How To Get Your Ex Back: Get Back Together In 7 Days

While you are thinking of all the aspects that were causing trouble, I just want to talk about a few things that seem small and pathetic, but are huge relationship murderers.

Possessiveness: This is a dangerous quality that quite literally kills thousands of relationships each day. People that are characterized as possessive don't realize what they are doing. By being over protective, getting jealous, constantly seeking attention etc you are driving your partner away. I'm not insinuating that you are a possessive person, I'm just laying out a quality that destroys relationships.

A few other things that ruin relationships are:
> Jealousy
> Untruthfulness
> Deceit
> Sucking up
> Predictability

Sucking up: Sucking up is basically always agreeing with your partner to make them happy, always being too nice. This drives people crazy, even though they might not admit it. By sucking up you bore your partner to death. Life is a challenge and you should also offer some sort of challenge. I'm not saying you should argue over everything, but you shouldn't agree just to make your partner happy. If you don't agree on something then say it. This is the best solution and it also lets people know who you actually are.

There are certain personality traits that keep your partner attracted to you. Some of them are:
> Confidence
> Humor
> Intelligence
> Creativity
> Thoughtfulness
> Notice significant details
> Unpredictability
> Romantic Imagination

These are just a few that will cause your partner to feel really strong about the love they have for you.

By making use of these traits you send a message out to everyone. The message is that I am my own person, I don't suck up to anybody, I live my life according to my standards and if you don't like that then I don't need you.

By sending this message out to everyone, you are making people sit up and take note that you aren't a person to mess around. This gets peoples attention and keeps them aware. People also find it very attractive.

Of course not everyone can just change the way they are. I'm not saying you must change your personality. I am saying that certain personality traits don't help, while others do. Click here for more info on how to get your ex back.

Before you get hold of your ex and apply the techniques you are about to learn, you need to do 5 things that will help you come to terms with who you are and will make you come across as a stronger person.

1) Toughen Up:
I've spoken about desperate, needy, clingy behavior and how it damages the relationship. So you have got to be strong. Although break ups are hard, it is important to come across as a strong person. You have got to prove it to the world, but most importantly you have got to prove it to yourself.

2) Drastically Reduce Contact:
By calling your ex every five minutes you are annoying them, which is driving them further away. You need to concentrate on your inner game for about a week before contacting him/her. This will give your ex time to think as well.

3) Be Prepared For Intimate Discussion:
There is a reason that your ex is your ex and that reason which is now a problem needs to be resolved. The only way to resolve a problem is to discuss it. A lot of people realize this, but they are too impatient and try to discuss at the wrong time. Discussing a problem too soon will just add fuel to the fire. You need to give it some time.

4) Go Out And Have Fun:
Sitting at home couped up between the blankets isn't helping anyone. You need to go out and have some fun. Call a few friends and make plans. You'll notice that it will help you see the situation more clearly and this will help you think efficiently.

5) Try Out A New You:
Try and be a better person. By that I mean that you should try and improve the qualities that might have ruined the relationship. If you were too possessive, work on being an easy going person that doesn't need others. This will wear off on your ex and she'll notice you are a different person. Remember actions are louder than words, so go out and work on being a better person.

You may have already tried to get your ex to return your calls. It isn't that easy is it?

Two examples of how not to get your ex to return your calls are "John please return my call, this is the 3rd time I've called you. I really need to speak to you." Or "Susan this is an emergency please call me as soon as you get this."

I'm sure you can see what's wrong with both of these so I'm not going to go any further with that.

Here is the correct way to go about getting your ex to return your call:

There are two extremely powerful forces are curiosity & self interest. in order to get your ex to return your call you need to use the power of these to forces combined.

An example of how you could use them are:

"Hi (ex's name) I wanted to let you know that I appreciate what you did for me. Please call me because I want to thank you in person."

Do you notice how this simple phrase uses both curiosity and self interest?

Your ex won't be able to resist. "What did I do?" "What does he/she appreciate?" At the same time the curiosity and self interest is sparked your ex is feeling good because it's a positive message.

This technique works absolute magic, but it can damage your relationship further if it isn't used correctly. You need to make a "set up" before you call your ex. What is it that your ex did that you appreciate? It can be a small thing, but it needs to be plausible.

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