I'm a great person that gives a lot of love and so is she; therefore we'll make an awesome team. Even if we go no further than friends, I'll be just as happy because she is amazing!
  • hamshi5433 Apr 17, 2012 @ 10:40 pm | delete
    This is really sweet! I really hope you guys work out in the end. Good luck to you. :)
  • TTMall Mar 19, 2012 @ 2:41 pm | delete
    Thanks for sharing these great resources.
  • allenwebstarme Feb 21, 2012 @ 2:39 am | delete
    Wow wonderful lens, I always think about few points which i didn't do with my GF like kiss on her forehead and Show interest in meeting her family members and becoming one of them. Thanks for sharing this ideas, definitely it's going to be very helpful.
  • Jacquelyn1981 Feb 11, 2012 @ 8:50 am | delete
    awesome post! now i remember why i am single. lol. never settle for someone that won't treat you right
  • Marion23 Feb 10, 2012 @ 6:20 pm | delete
    Well written and good advice. Thanks!
  • benakiri21@yahoo.com Apr 10, 2012 @ 4:28 am | delete
    like the advice am gonna try it out
  • JesPiddlin Feb 10, 2012 @ 11:04 am | delete
    If either (or both) of you have been married, or in a very serious relationship, it is possible you are carrying some baggage you can't seem to put down. Fear of being hurt like this, or suspicious of actions, etc.. You have to give those feelings a lot of respect and treat them gently, or they could come back to bite! Trust is the most important key to a solid relationship. Violation of trust in some form is possibly what destroyed the prior relationship. If you ever lie -- you've just opened the door for doubt and it's hard to rebuild the trust. Hitting a girl (or a guy) is not cool, either... even if it is for fun. If you hit the other person, you're suggesting it's okay to hit you back. Once the hits start coming, it can be an easy transition to abuse. Better not to give it a chance! Show her she means that much to you!
  • jimmyworldstar Feb 9, 2012 @ 3:57 pm | delete
    I wouldn't even talk about my ex. For meeting her family, not everyone is ready to take that step and say that they're going to wed, so just be polite and engage with the family if you're not dating yet.
  • eternisemoi Feb 9, 2012 @ 9:54 am | delete
    I agree with all of these tips. I think you did a great job of covering the subject.
  • paullenton Feb 9, 2012 @ 8:07 am | delete
    Good tips! I have won and lost several times in my life and agree totally!
  • ClassyGals Feb 8, 2012 @ 12:20 pm | delete
    Awesome tips on how to win a girl's heart. Angel Blessings**
  • BunnyFabulous Feb 8, 2012 @ 8:19 am | delete
    You've got some great stuff here! Excellent lens, as usual, girl! Congrats for being on the first page of Squidoo. Another tip for guys, or anyone for that matter: treat waitstaff, etc. with kindness as respect. If a guy's all sweet to you at dinner, and he's rude to the waiter....run.
  • Helenee Feb 8, 2012 @ 4:24 am | delete
    Right on spot, girl -- hey, because it's our hearts invlolved, no?
  • cleanyoucar Feb 7, 2012 @ 10:52 pm | delete
    Great advise here, good tips for the guys.
  • sheezie77 Feb 7, 2012 @ 8:44 am | delete
    Amazing Lens Squidlikes!
  • sheezie77 Feb 7, 2012 @ 8:43 am | delete
    Amazing Lens Squidlikes!
  • naheedahsan Feb 7, 2012 @ 12:25 am | delete
    good lens and great tips.....thanks
  • ZodiacImmortal Feb 6, 2012 @ 5:59 pm | delete
    Do't forget to include to make an actual effort, some guys will just give a gift w/o it haveing any meaning (like giving paints to someone that can't draw or paint, unless of course you got them lessons) Don't just give them a gift like Chocolate, cardor whatever for at least valentine's make it something that shows her personality or fave animal etc. She'll know you are listening.

    I'm including this on the next update for my Valentine's
  • Tipi Feb 6, 2012 @ 9:05 am | delete
    Returning to congratulate you on receiving front page honors for your wise counsel!
  • GoodGirlSEO Feb 3, 2012 @ 12:43 pm | delete
    I love tip #7
  • sockii Feb 1, 2012 @ 7:40 pm | delete
    Awesome advice and so true. It's so much of why I have been with my partner for 7 years - we have respect for each other and he showed me respect right from the start. That's why I knew he was the right person for me.
  • winlin Jan 27, 2012 @ 3:34 am | delete
    Well done!
  • hlkljgk Jan 25, 2012 @ 10:37 am | delete
    great tips
  • YHONG04 Jan 25, 2012 @ 6:10 am | delete
    Nice lens, precise and well stated very informative.
  • gottaloveit Jan 15, 2012 @ 8:29 am | delete
    Excellent advice! My very significant other wins my heart every day but perhaps not more than yesterday when he took my soaking wet clothes (fell into the 39 degree Bay....), washed and dried them at the marina. That's the way, dudes, to win a girl's heart.
  • antoniow Jan 14, 2012 @ 2:03 pm | delete
    Very nice lens! keep up the good work thumbs up
  • leeleon Jan 13, 2012 @ 8:44 pm | delete
    great tips
  • aesta1 Jan 12, 2012 @ 8:38 pm | delete
    You have expressed these tips well.
  • Mauhro Jan 9, 2012 @ 12:52 pm | delete
    Totally agree :)
  • karmicchristian Jan 9, 2012 @ 5:49 am | delete
    Very nice and well stated! :)
  • Tipi Jan 8, 2012 @ 5:21 pm | delete
    What good counsel you give...read this guys! Angel dust sprinkled over all this love in the air!
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