Learning to Let GO
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DID YOU KNOW it's Not Just the BAD Relationships We Have to Release?
Its Been said Letting Go Grows Harder with Time
The Longer You Hold on the Harder it Becomes to Release the Relationship
No matter how strong you are, walking a way from a lover hurts more and more each time
Most people associate walking a way from a relationship with the relationship having been a "bad experience"
It becomes more complicated when this is just not the case. Sometimes its the relationships that seem almost perfect that we end up having to walk away from
What are some reasons that someone would have to walk away from a seemingly "good" relationship? Find out Here
WHEN YOU KNOW IT'S TIME TO LET GO...
Why is letting GO so hard?
Most people (including me in the past) think that Bad Relationships are the only kind we need to let GO of. NOT always 100% true.
Sometimes relationships have served their purpose and have completely blossomed to the fullest potential in due season. As we know all relationships aren't meant to remain with us for a lifetime.
There are times that you find yourself in a relationship that no longer works for you but contrary to common belief the reasons may shock you.
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5 REASONS you may have to LET GO of a GOOD RELATIONSHIP
Sometimes its even the GOOD relationships we have to release...

1. EMOTIONAL BAGGAGE - Women are normally accused of having it but the notion that emotional baggage is a female thing just isn't true. Men can carry loads from their past preventing them from moving forward in a healthy relationship with you. If everything is near perfect in your relationship but your partner repeatedly compares you to a lover in the long lost past... You may have to release the relationship.
2. DIFFERENCE IN FUTURE GOALS - No two people on earth are the same but its very important to be some what on the same page regarding what you both want out of life. If one person is busy with building a financial empire and the other is primarily concerned with having a family the difference in immediate/future goals may cause conflict. At times opposites attract and create balance but other times they clash and cause frustration. If you find yourself wanting more time with your partner and wanting them to be more focused on quality time with family and spending time at home and they seem to have workaholic tendencies it may be time to let go.
3. "I DON'T WANT KIDS" - If your partner tells you upfront or sometime during the relationship that they don't want children and you definitely want children it would be a good idea to stop the relationship before it get's to far.
4. THE BOND ISN'T THERE - Sometimes you can get along great with someone and the relationship may even seem "to perfect" at times but deep down inside you don't feel this person is a true friend. Any good relationship must have a foundation and if the friendship is lacking there will be problems down the line. Friends support each other. If you find that your partner isn't supporting your goals in life they may not be a true friend.
5. REFUSAL TO CHANGE - Our relationships are our mirrors. They tell us more about who we are and more about what we need to improve about ourselves. Convincing yourself that you can change someone only causes frustration. We can't make people change for the better. The desire to change has to already be present in your partner. If you hit a road block with your partner and it's having an adverse effect on the relationship you may have to walk away.
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Emotional Baggage

Masquerading Baggage
Posted by Gori Rajkumari
Today, boys and girls, I want to talk about Baggage.
Not just any baggage mind you. No.
Not the type of baggage that holds clothes and toiletries and a box full of your great Aunt Marge's doilies. No.
Today, I want to talk about Emotional Baggage. A special brand of hard shell, 360 degree spinning, expandable baggage that people lug with them pretty much everywhere they go.
Apparently there is a flaw in this baggage. The zipper and clasps are easily opened or broken and the contents spew out to cover anything close by and sometimes are projected onto passerby's or innocent bystanders. Sometimes those contents are transported all the way over a sea and continent to clutter up the lives of loved one's far-far away.
And sometimes this baggage doesn't come in pretty, designer colors. No.
Mostly totally invisible, so that you never know exactly where it is or how much it contains. Tripping and falling is a common occurrence around these items. Major faux-pas have occurred because of them. Whole relationships have been destroyed over them.
And yet still, with the imminent danger and threat of these items, no one is willing to do anything to either lessen the load of each piece or to rid themselves of it at all.
Associated with emotional baggage are the places where they are dumped. These are usually a friend or family member with whom a person trusts and loves. It is with them that one will dump their emotional baggage off with for safe keeping, until such time as that person dumps the emotional baggage back in their lap.
I am such a person. I currently have the great pleasure to acknowledge that I am the keeper of not less than five pieces of emotional baggage. All of which I have stacked up next to my bed on a trolley so that when I wake in the morning, they can easily follow me about my day.
I however, do not intend on giving this emotional baggage back.
I have decided not to be that kind of person.
Instead, I've decided to unpack each piece. Evaluate the contents. Throw away the useless. Mend the useful. Polish everything. And then present them back to the original owners, squeaky clean, positively charged and ready for a new day.
I'm not yet sure what to do with are the emotional baggage husks that are left behind like residue in a bathtub. They clutter my mind and are very heavy to move. You would think it would be the content that made them heavy, but no. It's almost like the implications of what they are, why they were handed to you, are the real reasons for their heaviness and girth.
They weigh heavily.
For now, I think I'll put them down.
Later, when I've thought on it more, I'll let you know the conclusion.
Side note: Perhaps the answer would be to never leave your emotional baggage with someone you love.
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What DO YOU Think?
Is it Healthy to Remain "Just Friends" After a Break Up?

Yes!
Norma_Budden says:
It depends on whose health is in question. When children are concerned - and when your partner was one of your best friends to begin with - it's healthier to remain friends. Otherwise, there's just too much potential for friction and children get caught in the middle.
However, for starting new relationships, it may make a potential partner feel insecure - though the right person would understand, especially if a family was involved. After all, what would make you feel better: your partner being friends with his/her ex or being argumentative and causing all kinds of friction in your life? I choose the former.
Furthermore, some people realize they don't have chemistry. Why should they lose a good friendship just because they took a chance on dating and it didn't work out? It doesn't seem fair.
I-sparkle says:
As long as both people really are past the point of wanting a more intimate relationship.
Damon says:
My ex and I remained friendly but her new boyfriend doesn't think it's cool for us to still talk to each other. Isn't it possible for ex's just to be platonic friends?
NO!
DallasNicole says:
Hi Damon,
I think it is possible for ex's to be platonic friends but someone almost always still has feelings and over time as each person moves on to a new relationship it can be really hard for the new partner to understand the friendship. I think its okay as long as everyone involved is secure and comfortable with the situation. But rarely do you come across people who are 100% comfortable. Blessings to you! Thanks for sharing
Victory says:
I agree with you it's not healty to try and be just friend.
DallasNicole says:
It can be possible but very unhealthy at times! One person in this friendship is most likely hoping for another chance to be lovers. When this doesn't happen hearts can be broken and the friendship can be ruined for good!
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