How To Get Over Someone You Love.
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Letting Go of Love
It isn't easy to get over a person you love. You may think you are over that person and all ready to move on, but the fact that you ask the question says you aren't there yet.
It will be a slow process. It will also be a painful one. And, even though you are actually over the person, something may trigger a memory years down the road, and you may feel some of the sadness again.
When you've been emotionally invested in a relationship that comes to an end, you will feel sadness for years to come, sometimes for the rest of your life. But, there is no reason to let this sadness throuw you into a paralyizing depression. You are still a vibrant person, with a lot to offer. This article will give you some suggestions that will help you get over someone you love.
It will be a slow process. It will also be a painful one. And, even though you are actually over the person, something may trigger a memory years down the road, and you may feel some of the sadness again.
When you've been emotionally invested in a relationship that comes to an end, you will feel sadness for years to come, sometimes for the rest of your life. But, there is no reason to let this sadness throuw you into a paralyizing depression. You are still a vibrant person, with a lot to offer. This article will give you some suggestions that will help you get over someone you love.
It's hardest in the beginning.
In time some of the pain will subside.
If the loss is recent, the only way to handle it is to just face the pain and accept that it hurts. And that it won't go away very soon.
Removing the visual reminders may give you some ease. Put away photographs, and special knick-knacks. Pack away the presents and the special music. You may want some of these down the road, so just store them for now.
Change the places you go. And your activities. If you used to go to the movies every Friday night, look for something different to do on Friday nights. Try a book signing, a school play, a walk on the beach, 2 hours at the library, or even learning to cook. It doesn't matter what you do on Friday night, just as long as it isn't the movies.
Take on a new project. Volunteer someplace: Big Brothers- Big Sisters,
the hospital, your church, some other church, a little league team, take lessons, %u2026..get the idea? The more active you can be, the more you will distract yourself from the pain, and the better you will feel
Removing the visual reminders may give you some ease. Put away photographs, and special knick-knacks. Pack away the presents and the special music. You may want some of these down the road, so just store them for now.
Change the places you go. And your activities. If you used to go to the movies every Friday night, look for something different to do on Friday nights. Try a book signing, a school play, a walk on the beach, 2 hours at the library, or even learning to cook. It doesn't matter what you do on Friday night, just as long as it isn't the movies.
Take on a new project. Volunteer someplace: Big Brothers- Big Sisters,
the hospital, your church, some other church, a little league team, take lessons, %u2026..get the idea? The more active you can be, the more you will distract yourself from the pain, and the better you will feel
Counseling is a good plan.
It can at least get you on the right road.
Friends and family may feel the advice they are offering is the best for you. And much of it may be very good. But, they do have their own stake in the situation, and unavoidably their own bias.
I am not saying don't talk with them. You need good company. But, if they keep bringing things up, and seem to be holding you in the past, they are not good company.
The counselor will be the person to whom you can tell anything and everything . They will pass no jugement. There may, understandably, be things you don't want to tell family or friends. And you don't have to.
Save contacts with friends and family for those changed activities you are going to try. While those activities are a good place to make new friends, going the first few times with someone you know can make it easier. You never know, cousin Joe just might be truly interested in taking that class.
I am not saying don't talk with them. You need good company. But, if they keep bringing things up, and seem to be holding you in the past, they are not good company.
The counselor will be the person to whom you can tell anything and everything . They will pass no jugement. There may, understandably, be things you don't want to tell family or friends. And you don't have to.
Save contacts with friends and family for those changed activities you are going to try. While those activities are a good place to make new friends, going the first few times with someone you know can make it easier. You never know, cousin Joe just might be truly interested in taking that class.
Another thing that can help is a book on relationships.
But, it has to be the right book.
T W Jackson, has written a great book titled "the Magic of Making Up" He has helped thousands people in all aspects of relatoinships.
To get a copy of The Magic of Making Up CLICK HERE .
You will find many ideas about how to put your life back together, and to improve things in the process. And, he gives a cool guarantee: Get your life back or your money. You cannot lose.
To get a copy of The Magic of Making Up CLICK HERE .
You will find many ideas about how to put your life back together, and to improve things in the process. And, he gives a cool guarantee: Get your life back or your money. You cannot lose.
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