Why dating is not the best process for spouse selection

The secret to a blissful married life is not romance alone but the security and emotional intimacy that couples find in the sacred bond of marriage. At first glance this statement seems to support the practise of dating to find yourself a life partner. Dating, however, is not as efficient as people believe. It has a number of shortcomings which prevents people from knowing potential partners for who they truly are. Let's elaborate, dating is flawed because people are on their best behavior, looks etc. when they are on a date ? that is not their true selves but how they want the world to perceive them. Thus, on a date it is very difficult to truly know a person, and one might be misled by the fancy feathers the other person puts on show. May be, lady luck might bless you and you might find the love of your life, but the chances of that happening are quite slim, look at the divorce statistics if you want reassurance.

Dating also generally leads to only passing and transitory relationships as opposed to something long-term, stable, and lifelong. This is because the entire process is based primarily upon physical attraction and once the romantic element wanes - which inevitably it does after a year or two - the relationship seems empty as there is no
familial compatibility.

But whatever may be against dating, surely it is romantic, one may argue. Those romantic candlelit dinners, the passionate teasing, the sweet whisperings on each first date?that's passionate romance, isn't it? But doesn't it cheapen and detract from the romance of it all when one goes on the same river cruise every few weeks with a different The One? Doesn't selling your heart so often and for so cheap reduce the value of your love? Moreover, illicit relationships and troubled romances leave their prints on our lives and continue to affect one's future as well.

The obvious solution to this dating conundrum is the one advocated by Islam ? that spouse selection should be the responsibility of the man, woman and their families. The involvement of the family serves multiple purposes ? it enables the prospective bride and groom to know each other and enables their families to be compatible. This process prevents the mistakes most make in the heat of passion and, because old and wiser members are involved, it ensures that the young people are well matched. Moreover, as both the families are involved, the couple has a wide safety net constituted of family members who are always there for them.

Design Molvi stands for these values of loving romance in a stable and
long-term relationship where islamic gifts are exchanged and in a jocular jibe designed to stimulate conversation and thinking they've released the ?I only do Edible Dates? Islamic t-shirts design. This joins the ?husband & wife: partners in faith? design which makes the profound statement that marriage is both a social, religious, and spiritual union and something encouraged in Islam. Design Molvi, by creating a piece of garment that brings forth the Qur'anic message that one's spouse is a garment for oneself, has taken a sincere step to enliven the traditional values. To see our range of islamic clothing, please visit www.DesignMolvi.com