Speaking out about Invisible Illness and Invisible Disability

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Do they look OK to you?

What is an invisible illness or invisible disability? They're often chronic medical conditions that the untrained person in public could not see on first glance. Show your support with a Christmas gift of one of these items, some of them funny or irreverent.

Several chronic conditions have flares, times when the symptoms of a disease are intensified and periods when a person may seem to be better. Regardless, the person always comes first, the abilities.

Think about those with chronic pain or spine, nerve or bone conditions. Mental health issues? There are more digestive system diseases, autoimmune, and other conditions than I could possibly list. As many conditions as there are, there are symptoms that may not be visible, things that people are often trying very hard to keep from being visible. "You can't see my MRI," as one person's T-shirt says.

Invisible illness becomes an issue for the family, a couple addresses it as a team, parents become advocates for their children, adult children for their parents and so on.

Have you ever seen someone who looks like a perfectly healthy, able-bodied person hang a blue placard on the rear view mirror and get out of a car parked in a handicapped spot? How about someone in the pre-board line at the airport? Have you ever made accusations?

I heard a story about a man with an artificial leg who was harassed as he exited his car parked in a handicapped spot. This had happened before. Having had enough, he removed his artificial limb and slammed it on top of his car, yelling back at the person who was pestering him.

Choosing to assume the worst, that the person you see is some kind of a fraud, and making that assumption even worse by taunting the person is unkind, unwise and doesn't make you look very good. The people I know with invisible illnesses and disabilities, myself included, are trying to look good and fighting back. That adds to the fatigue. You may go out to run errands the one bit of the day that you are up to doing something.

This lens is not a primer on invisible illnesses. It's about some of the empowering, informational items that people are creating and wearing to help get through the day.

I'm not in the medical profession and the information in this lens is general and doesn't apply to everyone and every person's condition.

Unseen

Most of these so-called invisible conditions aren't totally and aren't invisible 100% of the time. There are significant flare-ups. There may be a limp, a deficiency that would only show up were someone to spend more than the time it takes to watch you walk a little ways. Sometimes people just aren't looking. But no one is invisible and as time goes by, those who may have felt invisible are speaking out.

Invisible Chronic Illness: A Message of Hope

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Carry items to phyical therapy, etc.

I did all my own stunts, I do all my own stunts

Even if you hadn't been planning on it, you may have done some stunt that day. Even something small may have blossomed, through circumstances, to be a life-changing event and left you disabled in some way permanently or temporarily.

I did all my own stunts: Gym/Physical Therapy Bag bag
I did all my own stunts: Gym/Physical Therapy Bag by ImagineMDD
Create your own bags at Zazzle

Beyond Chaos: One Man's Journey Alongside His Chronically Ill Wife

Beyond Chaos: One Man's Journey Alongside His Chronically Ill Wife
A book we have and recommend

Beyond Chaos: One Man's Journey Alongside His Chronically Ill Wife

Beyond Chaos: One Man's Journey Alongside His Chronically Ill Wife

Amazon Price: $7.85 (as of 06/01/2012)Buy Now

Piburn has written a series of painfully honest essays chronicling his journey of understanding and personal growth after his wife's diagnosis of fybromyalgia, a condition related to arthritis, thrust the role of caregiver upon him.

Piburn, a management communications consultant and former newspaper columnist, uses his own experience and expertise to write a very readable personal narrative of his 14-year journey alongside his wife. Quoting Benjamin Franklin,"Those things that hurt, instruct "Piburn offers insights into the complex relational and communications issues that may arise in this situation.

