Is Spanking Your Kids Okay?
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Is Spanking Your Child Abuse?
Some say that society is going down the drain because time outs and grounding have become the norm for punishment instead of a firm spanking. Others strongly believe that spanking does more damage and good.
So what do you think? Is spanking an acceptable form of punishment?
Pros and Cons of Spanking
Cons of spanking- Some parents take spanking to a level of abuse that is anti-productive and can scare children for the rest of their lives. There is a fine line between spanking and abuse and some people don't know where that line is.
Is spanking your child okay?
Is a spanking an acceptable form of punishment for children?
Yes a firm spanking is acceptable
Jennifer Cole says:
I mean no disrespect to Maria but there IS definitely a difference between spanking and abusing. My parents spank me. Abuse is when you do it to a level of actually scarring the child (mentally, and or physically).Do you see what firm explanation of what they did wrong has done to children nowadays ? Kids drink have sex do drugs and get pregnant because they believe their parents will do nothing to them. I am an A student and my parents spanked me and i am a great child, i am terrified to think about what I would be like if they did not punish me!
megamom says:
I agree with Maria in the "No" post, It is NEVER EVER okay to slap, hit, beat, or intimidate your children! However, I believe people are confusing a spanking and physical disciplne with the abuse and tyranny of an out of control adult. Spanking on the bottom and only the bottom, after a firm explanation of wrongdoing is very effective and also builds character in a child. The difference between spanking and hitting is the atmosphere and the purpose. An adult that hits a child is merely venting his/her anger. Instead of being the adult they throw a tantrum and resort to violence. Spanking is an established consequence delivered by a loving parent to a child who is bent on rebelling and disobedience. Hitting is inconsistent and based on emotion. Spanking is consistent and done based on logical consequence. If everyone could distinguish between the two then there would be no controversy over this issue!
eva says:
i am 12 years old and i still get spankings. even though it hurts a lot it works. people say i am crazy that i agree with it but after one whipping i listen to what my parents have to say and we work it out. my parents usually use a belt, their hand, a hanger. or a padle. those are spanking items. it you are using any thing else that is beating. i dont suffer with depresion or anything and i have been getting spanked my whole life.
Liz says:
And I'll clarify my definition of spanking (some people have different definitions). I firm slap on the butt or on the thigh. No punching, demeaning remarks, or whatever else. THAT is abuse.
Liz says:
Yes. If you compare the children now with the children 50 years ago you'll see a huge difference. There once was a magical time when teachers were allowed to pop students on the hands with rulers or their behinds would get paddled with paddles. I'm not a monster and not a child abuser. Whenever I spank my children they know why I'm spanking them after we discuss the issue. I'm a young parent so when I was in school I heard all the the talks about abuse in school and I tried to use that and run with it. Children think they know everything and some refuse to believe it, but yes a child will ring the victim bell of being abused when he/she knows that is NOT the case. I know. I did it.
No way spanking is abuse
Joseph says:
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Corey says:
NO.
Maria says:
I was abused as a child, not just by being spanked but also slapped, punched, and kicked by my father. He was a police officer so he got away with hitting me and my oldest brother (he had even punished up with that black stick the police officers have) the most till I was about 11. It got soo bad that he ended up getting so use to hitting us that the first time my mother (once and a while also hit), oldest brother (always abused), sister (rarely ever hit), other older brother (spoiled peice of crap, whom my father never hit only loved), and I(also always abused) tried to stand up for our selves and screamed at him, he descided to get out his gun and threaten to kill my mother, oldest brother, and i. So as you can tell I think its an awful thing to hit your children, i know be experience, and it causes issues in the future. I am currently being treated for depression, anxiouty, migraines, heart problems, due to 11 years of abuse.
Heather426 says:
No, never, unless you want to teach them to hit, and that might makes right.
GrowWear says:
Nope. Not acceptable. Children need love, care, and understanding.
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Nora
Sep 21, 2011 @ 11:39 pm | delete
- Spanking should be used rarely, but when its used it should be a big event. I recommend parents take down their pants and make them bend over their knee. Its a good reminder of who is in charge and how big a line that the child crossed by misbehaving. Let the child shed a few tears.
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Quickcutters
May 21, 2011 @ 2:46 am | delete
- There is better ways then spanking, but if done the right way a pop on the rear isn't going to hurt them.
Come on look at these kids today. Totally out of control and only going to get worse.
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Heather426
Dec 15, 2010 @ 4:13 pm | delete
- Children learn what they SEE. Be a good person and they will too.
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rwoman Dec 12, 2010 @ 6:50 pm | delete
- Immediate response is key...none of this when your father gets home or when we get home business. Also, always, always, always follow through with the promised repercussion. Kids aren't stupid and if you don't follow up they will quickly learn they don't need to either. I'm also a big believer in explaining what exactly the issue at hand is and we always point out that we love Noah but we are disappointed in his choice (to lie, to be mean, to be irresponsible, etc.).
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ZablonMukuba Nov 1, 2010 @ 11:07 pm | delete
- i was beaten when i was growing up so i will beat my kids
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hlkljgk Sep 16, 2010 @ 8:10 pm | delete
- just imagine how scary it is from their perspective.
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Megamom
Feb 27, 2012 @ 10:39 pm | delete
- I was spanked and it wasn't scary at all! That is the lamest thing I hear people say!
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The_Health_Lady
Sep 8, 2010 @ 8:59 pm | delete
- My parents have never, ever lifted a finger against me and I have always remembered that. Positive reinforcement is what works best.
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