How to seduce any woman

What dictates how successful a person can become in any given field? Is it chance, fortune, good luck? No.

Take an athlete for example, regardless of their chosen discipline, they must WORK at becoming the best. Even if they got lucky with their genes, have a good build or quick reactions, it is absolutely vital they learn, understand and PRACTICE whatever sport it is they want to master. If they don't, they will never be number one, or even anywhere close.

The very same principle applies to attracting and seducing women, quite simply, the looks or assets you were or weren't blessed with naturally mean nothing if you cannot master the psychological side of the game.

For example, there's a guy who looks like Brad Pitt's better looking long-lost brother, his body, hair and dress-sense are all flawless. But, when he opens his mouth - nothing. His attitude, personality and character fall completely flat and instantly put off every woman in the room. He's gone from being a mysterious, handsome stranger, to an unexciting and tedious guy, who's good for nothing except looking at and admiring - which gets very boring, very fast.

Now, the reverse. There's a guy who doesn't immediately stand out of the crowd because of what he looks or dresses like or because of the car he's just rolled up in. Women are fairly neutral towards him, they neither feel attracted to him or turned off. Then, he talks and it's like a fire has been lit, he's fun, charming and great to be around - in short, massively attractive.

If you want to be that first guy, I don't know what to suggest, except perhaps painful, expensive surgery. But if you'd rather resemble the second man (as any sane guy would), you need to do something a little different - you need to eradicate self-limiting beliefs.

Self-limiting beliefs are the internal thoughts and feelings that hold you back and restrict your ability to succeed. They're irrational and counter-productive thoughts that everyone has, but very few people try to get rid of - which is why so few men are truly successful with women. Here are a couple of examples of self-limiting beliefs:

1. "Nah, she's too good-looking. She wouldn't be interested in a guy like me."

2. "Women can sense inexperience and won't give a guy the time of day if they think he's not sophisticated or experienced."

3. "Girls only want sex with strings attached and would never consider sleeping with me unless I have money or a powerful job."

4. "That girl's way too popular - just look at the guys who are already all over her. She's rejecting them so would definitely say no to me."

The crazy thing with self-limiting beliefs is that they only restrict YOU and you alone. They do this because they are not logical, true facts that are widely accepted as fundamental truths. They're manifested in your mind because you feel nervous and apprehensive - it's your body's way of protecting itself, just like it would have thousands of years ago to stop you getting into physical danger. These days, the only danger is that you miss a golden opportunity to hook up with a great, sexy girl.

Here are 3 simple rules to always remember, use them to get rid of self-limiting beliefs.

Rule 1. Ground yourself in the present and don't think about the past or potential future. If you're in a bar looking at a girl from afar, forget about times gone by that you cocked up a first impression. Furthermore, don't try to predict what could go wrong or awry. Your goal, of meeting and getting together with a hot female, is a positive one - so keep all thoughts before, during and after meeting her positive, too.

Rule 2. Don't let other people mould your perception of yourself and the situation you're in. Forget about the guys around you, all trying to impress girls and assert themselves as alpha males. When you show a care-free, easy-going attitude to how to move, talk and behave you become infinitely more attractive to women than all the men who are blatantly trying too hard.

Rule 3. Let negative thoughts and phrases, like those above, slip completely from your consciousness. Looks, wealth and social status mean little when they aren't accompanied by a strong, attractive persona and personality. Let your words and confident body language take precedence and forget all about superficial possessions and all-too-common "good looks."

Learn more about how to rid yourself of self-limiting beliefs and doubts in HypnoDate

Most men aren't skilful or successful when it comes to meeting and dating women. There are two main reasons for this: they don't get out there and sell themselves, meet women and make connections. And when, once in every blue moon, they do try it on with a girl, they fall flat on their faces, not knowing how to handle the situation, the conversation, the interaction and attraction.

There's a single word that ties these two reasons for failure together, it's rejection.

Men who would love to meet and date a beautiful girl or two choose not to go out and actually try to make it happen, on the most part, because of a deep-seated fear of rejection. They hate the idea that they might get shot down and embarrassed. And they know that if they try their hardest and STILL get rejected, they definitely have no hope with women, now or ever.

So, they prefer to stay at home with the vague ambition that one day they might make something happen.

On the other hand, there are men out there that do try to meet and get together with girls - and, unfortunately, they get rejected every now and then. Once it's happened a couple of times, those brush-offs take their toll on the guy: his confidence dwindles, his sense of humor begins to fade, and most noticeably, his motivation vanishes. He becomes like 80% of the rest of the male population: a dreamer and not a do'er.

The first thing you need to do is recognise the POSITIVE function rejection serves. You need to define it in your mind. What is it and what does it mean?

Rejection often comes in the following forms:

1. You've been talking to a girl for a while and things seem to be going well but when you ask to see her again or suggest swapping numbers she suddenly freezes up on you and shuts you out.

2. You try to get talking to a girl but she only gives you the minimal amount of recognition possible and doesn't allow you to start a real conversation.

3. You've been on a couple of dates with a girl but have yet to take it further. When you try to progress the relationship, she clams up and becomes distant and seemingly uninterested.

Whatever type of rejection you've experience or fear the most, you need to fully recognise what it is. It's a sign that one or more components of your game - that is, your ability to be successful with women - isn't functioning correctly - and, most importantly, that you need to DO something to fix it.

The key point most men consistently miss is they think being rejected is the end of the line, game over. In fact, it's simply a changing of the tracks on your path to success. Consider the following important points whenever you feel rejection negatively controlling your ability to do well with the opposite sex:

1. If a girl rejects your advances when you introduce yourself or try to start a conversation, it means she has decided that, for whatever reason, you aren't someone she wants to get to know. However, remember this absolutely critical fact: she's made her decision based on how you presented yourself in the short amount of time she knew/knows you. Rethinking how you act, speak and behave can produce a reaction that falls at the complete opposite end of the scale from rejection and failure: one of success and triumph. Don't let a single brush-off impact your motivation or confidence, simply see it as a sign that you need to alter and rethink your strategy.

2. Never take things personally when you're playing the seduction game. Although a girl might not be interested in you, it doesn't mean she's necessarily right to feel that way or correct in the assumption she's made of you. People make snap decisions and have knee-jerk reactions to people, places and situations every day, in the positive AND negative.

Your goal is to make a good first impression and exude a strong sense of confidence and relaxation. Once you do that, your bad luck seems to magically disappear and a new long-term streak of good fortune begins. (Which is actually thanks to the fact that you didn't let rejection get you down and instead used it as a sign that you needed to change something.)

If you can remember the concepts above and use them when 'out in the field', you'll notice an almost hypnotic effect most men out there would kill to have themselves. Because, you see, it's when you yourself can brush-off the brush-offs that real success happens and also what leads to you meeting and getting to know the girl of your dreams.

W. Wilcox is the author of HypnoDate - a revolutionary manual that teaches men how to use special hypnotic principles to become masters of attraction and seduction, without the need for good looks, money or a flash car