Also included are short exercises to help the reader get more from the book. A brief list of suggested readings is also provided. Piburn's intelligent and well-written book transcends the specifics of arthritis and will be of value to anyone who shares life with a chronically ill family member. Recommended for consumer health collections.ALisa McCormick, Jewish Hosp. Lib., Cincinnati Copyright 1999 Reed Business Information, Inc. - Amazon

Close Up of Ferragamo's "Invisible Shoe"

Beautiful Universal Design: A Visual Guide

Beautiful Universal Design: A Visual Guide
by Cynthia A. Leibrock and James Evan Terry

Beautiful Universal Design: A Visual Guide

Amazon Price: $129.86 (as of 06/01/2012)Buy Now

Beautiful Universal Design: A Visual Guide

The freedom to go beyond compliance . . . Following in the successful footsteps of the award-winning book, Beautiful Barrier-Free, universal design experts Cynthia A. Leibrock and James Evan Terry present a fresh generation of flexible design solutions in Beautiful Universal Design.

Combining coverage of full design installations for a wide variety of settings with an in-depth examination of individual elements that range from exterior landscaping and approach to interior finishes, furnishings, signage, and more, this superb visual guide is an inspiring idea resource to creatively integrate people of all ages and abilities. -- Amazon

From the Back Cover
The freedom to go beyond compliance . . .

Following in the successful footsteps of the award-winning book, Beautiful Barrier-Free, universal design experts Cynthia A. Leibrock and James Evan Terry present a fresh generation of flexible design solutions in Beautiful Universal Design.

Combining coverage of full design installations for a wide variety of settings with an in-depth examination of individual elements that range from exterior landscaping and approach to interior finishes, furnishings, signage, and more, this superb visual guide is an inspiring idea resource to creatively integrate people of all ages and abilities.

Cure Multiple Sclerosis : Find a cure for MS : Funny T-Shirt

Find a cure before MS gets on my Mom's last nerve

Infant Customized T-Shirt shirt
Infant Customized T-Shirt by TeeThyme
Design a customized tshirt at Zazzle

This infant and children's t-shirt can be customized for any relation...

Invisible MP3 -- Taylor Swift

plus the karaoke version

excerpt from lyrics


... Like shadows in a faded light
Oh we're Invisible
I just wanna look in your eyes and make you realize

I just wanna show you she don't even know you
Baby let me love you let me want you
You just see right through me
But if you only knew me
We could be a beautiful miracle unbelievable instead of just invisible

But You LOOK Good!

A Guide to Understanding and Encouraging People Living with Chronic Illness and Pain

But You LOOK Good! A Guide to Understanding and Encouraging People Living with Chronic Illness and Pain.

A 52 Page Booklet gets to the heart of why our friends and family members have difficulty with continuing illness and pain. It helps them to understand that even though a person with a chronic condition may LOOK good, it does not mean they FEEL good! Moreover, it gives them simple, pragmatic ways to truly be an encouragement, "What to say," "What not to say" and "Why," along with "How to help."

-- Image and text from website

Vintage Poster Arthritis Treatment

Arthritis Patient Being Treated with Stretching Device at Clinic : Available Different sizes, prices, framed & unframed

Working Against Odds: Stories of Disabled Women's Work Lives

Not just 'invisible' conditions. The work environment presents its own situations.

Working Against Odds: Stories of Disabled Women's Work Lives

Amazon Price: $5.00 (as of 06/01/2012)Buy Now

Working Against Odds: Stories of Disabled Women's Work Lives

"An offering motivated by respectful curiosity, admiration, compassion, and the hope of raising public awareness . . ."--Biography: An Interdisciplinary Quarterly

In this well-crafted ethnographic study of disabled women's relationship with work, Mary Grimley Mason describes the viewpoints, struggles, strategies, and triumphs of eighteen women with a range of physical and sensory impairments. She relates how each came to terms with her disability and achieved self-identity and self-sufficiency in an able-bodied world.

Drawing on thirty extensive interviews, Mason skillfully interweaves her own experience of childhood polio with the voices of impaired women across generations and from diverse race, ethnic, class, and work backgrounds.

