How to make life changing decisions

Just as people are different, so are their styles of decision making. Each person is a result of all of the decisions made in their life to date. Recognizing this, here are some tips to enhance your decision making batting average.

Do not make decisions that are not yours to make.

When making a decision you are simply choosing from among alternatives. You are not making a choice between right and wrong.

Avoid snap decisions. Move fast on the reversible ones and slowly on the non-reversible.

Choosing the right alternative at the wrong time is not any better than the wrong alternative at the right time, so make the decision while you still have time.

Do your decision making on paper. Make notes and keep your ideas visible so you can consider all the relevant information in making this decision.

What if I make a wrong decision, seems to be a universal question that we all have asked ourselves from time to time. This question often comes up when we have a tough decision to make and either decision we make has consequences which we preceive to be somewhat balanced, however we feel that there is truly a right decision and a wrong decision and we fear choosing the wrong decision. Why do we have this fear of making a wrong decision? Simple really, if we make what we preceive to be a bad decision, then we own that decision, it's our responsibility, we may have to admit that we made a mistake, we may feel that our reputation will be tarnished, etc. So instead of making a bad or wrong decision we play mental tennis with our decisions, bouncing back and forth on which decision is the best one to make. This type of stalling usually causes a great deal of stress, which has an impact on our mental and physical health and may even cause more angst in our life because delaying some decisions can create bigger issues.

The key to making decisions is to make one. Make your decision based on gathered facts and projected outcome and most of all based on what your true inner voice tells you. You know your gut feeling, your intuition. The key is to be able to discern gut feeling from ego. Our ego often tells us to go against what we intuitivly know is right. When making a decision always go with your gut feelings and know that even if your decision at first turns out to be the wrong one, trust in the Universe that there are no accidents and that there is a purpose for the decision which you chose to make.

The bottom line is, if you listen to your inner voice and you trust in yourself, then you know that you can't make a wrong decision. Your decision will always be right, even if at first it does not seem to be.

Sometimes we look around at our lives and wonder what we ever did that landed us in THIS mess. Well, we made choices along the road that we took and those choices had consequences. Those consequences are what we live with every day. And each day that we live we continue to make more choices. So, if our lives are not exactly where we want them to be, maybe we should change the way we make choices. Listening to older folks talk, I often wonder if they realize that they really did choose to be where they are at the time. Some of them are so bitter and angry in their lives. They have no understanding of how they got there, and they blame everyone else for being where they are, but they made the choices in their lives themselves. Then I look at my own life and wonder at the choices I've made.

It's the reason and the situation behind the choice that often gets us into trouble. Looking back at my life, there were times when I made choices based on the situation of the moment, and not on the basis of my personal life goals. Some of these choices are necessary, but more often than not, making a choice in the moment isn't a good idea. Choices made without a conscious view of where the result will be taking you, are the choices that leave you wondering how you got there. Those are often the choices that you 'blame' others for making, though you made the choice yourself. The circumstances were not of your design, therefore you didn't think about your choice. You allowed circumstances to make the choice for you. It wasn't that you didn't make the choice, but rather that you didn't make a conscientious choice based on where you wanted to be. Your choice was in part a default, because of circumstances, you allowed your choice to be made by the situation rather than conscientiously deciding to follow your life goals.

The next time you're faced with a big decision in life, look no further than yourself and your past for guidance. As long as you never let a decision cost you something that is uniquely you, you will always make the right decision. Screw money - it's not you. If a decision costs you money (or possessions, or whatever), you'll get over it. However, if it costs you something that you love, you'll be like me and wake up one morning wishing that you hadn't made such critical mistakes.

Do what is in your heart and you will always make the RIGHT CHOICE , But I have many things that are in myself that are truly important to me so what then you ask .. You have to decide who you are being by making that choice, you cannot sit on the fence as by doing nothing you are in fact doing something. We often asks ourselves these complex questions like do I take this job or that one, do I stay in this relationship or move on, and so on. The key is that we have to go with what we feel is the best decisions for us and not for other people, do what we want to do and not what others want us to do. If we stay true to ourselves and our dreams then we can never go wrong and never fail.