Although each woman's story and perspective are unique, the compelling narratives in this illuminating and teachable volume reveal shared concerns and feelings about the ways in which the disabled see themselves, how others perceive the impaired, and how our workplace culture perpetuates the double hindrance of gender and disability discrimination.

The women profiled here express in their own words the process of claiming their disability and integrating it into their identity, the adjustment to various dependencies and caregivers, and approaches to coping with social discrimination and marginalization. They also discuss overcoming such obstacles in the workplace as an employer's refusal to grant an interview, lack of accommodations after employment, and negative stereotyping on the job or in job placement.

In these accounts we meet, for example, Debbie, born with cerebral palsy, who struggled to get her family to accept her as she is; Barbara, born with orthopedic problems, who confronted her mother's fear that she would not be employed or find a husband; and Adrienne, blind from birth, who aggressively confronted discrimination in the workplace through litigation.

Taken together, the stories of these ordinary yet remarkable individuals build a sense of community. Working against Odds tells disabled women that they are not alone in grappling with the tremendous barriers to independence and helps able-bodied readers understand the challenging life choices and work experiences of those with impairments. As a whole, the insightful book offers an intimate view of disability history and issues in America. -- Amazon

Invisible Illness/Invisible Disabilities Links

30 Things About My Invisible Illness You May Not Know
We've all seen the list "20 things about me" "50 thing about me you didn't know%u2026" They can actually be interesting if you want to get to know the person better! We'll we've got one I haven't seen anywhere yet, "30 Things About My Invisible Illness You May Not Know." Just copy and paste it below and put it up on your blog, send it to your friends, paste in on Facebook (if it's too long put it in your "notes" section.)
Invisible Illness Awareness Week
Listen to informative podcasts, articles, ongoing discussions and blogs centering about invisible illnesses and disabilities
Can Those with an Invisible Illness Park in the Blue Spots Without Others Seeing Red?
Nearly everyone with an invisible illness has been told, "You don't look disabled to me!" One of my friends replied, "Well, you don't look stupid to me." I just bite my lip to try to prevent the tears from forming, broken-hearted that I appear to be deceptive, when I would do anything to give back this parking perk that I use on a rare occasion.... "Do you know the fine for using someone else's handicapped parking permit is $300?" "That parking spot is saved for the disabled! You should be ashamed of yourself!"
Things People with Invisible Illness DON'T Want to Hear
Certain phrases really annoy a lot of us with chronic illnesses such as fibromyalgia (FMS) and chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS or ME/CFS). While they're usually said with the best of intentions, we hear them so often and they reflect such a lack of true understanding that they're like fingernails on a chalk board. Here are 5 things to avoid saying to someone with FMS, ME/CFS, or other invisible illnesses:
But You Dont Look Sick?
The mission of ButYouDontLookSick.com is to help everyone with a chronic illness or invisible disability, in order for them to live their lives to the fullest and not feel isolated and alone. We believe that our medical circumstances have put us in a unique and understanding position, so that we can help each other through similar difficult times. We hope the information and community on our site can aid people in leading better lives through knowledge, networking, friendship and most of all support.

In addition to the articles in our website and blog, we have grown to include a very active message board and chatroom, as well as an online gift shop. We are excited to see these additions to our site and to watch the ButYouDontLookSick.com community grow and prosper.
30 Things About My Invisible Illness: Six Until Me
It's the meme taking the chronic illness bloggers by storm ... and I wanted to cram this one in before Invisible Illness Week came to a close. Here's my edition of 30 Things About My Invisible Illness You May Not Know.
ChronicBabe.com is an Online Community for Younger Women with Chronic Health Issues
ChronicBabe.com is an online resource for young women with chronic illness. We function as an online chronic illness support group and offer chronic pain resources, as well as a community for anyone living with illness.
Invisible Illness Conference Podcasts
Informative podcasts from 2008. The content is still relevant and it can help you feel less alone.
National Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week Sept 14-20 2009 is held annually in September and uses this forum for our online seminar events on topics about living with chronic illness. Seminars include speakers on subject of relationships advocacy disability application assistance faith parent

Chronic illness help for couples

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"Invisible"

Keep Working Girlfriend!

Rosalind Joffe, Working with chronic illness

This blog and Ms. Joffe's other resources are very motivating and helpful. If you're not familiar with her, I'd suggest you visit her blog and check out her site. Below will be links and an excerpt from her blog.
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Invisible Illness 'Music Video'

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Everything Changes MP3

Staind

Take a listen and if you like, you can click and buy on Amazon

Migraine Headache: "All in My Head"

An Epic Quest to Cure an Unrelenting, Totally Unreasonable, and Only Slightly Enlightening Headache

Migraine Headache: "All in My Head"
An Epic Quest to Cure an Unrelenting, Totally Unreasonable, and Only Slightly Enlightening Headache

All in My Head: An Epic Quest to Cure an Unrelenting, Totally Unreasonable, and Only Slightly Enlightening Headache

Amazon Price: $1.82 (as of 06/01/2012)Buy Now

All in My Head: An Epic Quest to Cure an Unrelenting, Totally Unreasonable, and Only Slightly Enlightening Headache

This is a book we have and recommend.

Imagine the sensation of a fishhook lodged behind your left eye and tugging backwards. Now imagine that you live with that pain 24 hours a day for 15 years. That is Kamen's headache, one that she attempted at first to cure but finally learned to accept. Kamen (Her Way: Young Women Remake the Sexual Revolution) first tried all sorts of drugs-some were addicting, others made her gain 70 pounds in six months; none had any effect on the pain.

She turns to alternative medicine: cranial-sacral adjustments, acupuncture, gluten-free diets, magnets, yoga. Kamen intersperses her account of these increasingly bizarre treatments with a look at how Western medicine, and even feminism, abandons patients with chronic pain and other invisible ailments: since her pain has no discernible physical cause, she has been told it's "all in her head." This book may not be uplifting, but it is undeniably funny.

Kamen's irreverent sense of humor about her pain and herself makes the book a delight to read as she unabashedly pokes fun at the corporate pharmaceutical industry (even while she hopes for a test-tube cure), doctors and other caregivers. Kamen makes the reader understand what it is like to be happy even while one is in pain. © Reed Business Information, ref. to hardcover ed. - Amazon

A Husband, A Wife, & An Illness: Living Life Beyond Chronic Illness

We were living the American dream. But when the illness invaded our lives, it tore those dreams apart and we were thrust into a fight for our survival. In the devastation, we lost our home, our savings, our cars, and even our dogs. We lost everything but each other.But we are surviving, and thriving, although it sometimes feels as though we are in a mental, physical, and spiritual battle with an invisible opponent. In this uniquely written book, we both tell our own story.

But related in a personal tone that moves seamlessly from the emotions of a spouse to motivating coach, this book does more than share a story, each chapter presents practical tips on living a life beyond illness, for both the care giving spouse and the spouse-patient.If you and your spouse are facing chronic illness, especially a severe chronic illness, you will instantly relate to the chapters in this book. You will understand the odd sense of humor we have about things, and you'll feel us when we cry in the darkest moments. -- Amazon

About the Author
William July, Ph.D., is a popular nationally bestselling relationship author. He is frequently interviewed on television and the radio, as well as being regularly quoted in magazines and newspapers. Dr. July is a member of the American Psychological Association, the Society for Personality and Social Psychology, and the International Association for Relationship Research.

A Husband, A Wife, & An Illness: Living Life Beyond Chronic Illness

Amazon Price: $11.76 (as of 06/01/2012)Buy Now

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  • freyalou Dec 20, 2011 @ 2:17 pm | delete
    I really enjoyed this lens. "You look so well!" gets old very quickly. If we looked the way we felt, we'd probably frighten small children. :)

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